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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women
July 22, 2009 at
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Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
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I don't think she deleted it to "get back" at him. If it were me, that's not why I would have deleted it. You're putting thoughts into her head.
Would it be right for your husband to throw out your favorite sweater (without asking/telling you) because he thought it made you look like a slut and other men are lusting after you while on a family vacation while sitting right next to the kiddos?
Rammy knew she felt that way about the pictures and kept them anyway. Yes, she should have talked to him about deleting them, but is it really that giant of a leap from him knowing they upset her to thinking to delete them on his own?
You sound like a 'right fighter' Max. Do fights between you and your wife carry on forever or only until she gives up?
There comes a point when something isn't worth fighting about anymore regardless of the principal - especially when you're both in the wrong.
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Rammy knew she felt that way about the pictures and kept them anyway. Yes, she should have talked to him about deleting them, but is it really that giant of a leap from him knowing they upset her to thinking to delete them on his own?
In the 6+ years that we've known each other we never gave each other the silent treatment for 24 hours or however long rammy and his wife gave each other the cold shoulder. but then again, they've been married longer than I've even known my wife
As for other people
Would it be right for your husband to throw out your favorite sweater (without asking/telling you) because he thought it made you look like a slut and other men are lusting after you while on a family vacation while sitting right next to the kiddos?
yes, it would be "wrong" for him to do that. Instead, he should have better communication skills and have approached me about his concerns.
Although one should question why I'm wearing a slutty sweater in the first place. If I am wearing something like that and seeking attention in that way on purpose other men, then my husband has a darn good reason to throw that sweater
away.
It would be one thing if it was a pic of the kids while the skanks were standing nearby and accidentally were in the pic (and legitimately so, not just for him to get away with later) but to obviously take pics like that is asking for it and I don't blame her one bit. Just like I wouldn't blame my husband for being mad if I was wearing something slutty for the purposes of attracting other men.
In the 6+ years that we've known each other we never gave each other the silent treatment for 24 hours or however long rammy and his wife gave each other the cold shoulder. but then again, they've been married longer than I've even known my wife
Bugs me to no end when my husband brings up something that happened weeks or even months ago. It's like, if you were mad about this weeks/months ago, why on earth didn't you bring it up so we could deal with it weeks/months ago?
As for other people
yes, it would be "wrong" for him to do that. Instead, he should have better communication skills and have approached me about his concerns.
Although one should question why I'm wearing a slutty sweater in the first place. If I am wearing something like that and seeking attention in that way on purpose other men, then my husband has a darn good reason to throw that sweater
away.
It would be one thing if it was a pic of the kids while the skanks were standing nearby and accidentally were in the pic (and legitimately so, not just for him to get away with later) but to obviously take pics like that is asking for it and I don't blame her one bit. Just like I wouldn't blame my husband for being mad if I was wearing something slutty for the purposes of attracting other men.
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