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My girlfriend from high school - NO JUDGING!
April 15, 2010 at
10:21 AM
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I feel really guilty about this and this burden of guilt is eating at me night and day. So, I thought I'll share this with my fellow loungers and get their views on this.
Around 10-11 years back when I was I was in high school (yes, those years when I was young, carefree and reckless), I was going steady with this girl. I was supposedly her first boy friend and we had a great relationship. It felt then as if she was my soulmate...the one I would spend the rest of my life with.
We had a great sexual relationship too. She was great in bed and satisfied my every need (back then it was a LOT of need....not that it's any less now). For some reason though, she had this think for men's underwear. She always wanted me to wear black undies. I never found out why but I did not care much either...as long as I was getting some action, I would have agreed to wear neon flashing boxers.
This continued all through high school when one day I found that the whole relationship was based on a lie. I was not her first one and in fact, she had cheated on me many times during those years.
Needless to say, we had a bad break-up. Many things were said by me to her, that should never have been said or heard. Some may call it verbal abuse, but for me it was just sharing what I really felt.
However, this supposedly scarred her for life. Supposedly, she never had another relationship for the next 10 years.
Fast forward to last week. I heard from a friend of a friend who is a close friend of hers that she is getting married soon.What sucks is the part that she seems to be playing the same game with her soon to be husband. Supposedly, she has told him that he is her first man (the same thing she had told me!!). Also, she is supposedly asking her to wear black undies on their first night! The poor guy is clueless and confused about this strange request so he asks this friend's friend and that's how I get to know of all this.
Now, what do I do???? Do I confront her?? But I already feel guilty of scarring her for life. However, it feels wrong for me to keep quiet knowing that she is about destroy this other guys life (who is supposedly claiming that she is his first...I assume he is saying the truth).
Please try not to judge me or go off-topic. But then, I understand, this is the lounge and anything is possible...
Around 10-11 years back when I was I was in high school (yes, those years when I was young, carefree and reckless), I was going steady with this girl. I was supposedly her first boy friend and we had a great relationship. It felt then as if she was my soulmate...the one I would spend the rest of my life with.
We had a great sexual relationship too. She was great in bed and satisfied my every need (back then it was a LOT of need....not that it's any less now). For some reason though, she had this think for men's underwear. She always wanted me to wear black undies. I never found out why but I did not care much either...as long as I was getting some action, I would have agreed to wear neon flashing boxers.
This continued all through high school when one day I found that the whole relationship was based on a lie. I was not her first one and in fact, she had cheated on me many times during those years.
Needless to say, we had a bad break-up. Many things were said by me to her, that should never have been said or heard. Some may call it verbal abuse, but for me it was just sharing what I really felt.
However, this supposedly scarred her for life. Supposedly, she never had another relationship for the next 10 years.
Fast forward to last week. I heard from a friend of a friend who is a close friend of hers that she is getting married soon.What sucks is the part that she seems to be playing the same game with her soon to be husband. Supposedly, she has told him that he is her first man (the same thing she had told me!!). Also, she is supposedly asking her to wear black undies on their first night! The poor guy is clueless and confused about this strange request so he asks this friend's friend and that's how I get to know of all this.
Now, what do I do???? Do I confront her?? But I already feel guilty of scarring her for life. However, it feels wrong for me to keep quiet knowing that she is about destroy this other guys life (who is supposedly claiming that she is his first...I assume he is saying the truth).
Please try not to judge me or go off-topic. But then, I understand, this is the lounge and anything is possible...
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I'm not John
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You were lucky. You had all the great sex you wanted, you got to share a deep emotional bond, and you learned early how fragile love can be. It's a grand slam.
Now, take what you learned and look forward, not backward, and get on with your life. Protect your heart, treat people with love, respect, and honestly, and go fark your brains out.
There is absolutely NO reason to get involved in her current relationship.
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