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How do you politely get a guy to stop hitting on you?

17,745 1,470 November 6, 2010 at 06:03 PM
The Boy isn't here yet. It has caused some interesting issues at social gatherings. I have no idea what to do when a guy starts talking to me.

Maybe he is just friendly? How long should I let them talk to me before I tell them I'm married? Wot if they AREN'T hitting on me and then I look like a presumptuous arse? I see the conversation going like this

Guy: So you are new to San Diego?
Me: Yeah, moved here a couple months ago
Guy: Its a great place....yadda yadda
Me: ..*continue conversation to be friendly"
Guy: Yeah, you should come out with us some time.
Me: Well I'm married
Guy: I wasn't asking you out.
Me: er.....uh.....*dies*

I haven't been on the dating scene for a while so I have no idea how to skillfully let a guy know I'm taken but remain friendly in case they just wanted to make a new friend too (although I'm not sure how often that actually happens laugh out loud )

Give me some sage advice Whee
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emelvee
11-06-2010 at 06:04 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:04 PM.
You could have just replied to my PM. Sadwalk
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Filet-O-Fish
11-06-2010 at 06:05 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:05 PM.
just wear your wedding ring....have it visible to the eye when a guy is hitting on you.
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TigerStar
11-06-2010 at 06:06 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:06 PM.
Sorry, I didn't mean anything by it.


Uh, looks like MLV beat me to it. Sadwalk
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marg_fan
11-06-2010 at 06:08 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:08 PM.
Quote from mgs937 :
just wear your wedding ring....have it visible to the eye when a guy is hitting on you.
Twirling it while you are talking to him should let them know without the overt act of telling him.
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Jex
11-06-2010 at 06:11 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:11 PM.
He was asking you out. Stick Out Tongue Until you turned him down.
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AbbyGabby
11-06-2010 at 06:13 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:13 PM.
you should tell him you're not into the whole "dating scene" because you're positive (with a straight face)

they'll run the other way laugh out loud
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Tobascojapan
11-06-2010 at 06:23 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:23 PM.
Happens to me all the time. It's more awkward for the guy then the girl, believe me.
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emelvee
11-06-2010 at 06:28 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:28 PM.
Keep all your social gatherings around Hillcrest and this won't be an issue.
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SlickChik
11-06-2010 at 06:30 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:30 PM.
Quote from emelvee :
Keep all your social gatherings around Hillcrest and this won't be an issue.
Roll

This issue it exactly why I've always just had gay guy friends laugh out loud

Quote from Tobascojapan :
Happens to me all the time. It's more awkward for the guy then the girl, believe me.
How could a girl make it less awkward? I have a hard time trying to make it less awkward...and magically making it exponentially worse.
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DNC
11-06-2010 at 06:32 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:32 PM.
Whee Whee Look at me, look at me!! I'm hot and get hit on all the time. Whee Whee

Maybe you need a decoy husband or something.
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11-06-2010 at 06:32 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:32 PM.
Quote from mgs937 :
just wear your wedding ring....have it visible to the eye when a guy is hitting on you.
Noted.

Unfortunately at the gym I have my lifting gloves on Mad

Halloween was awkward because my ring hand was also covered. Mad I did not realize it until it was too late.

Quote from DNC :
Whee Whee Look at me, look at me!! I'm hot and get hit on all the time. Whee Whee

Maybe you need a decoy husband or something.
bulb I'll just bring arj with me everywhere I go Roll
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DNC
11-06-2010 at 06:33 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:33 PM.
Or jaydid.
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GoneForNow
11-06-2010 at 06:36 PM.
11-06-2010 at 06:36 PM.
Show him your wang.
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