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Ok so I'll ask....is there anything wrong with me dating a married woman?

3,549 129 November 23, 2010 at 03:06 PM in Question
It's not me cheating so is there anything wrong with it? A couple of people have told me it's wrong and made it sound like I am evil but they can't really tell me why with anything other than emotional reactions. So what's up?

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coulditbeSatan
11-24-2010 at 12:56 PM.
11-24-2010 at 12:56 PM.
Quote from Maleficent :
Rofl2

Yet another post to prove how delusional you are. Yes, you'd be wrong to have sex with her, and I'm pretty sure everyone here would tell you the same thing! laugh out loud
I think you would be concentratying on the woman that is being physically and emotionally abused. Come on you can be honest instead of just trying to say the 'right' thing to look consistent.

Quote from Titansfan1234 :
How can you argue that you are not an accessory, that is exactly what you are.

If an entire forum full of people are telling you this is wrong, then the thread is over. You don't want to listen to us, we are tired of your empty excuses.

You are farking another man's wife, this is wrong in just about every culture on earth. So yes, it is wrong.
How am I an accessory? I didn't make her do anything, I am not responsible for her decisions, I am not responsible for her marriage, I am not a part of what caused this. That means I am not an accessory.

Quote from SlicKitty :
Mmmm...no. I still think she has resources and recourses. If she can get out to see you, she can get away and if he's abusive and she can prove it, he won't control the money anymore. I actually don't think it...I know it. I helped someone very close to me do it. It's not easy and it's messy, but it can be done, especially when there are no children to consider.

Like I said before - more for yourself, I would find one who isn't attached, or wait until this one isn't, or even help her get disentangled if that's what she (and you) wants and you're willing to go through that with her.

You asked for opinions. You got opinions. There are no black and white answers when it comes to morals and ethics. There are just opinions and shades of grey. Some people think some things are a-okay. Some wouldn't do thinks that others would. I mean, like I said before, you know the situation and you (and she) have to live with the consquences. If you can live with them, they why are you here asking for opinions? Just move forward. If you have that shred of doubt in your mind, then why are you rejecting the opinions that you requested?

You've seemed reasonable in other threads, but you're very contrary in this one. If you want to do something that most people think is morally corrupt/bankrupt, then just do it. No one can stop you. At some point in life, most poeple push the envelope and many people learn from it (whether they learn something good or something bad...they learn), so...
Like I told Malwhatever I think you would all be focusing on the battered and abused woman and overlook my having sex with her if that were the case. I am not being contrary to be that way. It may appear that way but I just don't see how I am doing anything wrong when I am not cheating or making anyone do anything.

Quote from jenni. :
As delicately as I can put it, I am really disappointed in OP for acting like such scum, trolling around with a whore. Marriage vows are to be taken seriously by the married person as well as those they come across (no pun intended). It's enough to ALMOST make me agree with Owen, and that disgusts me. (Sorry, Owen) I do not wish for people's deaths, but if you got the hell beat out of you, I can't say you wouldn't deserve it.

I feel better.
Now I am scum and she is a whore??? How am I bound by her (or anyone else) marriage vows? You said 'Marriage vows are to be taken seriously by the married person as well as those they come across.' I didn't take any vows to anyone.

Quote from IVIax :
Angry jenni doesn't even merit a warning point....
Scratchchin So how do you get warning points when that angry Owen dude straight up says he hopes I get murdered?

Quote from slapshot136 :
your helping her do it - it's like giving a robber the ride to and from the bank, your still doing something wrong by helping others do something wrong, same as if you were to buy alcohol for a kid, or anything else for that matter
No the robber and his driver are breaking a criminal law and planned to do so. I am not breaking a law and this was not planned.

Quote from azyetobedtrmnd :
OP... Keep up the schtickin IMHO...

The thing is.... YOU are single... Just my opinion here, but, if you're screwing a married woman, and you're not the one married... Why is that your fault? You are not responsible for HER decision to screw a single guy when SHE is the one married.

So I honestly don't see what YOU are doing went when YOU aren't the one married. "moral" issues aside, you're not breaking the covenant of marriage... She is.

Does it make you a douchebag?... Sure. But what would b the difference if you did t know that she was married and still had sex with her????? The answer is nothing, youd still somehow be a douchebag.

I'm just saying. I know you long time loungers will bash me for it. But I ask, who gives a f? And what law says a single guy can't screw a married woman? He's not breaking a law... If he's breaking a "moral law" - you all pretty much threw the first stone at this guy; essentially saying that you've done nothing morally wrong before.
Thank you and Iagree! Well except for the douchebag part....I still don't see that.....laugh out loud
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11-24-2010 at 12:59 PM.
11-24-2010 at 12:59 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
Scratchchin So how do you get warning points when that angry Owen dude straight up says he hopes I get murdered?
You can mod-alert him, though I'm not sure his post crosses any SDs rules... especially since you started a trolling thread Dontknow
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Titansfan1234
11-24-2010 at 01:01 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:01 PM.
How do you not see how you are a douche?


You are having sex with another man's wife. Do you have any morals? Any religion? Upbringing? Family values?

This woman is committed to that man and you are helping her break that commitment. Accessory. You are forcing her to cheat, but you are an accessory.
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Princess Crunch
11-24-2010 at 01:01 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:01 PM.
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OwenKealy
11-24-2010 at 01:02 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:02 PM.
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I can't wait for the day when OwenKealy will come home at the end of the day and post the cute stories about how his day went teaching the little children Girly
Actually, I rather enjoy working with students. It's a pretty awesome experience.

Fine, fine, maybe the husband of the woman shouldn't kill the OP. OP still does deserve to have the shit beat out of him though, maybe turning him paraplegic. laugh out loud
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veritablequandary
11-24-2010 at 01:03 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:03 PM.
Yo Loungers, I heard you're down with OPP, so we put some OPP in your OP so you can get your OPP while you read the OP from the OP, B!

Whee
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Iaaaiws
11-24-2010 at 01:03 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:03 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
I think you would be concentratying on the woman that is being physically and emotionally abused. Come on you can be honest instead of just trying to say the 'right' thing to look consistent.

Like I told Malwhatever I think you would all be focusing on the battered and abused woman and overlook my having sex with her if that were the case. I am not being contrary to be that way. It may appear that way but I just don't see how I am doing anything wrong when I am not cheating or making anyone do anything.
Admitting you actually think that means you are even more clueless than you have appeared previously in this thread if that is possible.

You would be knowingly dealing with an abused and battered woman and then making the conscious choice to participate with her in an act that could possibly push her husband over the edge to the point where instead of just beating her he actually killed her the next time. For you to try and rationalize that it wouldn't be your fault is simply not possible for anyone with a rational mind.
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SlicKitty
11-24-2010 at 01:04 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:04 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
Like I told Malwhatever I think you would all be focusing on the battered and abused woman and overlook my having sex with her if that were the case.

You're mistaken about that, at least for my part.

Quote from coulditbeSatan :
I am not being contrary to be that way. It may appear that way but I just don't see how I am doing anything wrong when I am not cheating or making anyone do anything.
Cheating requires two people, like tug of war. One can't cheat alone. You are cheating.
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Titansfan1234
11-24-2010 at 01:04 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:04 PM.
Owen's wife cheated on him with a TSA agent.
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veritablequandary
11-24-2010 at 01:05 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:05 PM.
Quote from SlicKitty :
Cheating requires two people, like tug of war.
Bigeye

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Titansfan1234
11-24-2010 at 01:06 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:06 PM.
Who's war?
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veritablequandary
11-24-2010 at 01:07 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:07 PM.
Quote from Titansfan1234 :
Who's war?
Unngh
Good God, ya'll!

What is it good for?
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OwenKealy
11-24-2010 at 01:09 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:09 PM.
Quote from Titansfan1234 :
Owen's wife cheated on him with a TSA agent.
laugh out loud fark no.

I don't know who you're insulting more with that comment, the dude she cheated with or a TSA agent. Both are pretty scummy people. laugh out loud
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azyetobedtrmnd
11-24-2010 at 01:10 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:10 PM.
Quote from OwenKealy :
Actually, I rather enjoy working with students. It's a pretty awesome experience.

Fine, fine, maybe the husband of the woman shouldn't kill the OP. OP still does deserve to have the shit beat out of him though, maybe turning him paraplegic. laugh out loud
"I hope his pecker falls off" would also have been acceptable as well. Lol
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11-24-2010 at 01:10 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:10 PM.
Quote from SlicKitty :
Cheating requires two people, like tug of war. One can't cheat alone. You are cheating.
what if you play tug of war with your spouse and another person?
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