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Mom's house is close but a couple towns over. She has this big dog who she's kind of mean to but the dog is attached to her. It's a pre-owned dog. Anyway, I feel terrible leaving it at her house but husband says no because our cats would be miserable. Also my daughter is scared of the dog. So this poor dog and two feral cats are in her house. I have not seen the cats but they eat on a shelf area where the dog can't get to and they are using the cat box, so either one or both of them is/are okay. Mom has sort-of taught this poor dog to use peewee pads but it is clearly lonely. I am trying to re-teach it to go for walks, but sometimes it hides under the bed and I can't get it. I'm trying to take it out at least once a day, just so it won't feel so lonely. We walk around the block. I'm not a big dog person (I prefer medium, beagle-sized, but we don't have any, just cats at home), but this dog is interesting. It has a bum eye and looks mean as heck, but to my knowledge it will not bite. (Not part pit or anything.) Not crazy about men but my husband did go for a walk with us last night and dog was okay with me holding the leash walking in the back and the dog and the husband walked side by side. Oh, I was saying that even though she lives in a "nice" town, I'm not usually up for any risk, but I don't mind walking this dog at nighttime, because I can tell it scares people.
Brother is doing well with job and wife in the NoVA area, but no kids. I am okay with him stepping back for a while because he has been involved with our difficult father's care in Las Vegas, but he's not even calling me. Neither sibling has talked to her (she doesn't have a working cell phone and the phone in her room isn't working right, but wouldn't normal people call the nurse's station to check on things or tell me to call them when I am visiting the place? My mom is difficult but did raise use is not actually abusive. This is weird, right?
Personally, I would hold onto the check your mom wants you to send her another week or two while you figure out what is next for your mom. In fact, if the other two are not interacting, if I were you I would do everything I could to get mom to do all the appropriate documents so you can make decisions on her behalf. I mean, that does put the weight of decisions solely on your shoulders, but it sounds like that is how it is now.
Sadly, I don't think what you're dealing with - with your siblings - is that weird. Sad yes, but not weird. When my dad was dying, my 'other brother' made every excuse in the book to not visit, or would say he was coming and then not make it. At my dad's funeral he acted like he'd been around for the entire time, but we all knew he hadn't. Then, when my step mom refused to give him any money from the life insurance, he about lost it. He obviously thought he was due, and then wanted the other three of us to split what we got so that we all shared and shared alike. Um, no! He has now 'disowned' us and honestly, my life is definitely no worse as a result.
The one thing you might consider, if you're close enough to your brother, is to make sure he understands the severity of the situation and he isn't just being a stupid man sticking his head in the sand because it's his mother who is sick. Once you've done that and he chooses to act this way, that is not your cross to bear, as heartbreaking as it might be watching your mom not have his support. Honestly, as brutal as it might sound, it seems like your sister is pretty much a lost cause already.
Whatever you do, be strong for yourself, but also give yourself a TON of grace. Their actions are NOT yours to own. And we're here for you.
Brother is doing well with job and wife in the NoVA area, but no kids. I am okay with him stepping back for a while because he has been involved with our difficult father's care in Las Vegas, but he's not even calling me. Neither sibling has talked to her (she doesn't have a working cell phone and the phone in her room isn't working right, but wouldn't normal people call the nurse's station to check on things or tell me to call them when I am visiting the place? My mom is difficult but did raise use is not actually abusive. This is weird, right?
I used to think there's a chance my 'other' brother and I might reconnect at some point, but two years ago when my oldest brother fell really ill, I figured out that won't happen. I managed to reach my 'other' brother's wife via ancestry to ask that she let him know. After I sent her the message, she blocked me on ancestry too. My brothers grew up REALLY close, I thought perhaps this would be the thing to bring him back at least to my oldest brother. So at this point, I figure once my oldest brother dies, I'll mail them a note letting them know. And I've already decided I'll do it well after any service we hold for him, as there's no way I'm letting my 'other' brother saunter in again like he cares.
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She should not have ripped up your receipt! wow. I don't know what they do with post voids, but maybe could have written 'void' on it?
Did you check what the ad says about the Spooky Savings?
She should not have ripped up your receipt! wow. I don't know what they do with post voids, but maybe could have written 'void' on it?
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