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Today, a black lady asked me if I was racist. Very long... Okay, go crazy.

3,834 187 July 24, 2009 at 03:56 PM in Rant
tl;dr? gtfo then

So I have this training thing this week with a morning class and an afternoon class. Two other people are in the morning class that are also in the afternoon class (plus me) After the first class ended I waited for the (black) girl to come out and I asked her what she was going to do for the break which was three hours long. She said she didn't know but she did not have a car. I said that's okay, I do.

So we went to my car and ended up at Panera. On the way there she asked me where I lived and I told her, and I mentioned how I hated the city and she said yeah you'd probably do better in a less diverse place. (Side note: I don't like the city because there is no grass, its loud, smelly, and there are too many people) I also mentioned that I liked Indian food because there was a place in the plaza. She said she was surprised that I liked 'cultural food'. At that point I knew she thought I was racist.

Once in Panera we started studying for our exam thing and this happened.
Her: Can I asked you a question?
Me: Sure
Her: Are you racist?
Me: ....No?
Her: Of course if you were, you wouldn't say yes.
So I stare at her.. And say nothing.
Her: When you all talk about asians do you group them together or put them into separate categories?
Me: Well what do you mean 'you all'?
Her: You know, White people.
Me: Uhmmm.. Well that question would be like me asking you if all black people like peanut butter and jelly. You can't answer that because you haven't met all black people.
Her: I know, but white people (blablalba, I forget, something stupid.)
Me: Okay.. Well I'll answer the question for myself, because that's the only person I can answer it for.
I answered it.

We stopped talking about race finally and talked about other less awkward stuff.
Then she asked me to drive her home. I said sure because I didn't want her to think I WAS racist..

So then after class

On the ride home, she starts talking about Jews (I mentioned I was raised Jewish) and then she asked me why Jewish parents are so overbearing. I was so farking angry at this point so I counted to three and answered. I explained that you cannot say that all Jewish families have overbearing parents, and that mine are not, but they do want what is best for me. This went on for a bit and I was soooo angry. Eventually the conversation slowed down and then we were at her house.

As I pulled up she asked me if I could pick her up and drop her off Mon and Tues.

I said yes

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JBird77
07-24-2009 at 06:12 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:12 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :

And just to mention I REALLY do not want to be alone in a car with this person again.
DO NOT give her a ride. Easy enough.

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UTR
07-24-2009 at 06:13 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:13 PM.
Quote from cdog90260 :
op sounds like a total pushover. just sayin
yeah im a real people pleaser, right guys?
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veritablequandary
07-24-2009 at 06:20 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:20 PM.
When she calls on Sunday, here's your out: "You know, Mfume, I've been thinking: If all black people act like you, I have to stop and buy some white sheets on my way to class on Monday. Sorry I can't pick you up."
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Autumn | Staff
07-24-2009 at 06:28 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:28 PM.
Turn her ignorance back on her and say "You knooooow...because of my jewish upbringing I'm really tight with money so I'm gonna have to charge you 15 bucks each way. I'm sure you understand."
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veritablequandary
07-24-2009 at 06:30 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:30 PM.
Ask her to bring some collard greens and black-eyed peas for you to snack on while you drive.
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07-24-2009 at 06:34 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:34 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :
yeah im a real people pleaser, right guys?
guys? what about us girls? genderist! Mad
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07-24-2009 at 06:34 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:34 PM.
To really piss her off you would have said- why are my parents overbearing? Well because they don't want me to end up in prison---you know like black people!


When you do pick her up can you do me (and I'm sure every other server out there) a favor? Ask her why black people don't farking tip when they go out to eat... k thanks




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holy shit that's funny
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07-24-2009 at 06:36 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:36 PM.
Quote from Sunnie5274 :
To really piss her off you would have said- why are my parents overbearing? Well because they don't want me to end up in prison---you know like black people!


When you do pick her up can you do me (and I'm sure every other server out there) a favor? Ask her why black people don't farking tip when they go out to eat... k thanks






holy shit that's funny
I omitted this part of the story because it was irrelevant, but instead of eating at Panera she wanted indian food so we walked over to the nearby place. she 'tipped' the change.
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07-24-2009 at 06:41 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:41 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :
I omitted this part of the story because it was irrelevant, but instead of eating at Panera she wanted indian food so we walked over to the nearby place. she 'tipped' the change.
She tipped! EEK! Tell her to find another ride.
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07-24-2009 at 06:41 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:41 PM.
Quote from AggieMom :
Will you be working with her in the future? If not, give her the finger tomorrow and tell her she can find a non-racist ride. And then tell her good luck with that.
I'd try to tell her in a nicer way to avoid any further conflict. I've seen some assholes slash tires and smash windshields for smaller things.
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07-24-2009 at 06:53 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:53 PM.
You can also tell her that since it's out of the way, you'd appreciate her pitching in for gas.
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Iaaaiws
07-24-2009 at 06:55 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:55 PM.
Quote from Beetribal :
Gosh, I hate to say this, but I am afraid you are going to learn the hard way. I get the feeling that you are not going to take anyone's advice on this and you are going to pick this person up, allow her to crap on you again. People like her will destroy your self esteem if you ALLOW them to.
That's not really a fair thing to say. UTR doesn't have any self esteem to begin with Dontknow





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07-24-2009 at 06:55 PM.
07-24-2009 at 06:55 PM.
Oh, wait, is this an FML?
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07-24-2009 at 07:03 PM.
07-24-2009 at 07:03 PM.
Quote from Unliketherest :
I omitted this part of the story because it was irrelevant, but instead of eating at Panera she wanted indian food so we walked over to the nearby place. she 'tipped' the change.
please tell me the change was 15-20% of the bill *crosses finger* ahhh who am I kidding
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07-24-2009 at 07:04 PM.
07-24-2009 at 07:04 PM.
UTL, I just wanted to say that I am sorry you seem to take so much shit. Here you get knocked down a lot for being "negative" or whatever else people say and I really think that sucks, but then you deal with people like that. On the one hand, I can see how if she is set in those ways it is like second nature to talk to people that way, but you can't just drop your racism/stereotype crap on people when you first meet them (I hope that made sense).
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