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Today, a black lady asked me if I was racist. Very long... Okay, go crazy.

3,834 187 July 24, 2009 at 03:56 PM in Rant
tl;dr? gtfo then

So I have this training thing this week with a morning class and an afternoon class. Two other people are in the morning class that are also in the afternoon class (plus me) After the first class ended I waited for the (black) girl to come out and I asked her what she was going to do for the break which was three hours long. She said she didn't know but she did not have a car. I said that's okay, I do.

So we went to my car and ended up at Panera. On the way there she asked me where I lived and I told her, and I mentioned how I hated the city and she said yeah you'd probably do better in a less diverse place. (Side note: I don't like the city because there is no grass, its loud, smelly, and there are too many people) I also mentioned that I liked Indian food because there was a place in the plaza. She said she was surprised that I liked 'cultural food'. At that point I knew she thought I was racist.

Once in Panera we started studying for our exam thing and this happened.
Her: Can I asked you a question?
Me: Sure
Her: Are you racist?
Me: ....No?
Her: Of course if you were, you wouldn't say yes.
So I stare at her.. And say nothing.
Her: When you all talk about asians do you group them together or put them into separate categories?
Me: Well what do you mean 'you all'?
Her: You know, White people.
Me: Uhmmm.. Well that question would be like me asking you if all black people like peanut butter and jelly. You can't answer that because you haven't met all black people.
Her: I know, but white people (blablalba, I forget, something stupid.)
Me: Okay.. Well I'll answer the question for myself, because that's the only person I can answer it for.
I answered it.

We stopped talking about race finally and talked about other less awkward stuff.
Then she asked me to drive her home. I said sure because I didn't want her to think I WAS racist..

So then after class

On the ride home, she starts talking about Jews (I mentioned I was raised Jewish) and then she asked me why Jewish parents are so overbearing. I was so farking angry at this point so I counted to three and answered. I explained that you cannot say that all Jewish families have overbearing parents, and that mine are not, but they do want what is best for me. This went on for a bit and I was soooo angry. Eventually the conversation slowed down and then we were at her house.

As I pulled up she asked me if I could pick her up and drop her off Mon and Tues.

I said yes

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07-24-2009 at 05:07 PM.
07-24-2009 at 05:07 PM.
I totally would not do her any favors. this picking her up is costing you time and money. heck with her Angry
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jcisking1
07-24-2009 at 05:22 PM.
07-24-2009 at 05:22 PM.
Why do there have to be races? We wouldn't have any of these stupid problems if everybody was white. Lightning
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justinem1
07-24-2009 at 05:35 PM.
07-24-2009 at 05:35 PM.
Quote from BostonGirl :
I'm sorry I wouldnt pick her ass up.Nono2

Hell I wouldnt have even drove her home. You were being nice to her and she acted like that. Fark that.shake head
Yeah, i woulda left her at Panera.
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acesmuzic | Staff
07-24-2009 at 05:38 PM.
07-24-2009 at 05:38 PM.
im late to the party but i agree with most of the others here....it sounds like she was the racist (or at least ignorant....) one in the convo and you Rock for being the bigger person and not going off on her.

that being said i dont think you owe her anything and definitely shouldnt be picking her up anymore, esp given that its so far out of your way!
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07-24-2009 at 05:49 PM.
07-24-2009 at 05:49 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :

But I feel bad because her taxi costs 15 dollars each way.
That's not your problem. She is an adult, she is not your friend or someone that you need to be doing favors for, let her pay the $15 each way.
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07-24-2009 at 05:54 PM.
07-24-2009 at 05:54 PM.
Quote from jenni. :
I agree with BG..I wouldn't have taken her anywhere. I wonder if you had gotten angry and said you WOULDN'T pick her up, if she'd have been like, "See? Racist." I think it was a really crappy question to ask you when you were being nothing but nice and SHE was badmouthing others.

I think I would have said "I dislike everyone equally." Stick Out Tongue
I agree with this. I think it was her intent all along. Using the race card to guilt you into doing something.
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AggieMom
07-24-2009 at 06:02 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:02 PM.
Will you be working with her in the future? If not, give her the finger tomorrow and tell her she can find a non-racist ride. And then tell her good luck with that.
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07-24-2009 at 06:04 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:04 PM.
Quote from AggieMom :
Will you be working with her in the future? If not, give her the finger tomorrow and tell her she can find a non-racist ride. And then tell her good luck with that.

It's not tomorrow its mon and tuesday, and no we'll be working at two different programs.. She's supposed to call on Sunday to confirm.. I just don't know if I can tell her no. It's not in my nature to stand up for myself and it is in my nature to avoid conflict.
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07-24-2009 at 06:05 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:05 PM.
Quote from AggieMom :
Will you be working with her in the future? If not, give her the finger tomorrow and tell her she can find a non-racist ride. And then tell her good luck with that.
i agree except i'll omit the good luck part. and Secret you mean monday & tuesday. tomorrow's saturday.

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It's not tomorrow its mon and tuesday, and no we'll be working at two different programs.. She's supposed to call on Sunday to confirm.. I just don't know if I can tell her no. It's not in my nature to stand up for myself and it is in my nature to avoid conflict.
i'll call her for you.
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07-24-2009 at 06:05 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:05 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :
It's not tomorrow its mon and tuesday, and no we'll be working at two different programs.. She's supposed to call on Sunday to confirm.. I just don't know if I can tell her no. It's not in my nature to stand up for myself and it is in my nature to avoid conflict.
Then tell her you'll take her this time, but in the future you think it'd be better for both of you if she found another ride. And remember, you can only be taken advantage of if you allow it to happen.
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07-24-2009 at 06:06 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:06 PM.
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i agree except i'll omit the good luck part. and Secret you mean monday & tuesday. tomorrow's saturday.
I have no idea what day it is on a good day. laugh out loud Today I went to the circus so I'm all Woot
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07-24-2009 at 06:07 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:07 PM.
Quote from serra :
i agree except i'll omit the good luck part. and Secret you mean monday & tuesday. tomorrow's saturday.



i'll call her for you.
laugh out loud I don't think that would be a good idea...

And just to mention I REALLY do not want to be alone in a car with this person again.

This made me so angry that my face got hot and red. That's never happened before. I thought that only happened in cartoons.
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07-24-2009 at 06:10 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:10 PM.
op sounds like a total pushover. just sayin
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07-24-2009 at 06:11 PM.
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07-24-2009 at 06:12 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:12 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :
I would like to cancel for picking her up next week. Point I can bring up: I'm already a half hour away from the place and she is out of the way and I'd have to wake up at least a half hour early.

But I feel bad because her taxi costs 15 dollars each way.

Reminds of a story where a lady friend of mine who drives an F-150 gave a ride home once to a girl in her class and she complained several times about how much better the Silverado's were.

You know what's worse than the Silverado and F-150? No-carro.
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