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11-07-2010 at 12:58 AM.

Wow I hate your in laws too

My mil isn't too bad, she is very traditional. But she has always been here to help us out, and I'm thankful my kids have one normal grandparent. I'd like them to know my parents but at the same time I want to protect them from the life I had, so I'm torn. And nnot sure I can deal with that.

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I literally hate in laws.. some people have great ones... but for instance my brother in law lives in FL and he will call us up and ask us to pay his airfare up here and if we don't we are jerks and he doesn't wanna be bothered.. mind you, he is almost 40!! He can't hold down a job b/c he doesn't want to and thinks everyone else should be responsible for him.. dislike it

My mother in law will purposely buy our kids dollar store items when we go to her house for Christmas eve while the kids watch their cousins opening nicer stuff from Target or whereever... then I am told that I need to make sure the kids appreciate it...last year my now 8 year old left there balling her eyes out cause she realized the huge difference between them and their cousins gifts..

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Bleh, I'm headed to bed. I've been getting really nauseous lately when I'm tired. No idea what thats about.

Night all

Night

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11-07-2010 at 01:01 AM.

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Bleh, I'm headed to bed. I've been getting really nauseous lately when I'm tired. No idea what thats about.

Night all

hope you are feeling better tomorrow. Maybe a good night's sleep will help?

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Wish I could say my experiences had made me a better person but I thinks it scard me, I once was very happy and a very sweet person. For the past few years I have become very angry, and or sad, its funny cause happy has been hard for me lately. I have always been overly stressed, and it seems like it has just been intensifying lately.

I know I probably shouldn't have said so much, because who knows what people are thinking at this point. But I have no one to talk to so, this is a release for me that is much needed

It took years of therapy to get to this point. For different reasons I've seen a therapist a few different times, for various periods of time, to work out some of these issues.

If it helps to talk, I am here. I don't mind listening.

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I literally hate in laws.. some people have great ones... but for instance my brother in law lives in FL and he will call us up and ask us to pay his airfare up here and if we don't we are jerks and he doesn't wanna be bothered.. mind you, he is almost 40!! He can't hold down a job b/c he doesn't want to and thinks everyone else should be responsible for him.. dislike it

My mother in law will purposely buy our kids dollar store items when we go to her house for Christmas eve while the kids watch their cousins opening nicer stuff from Target or whereever... then I am told that I need to make sure the kids appreciate it...last year my now 8 year old left there balling her eyes out cause she realized the huge difference between them and their cousins gifts..

I'm sorry. I hate that grandparents don't realize that kids pick up on the overt favoritism. It happens in my family, trust me on that. My dad buys my younger half-sister a car every few years, pays her insurance, etc. But that's ok, I make sure my kids don't realize that they have been left out again. And I bet you do too.

eta weird thing just happened. My phone rang, it's almost 3 am here, and the person asks for me by name. Said I gave him my number, and he had given me his. And thinking back, I've had a bunch of hang up calls on my cell phone in the last few days. All are out of state area codes.

I don't give my number out often but I did post it in my Craiglist ad for the golf cart I'm trying to sell. And I passed out business cards with my name and email during my last yard sale. Now I'm feeling a little paranoid.

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11-07-2010 at 01:05 AM.

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My mom was in college classes all evening after working 50+ hour weeks all through my Jr high and my HS years and my dad was always gone working too, seems like we should have had lots of money but they were barely keeping the lights & heat on, well they were on most of the time. I pretty much took over everything but the laundry and bill paying at that time, raising my younger sisters, I have three, and all the household stuff. Not nearly as much as you went through but I can understand a little.

I know you hate where you live now, but ya know, I remember Henderson how is was 30 yrs ago when I spent whole summers at my grandma's and I loved it all. I know it is nothing like it was then but I still have family and friends there and I just love visiting there. Have considered moving there too. Now don't get me wrong, there are parts that I DO NOT like, especially how Vegas has become such a party town, not that it ever wasn't. But it did used to seem like Vegas was far far away from Henderson. Oh wait, it WAS. lol, not so much anymore, man that place has exploded since my granny lived there.

Henderson is a much nicer area. But it still has all the thing I despise like the extreme heat and desert scenary everywhere. I am a real outdoorsey person but since we've moved here that's changed I just can't stand it here. I feel bad for my kids they don't get to experience very many outdoor activities. We will be nmoving hopefully out of state soon.

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11-07-2010 at 01:13 AM.

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It took years of therapy to get to this point. For different reasons I've seen a therapist a few different times, for various periods of time, to work out some of these issues.

If it helps to talk, I am here. I don't mind listening.

I'm glad you don't mind listening,

I don't have anyone here that will. DH doesn't understand,or want too for that matter, and I have a sis but she's out of state and we barely talk anymore,and no friends.

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11-07-2010 at 01:15 AM.

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I'm glad you don't mind listening,

I don't have anyone here that will. DH doesn't understand,or want too for that matter, and I have a sis but she's out of state and we barely talk anymore,and no friends.

My dh doesn't understand. His family isn't super close either and he doesn't seem to mind. I do talk to my younger sister a few times each week, and I have a handful of friends irl.

If you keep to yourself, no one else can let you down. That's a lesson I learned a long time ago, sounds like one you learned too.

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11-07-2010 at 01:23 AM.

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My dh doesn't understand. His family isn't super close either and he doesn't seem to mind. I do talk to my younger sister a few times each week, and I have a handful of friends irl.

If you keep to yourself, no one else can let you down. That's a lesson I learned a long time ago, sounds like one you learned too.

Isn't that the truth, I have learned that the people who matter to me are under my roof. I lost trust in my parents and friends I once had and I just never found it necessary to get new friends and I'm not ready to speak to my parents yet, we right letters every now and then but that's it. My older sis and I were never close growing up, it wasn't until we grew up and had familys that we got close. But now were in different states and talk usually va text.
Dh has a huge family but he is only close to his mom and brothers they are number 1 for him, and he could live without the rest of the family, he doesn't like drama.

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11-07-2010 at 01:26 AM.

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Isn't that the truth, I have learned that the people who matter to me are under my roof. I lost trust in my parents and friends I once had and I just never found it necessary to get new friends and I'm not ready to speak to my parents yet, we right letters every now and then but that's it. My older sis and I were never close growing up, it wasn't until we grew up and had familys that we got close. But now were in different states and talk usually va text.
Dh has a huge family but he is only close to his mom and brothers they are number 1 for him, and he could live without the rest of the family, he doesn't like drama.

When the moment is right to allow your parents back into your life, you will know it. Until then, I agree with you, everyone important is under your roof.

Any idea where you would like to move to?

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11-07-2010 at 01:27 AM.

I guess I'm going to attempt to go to bed. I'm kinda feeling sad, I think sleep will do me some good

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11-07-2010 at 01:27 AM.

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Yep, my in laws think that its not asking for too much b/c last year we bought them a 42" that now is in their bedroom... no thanks..I saw some cheap velour running suits.. me thinks dh's mom...my mom no clue, I have bought her all little appliances she wanted, like the Keurig and that 3 crockpot thingy... hmm

What does your dh do? Sorry you have to be home by yourself.. HUGS!!

I understand.. when I go to my dd's school they are snobs So I tend to be more reserved b/c I am appaled at the kids behavior.. I watched a little kindergardener tell the teacher my mommy says I do not have to listen to anyone that makes less money than her.. it was devasting...matter of fact, if you heard of wegmans grocery stores, it is the granddaughter (the mom who is now president of wegmans) of the original founder and they are worth major $$...and my kids hang out with them yuck : ( LOL

I forgot about the cute velour outfits and the keurig and crock pots?? That is plenty! Can you adopt me?

My DH is a Event Construction Forman. Things were just starting to pick up when the economy crashed. His whole job depended on the motorsports events that big companies like BF Goodrich, Toyo Tires, Ford, Jeep, all gave lots of sponsor money too. Then the crash and we all know what happened to the automotive industry. He builds the event courses. Here is a UROC rock crawling course he built, those are not rocks the 4x4 are crawling on, he built those massive things. They could build 50 swimming pools with all that cement!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9...re=related
That course is still there, it is more of a permanant one.

This one was build right next to the Las Vegas strip, on the convention center parking lot. Those are hay bales under all the cement and they had to tear it all down and throw it away. I did want to keep those trees (not the big palm trees, the little ones close to the course) and greenery they had there but by the end of the week they had been crashed on by so many vehicles they didn't survive.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6UEO13JJ6M

He also built this totally different type of course for Lucas Oil http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jlrGrwzqf2U yeah they moved 50 thousand tuns of dirt to build that!

This is the one he just built and tore down in Vegas these past two and a half weeks. He will finally be home Monday! They are just getting the parking lot swept up today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORXTjM61CA0

And this one, professionally filmed, interview:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nz-LN-KsKgI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tj...re=related

At 28 to about 32 seconds it shows what he built in the above clip.

You know I really want to go in one of those trucks going off a jump,

!!

So yeah tuns of travel and hard work.

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I still buy clothes here and there for dd and ds (although my dd has way more) but I never pay full price I refuse lol. And there are some awesome finds at kohls for dirt cheap.

I so need to get into kohls, T clearance is getting old.

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Night is always hardest when your SO is not home. I would love to have a weekend away but fear what I would come home to.

I can sheepishly admit that it's kind of like meeshe's house here, but it's so much better than it used to be. I used to find that I was ebaying hundreds of nwt items every year so (and this has been really hard!) I've cut back on the clothing I buy. It does help that the older kids can't wear cute matchy Gymboree any longer. That was half the fun of shopping.

I think if monkey toddler were a girl, it would be just as bad but there cute clothing isn't as available for boys as it is for little girls.

Oh I know I would come home to a massive disaster area. It would be horders scary, floor to ceiling crumbs and trash everybody leaves lying all over. I always wondered who was selling all those NWT clothes on the bay, haven't looked at clothes on the bay in years.

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11-07-2010 at 01:34 AM.

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I guess I'm going to attempt to go to bed. I'm kinda feeling sad, I think sleep will do me some good

Lots of good night wishes! I'm off to bed soon too.

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My DH is a Event Construction Forman. Things were just starting to pick up when the economy crashed. His whole job depended on the motorsports events that big companies like BF Goodrich, Toyo Tires, Ford, Jeep, all gave lots of sponsor money too. Then the crash and we all know what happened to the automotive industry. He builds the event courses. Here is a UROC rock crawling course he built, those are not rocks the 4x4 are crawling on, he built those massive things. They could build 50 swimming pools with all that cement!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9...re=related
That course is still there, it is more of a permanant one.

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Oh I know I would come home to a massive disaster area. It would be horders scary, floor to ceiling crumbs and trash everybody leaves lying all over. I always wondered who was selling all those NWT clothes on the bay, haven't looked at clothes on the bay in years.

Wow, building those courses is a lot of work! I didn't realize what went into them.

Once upon a time, it seemed like a lot of clothing on eBay was people selling stuff they had bought for their families. In the last few years or so I've noticed that a lot more of the nwt stuff was people buying specifically for re-sale. Only time it bothered me was when they bought out entire stocks of the really good clearance and sales deals at Gymboree, then could list stuff as HTF and charge more than original retail. There was a certain sweater and tights in 2004 that come to mind.

eta I'm off to bed now! It's way way too late here now.

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11-07-2010 at 01:53 AM.

I am so far behind it will take me weeks to catch up.

Had an abcess in my wisdom tooth. Got some antibio's and pain meds and headed out to Houston. Spent two nights there and now we are in Austin, going home tomorrow.

Tomorrow is DS birthday party. Soooo excited. I got this massive whale bounce house slide. He doesn't know it but begged for one for his party. It's a Lego party.

Up with massive heartburn. Had to drive to this store near the hotel to get milk and TUMS and it was scary. People are weird.

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11-07-2010 at 05:19 AM.

Wowz you ladies were up late......bahaha, this lady is a youngin' who cannot stay up late

I enjoyed hearing your stories of how you came into this extreme couponing

I was lucky in that my mom certainly did not coupon like this when I was a kid (I'm the one teaching her now

) BUT she was still very, very frugal. Whenever we went into Target or any other store it was straight to the clearance rack. She did clip coupons and use them and always went to the store with the best prices and sales. So, I grew up that way and here I am. I was married at 22, pregnant when I was still 22, and dd at 23. Casually used coupons on diapers and all for awhile, never really paid full price for them, and then got to this point. I feel very blessed. I'm with Kallison though, I tended to think everyone here was around the same age as me.

We're still in that selfish everyone-must-just-be-like-me stage of life

Nice pics of the kiddos Ank and Myluv!!!

Jamie - great to hear from ya!!!! We all miss you when we don't hear from you!! Hope you had some good shopping trips.

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11-07-2010 at 06:09 AM.

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here aree my lil goblins

awwwwwwww

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Your toddler looks sooooo much like my 2 year old

That's so neat!

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I was so antisocial in HS ... HS was not kind to me.
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I'm a cat lady. Eh.

Which sort of leads to a funny story.

Same for me w/ HS - never could understand the folks who want to go back. It was a nightmare for soooo many reasons.

Just don't become THE cat lady...

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alright sweet :he art: chatterboxes, WHY are so many of you awake at this hour? i have 2 excuses - lifelong insomniac, and in semi-migraine/pre-migraine wasteland.

but all you sleep-deprived moms here, why aren't you grabbing that pillow and nabbing the extra hour of turn-back-clock sleep that's awaiting you?

Hope you feel better!
Insomnia/over-tired here. Besides... THEY know there's an extra hour, so to compensate, they are staying up an hour later and will undoubtedly wake up 1-2 hours earlier.

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And here I was thinking you was all richy rich now.
So CUTE! And she does look very ghostly in those pics!
My bestfriend sister Mavis, so freaking adorable!
Hope you all get feeling better.

Funny - I don't really remember pre-mommyhood either.

Who knows - maybe I'll get richy rich after the next tourney! DD favorite thing to do is pretend to be a ghost. Most of her pics turn out like that because she does NOT sit still - ever.

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you guys, in all seriousness, if you're not lifelong insomniacs, then you should make getting sleep a priority.

Party pooper!!!

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I just don't have the patience to deal with people and their crap.
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My brother always told me I was old before my time.

Same here - no patience for crap, and the older I get the less I have.

I never had good/responsible parents either - and a lot of the work fell to me as the oldest. Our "family" had its share of major issues - sounds like a lot of us did.

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i think i'm going to go lie down. this pre-migraine dizziness is getting worse and it's making me uber nauseous.

I hope you feel better.

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Bleh, I'm headed to bed. I've been getting really nauseous lately when I'm tired. No idea what thats about.

Probably cuz you are tired...

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I literally hate in laws.. some people have great ones...

I am blessed with fairly decent in laws - they have their fun quirks, but they are decent folks!

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I'd like them to know my parents but at the same time I want to protect them from the life I had, so I'm torn. And nnot sure I can deal with that.

I don't know what you went through - if it's anywhere near what my family was like - your kids are better off.

I don't know how or why a family can have such emotional hold on us, but my family certainly did. I wish I had cut off ties earlier than I did, but I eventually did and am not sorry for it at all. I still have crazy moments where I think "did I do the right thing? shouldn't the kids know their family - even the bad parts??" In reality, I did do the right thing and in this case, the kids don't need *that* family. I had to ask myself, if I met them on the street and found out how they were right there, would I take them home and have them around my family? The answer is always "no" (well, it's a little more emphatic than that, but it's not lady-like to say some things out loud...) I wouldn't tolerate it from "friends" - why is it any different for "blood"?

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eta weird thing just happened. My phone rang,

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What a weirdo... I hope everything is okay. Keep a record of calls and the numbers - just in case.

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Wish I could say my experiences had made me a better person

I think sometimes it makes you better in ways you don't realize. Our experiences do affect us, and they scar us or change us. I have some ups and downs too, and I often think I am not a great mom to my kids or good wife to my hubby. I just try to change the things that are glaringly wrong and pray that God fixes my shortfalls and fills the holes I leave. What more can be done?

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If you keep to yourself, no one else can let you down. That's a lesson I learned a long time ago, sounds like one you learned too.

sounds like a lot of us have learned that lesson

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Dh has a huge family but he is only close to his mom and brothers they are number 1 for him, and he could live without the rest of the family, he doesn't like drama.

DH is fairly close with his family, but doesn't tolerate any of the gossip or the drama (and there's always some of it going on). I like his family a lot, but I"m glad we live far enough away that we pretty much never know the drama. I don't have tolerance for it either.

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Had an abcess in my wisdom tooth.
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Up with massive heartburn. Had to drive to this store near the hotel to get milk and TUMS and it was scary. People are weird.

hope you feel bettter!!! And yeah - people are very weird in the middle of the night. You should've gone to WM and seen if you could find some people of WM worthy folks.

Ugh... why does everything taste like soap today??

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11-07-2010 at 06:47 AM.

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We found that 1/2 cup of clear Windex and a tablespoon of Dawn (the clear one, naturals or something like that) works better than the commercial soaps, and it's a lot cheaper.

Cool! Sounds great, and cheap!

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lol Bbluesky, I really think Flugette is a machine, a coupon shopping machine!

My hubby would say so! But for me, I know there are people out there lots crazier than me...

Gives me a goal to work towards!!

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Oh no! Can he go to traffic school and get it dismissed? I have gone to traffic school twice now for speeding tickets and once you attend they dismiss the ticket. It does cost a extra $80 for traffic school but worth it for the dismissial and no increase on insurance, or loss of driving privilage. But you can only go once a year, luckily my speeding tickets were almost two years apart. Now I have 10 more months before I can get another, I mean I will never get another speeding ticket again!
*snip*

He is pretty sure he will *have* to take the driving class now, to avoid suspension. He got points on his license for his accident in May, and he already had a reckless driving ticket on it. So yeah...he needs to do something.

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stressed much?

so, you have to cut the cycle. get a bottle of melatonin from the drugstore. a few of my friends swear by it. it's a natural sleep chemical released by the body to bring about sleep. so taking the bottled one aids in falling off to sleep faster. they say there's no exhausted hang over like sleeping pills. no restlessness. it's just a relaxing gently slide into sleepiness. i've never tried it because it's contraindicated for migraine sufferers, but those who take it love it.

I have gotten quite a few bottles of Melatonin at RA, since they are the cheapest vitamin from Natrol, which frequently goes on sale BOGO and there's a $3 printable MFQ.

I got in on that Pampers deal, as well. And the Target gift card Q was not smart at all, and couldn't count.

I guess I've been doing T for about 5 years now, maybe a little less. I was a lurker for a long time before I started posting. Seriously, though, coupons has gotten us through so many tight spots in the last five years.

And as for in-laws, mine are better than some, I guess.

My MIL is so completely different from me, it makes it difficult for me to understand her at all. And hubby is her favorite of her three boys, and I feel like I don't match up to her expectations for him. The funny thing is that my husband is the only one of her three boys that is grounded, doing right by his family, and generally stable in life, but yet somehow we get the most judgment and criticism. Or maybe I'm just too sensitive.

Hubby comes from a divorce situation - his dad remarried and had two more kids. When his daughter graduated from high school this past June, he bought her a brand new Mustang, top of the line. And then gave hubby her old Ford Escort. Growing up, my husband and his brothers were lucky if their dad remembered their birthday or Christmas. And yet, somehow, hubby has never shown one ounce of jealousy or envy for how his half brother and sister are treated, despite the glaring inequities. To me, its like his dad doesn't feel that his three older sons are really part of *his* family, KWIM? And since they're grown, he doesn't have any more responsibility for them.

It frustrates me, but I am so proud of my husband that he hasn't let it become an issue for him.

Home from church because Lillian had a low-grade fever yesterday and through the night. No fever now, so I guess it was some kind of infection her body was fighting.

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11-07-2010 at 06:58 AM.

I got to SD via HCW, as someone kept copying my Publix Sneak Peeks and never giving me credit here. Irked me a lot, so I joined and posted them here myself.

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I was so antisocial in HS, it was ridiculous. I was the smart, fat girl. HS was not kind to me.

Part of me wishes I had a family, like all my friends. They're all so happy (or pretend to be). I'm just not ready to give up my routine and my way of doing things just yet. Maybe that would change if I met the right person, but for now, I'm a cat lady. Eh.

Which sort of leads to a funny story. I was bored one day and on the Bloomingdales site and got caught up in wedding stuff and decided to make a registry (just, you know, in case...and for the free stuff). Well, I needed a grooms name and the first name that came to mind was Toby (which is my cats name). Apparently the number I gave them was my parents number and my mom called and wanted to know why Bloomingdales called about Toby and my wedding. I pretty much died. But I got some awesome freebies from Bloomies for it

Sounds like me. The smart Fat girl. No friends (except bf) in high school that I remember. Could be said today too.

I'm 20+ years older than you and I AM the cat lady.

You are quite creative in regards to the wedding registry.

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Night is always hardest when your SO is not home. I would love to have a weekend away but fear what I would come home to.

Try it every night, for your entire life. There is no SO. Had a boyfriend in high school and college, and I always assumed one day we would be married, but his best friend Denis hated me and talked him out of it. It must not have been love for him if it was that easy to be talked out of.

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Just don't become THE cat lady...

Too late. Already there.

Loneliness is the worse part of not having a SO, or good friends (or a Dad to use as a sounding board). I go entire 3 day weekends without talking to anyone. I always told my Dad that being well paid was great, but not having someone to share your life with was awful. I'd give up my $$ and well paying job for an honest, loving, dependable Christian man in a heartbeat. Doesn't matter what they look like. Looks can be gone in an instant. It's whats inside that counts.