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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women
July 22, 2009 at
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Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
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i dont understand the double standard
You bought a new cooking pan (that's what those things are called right?), your husband decides he doesn't like it because it's ugly/out-of-focus/too-big/not-the-right-color and throws it out. Would you be mad?
If you answer "yes", I'd say "this whole 'mine' attitude does feel a little controlling and odd, though. I just don't understand it."
Oh, and you bet your ass those pans are 'ours' and he's free to use them as much as he likes and make me dinner, thanks!
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I'll give you a better analogy, since his wife didnt' throw out the camera.
You worked for a long time making a signature dish in a cooking pan. Your husband comes along, and decides that since the cooking pan is "joint" property, and throws out the contents of the pan in the garbage can. Would you be mad?
You probably would, because you put the effort into making the food (i.e. taking the picture) in joint property, and then your husband comes along and throws it out (erases it). But why? It's not "yours" since you don't understand that whole "mine" attitude?
Oh, and you bet your ass those pans are 'ours' and he's free to use them as much as he likes and make me dinner, thanks!
Well, other than that whole taking a dick up the ass thing for the guy.
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I'll give you a better analogy, since his wife didnt' throw out the camera.
You worked for a long time making a signature dish in a cooking pan. Your husband comes along, and decides that since the cooking pan is "joint" property, and throws out the contents of the pan in the garbage can. Would you be mad?
You probably would, because you put the effort into making the food (i.e. taking the picture) in joint property, and then your husband comes along and throws it out (erases it). But why? It's not "yours" since you don't understand that whole "mine" attitude?
I don't think deleting a picture that (hopefully) wasn't important to him, that he took in passing, is quite the same thing as a prized dish that she spent hours on. I don't see how it's the same in that the picture clearly hurt and bothered her - did her cooking for him hurt or bother him? They're two completely different situations.
In the exact same comparison - she takes a picture of some hot guy as she's sitting next to him on the beach - and he deletes it... I don't see the big deal. If he felt that posessive of that picture, I do see a huge problem with that. Why was the picture of that random woman in a bikini so important to him?