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Can't seem to get him to take his junk out and go somewhere else...
March 1, 2011 at
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Hey peoples 
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Okayyy, so I have a situation I have somehow gotten myself into. Go figure
A girl friend of mine was letting her friend live with her, kind of a roommate sort-of deal. Over the time she had him living with her and hanging out with her, he became kind of a mutual friend and I felt bad for the way she'd treat him, because well, I dunno how to put it besides the fact that he's rather umm "socially awkward." He's the kind of guy that doesn't make friends easily and he's not quite as mature as he may should be at his age (which is same age as my friend and I,) but he is a good guy at heart and I felt she was taking major advantage of him anyway, because he was pretty much her slave. He was head over heels for her; she just used him for money, to clean her house, etc... I felt bad for him but figured it wasn't really my business.
Anyway, cut to about 2.5 weeks ago. I'm out of town while a different girl friend of mine is house-sitting for me and staying over at my place. I get a call around 4am one morning, and the guy friend that was living with my other friend is crying his eyes out saying he has no where to go, that my friend kicked him out, it's freezing cold and in his car and doesn't know what to do. Sigh. I'm half asleep and I felt bad since he was crying, so I reluctantly say, "okay dude, I guess you can crash at my place a couple days since I'm gone anyway and hopefully you can get something figured out soon. My friend is there, she'll let you in, just get out of the cold and try to figure something out."
Cue to now. He's still here :-/ I've hinted to him several times that he needs to go, and even told him in the beginning that he couldn't stay too long because I could actually get in trouble for lease violation or something since we aren't supposed to have people move in unless we notify the apt manager, etc. He says he's looking, but the thing is, he has no money really to even get a place. He's wasted what money he did have. As I said, he's not as mature as he should be in some ways and is a little different... he's wasted his money on $25 mystery boxes, hdmi cables, books and videos on how to play a violin (umm, he doesn't even have a violin with him, he just plans to one day get his old one back from his parents, wthhh.) And so now he's down to almost zilch in his account.
Those of you that know me probably know that I'm sometimes too nice for my own good... I have a problem saying "no" to people, and I often get doormat treatment I guess. I feel so horrible because he has nowhere to go, and I don't know how to just kick him out knowing he'd be having to live in his car.
But really, I've *got* to get him outta here pretty soon... he's kind of driving me crazy anyway, lol. The wasting money, the having an extra person to pick up after (like 3 kids isn't enough ), he doesn't exactly shower... and I just got a new-to-me couch and I don't want him stinking it up permanently :-/ lol. But seriously. He's gonna have to go.
How do I get him to do that? I honestly feel it's not in my heart to put anyone on the street if I can help it, it makes me feel horrible. But he can't crash here on my couch too much longer; my sanity nor my lease agreement will allow it.
Suggestions on what to do? For someone that doesn't do to well with confrontation or putting others in bad situations?
TL;DR : Friend got kicked out, I said okay, can crash at my place few days til figure something out... still here almost 3 weeks later. Will have nowhere to go when I kick out. What to do?
Miss you guys Okayyy, so I have a situation I have somehow gotten myself into. Go figure
A girl friend of mine was letting her friend live with her, kind of a roommate sort-of deal. Over the time she had him living with her and hanging out with her, he became kind of a mutual friend and I felt bad for the way she'd treat him, because well, I dunno how to put it besides the fact that he's rather umm "socially awkward." He's the kind of guy that doesn't make friends easily and he's not quite as mature as he may should be at his age (which is same age as my friend and I,) but he is a good guy at heart and I felt she was taking major advantage of him anyway, because he was pretty much her slave. He was head over heels for her; she just used him for money, to clean her house, etc... I felt bad for him but figured it wasn't really my business.
Anyway, cut to about 2.5 weeks ago. I'm out of town while a different girl friend of mine is house-sitting for me and staying over at my place. I get a call around 4am one morning, and the guy friend that was living with my other friend is crying his eyes out saying he has no where to go, that my friend kicked him out, it's freezing cold and in his car and doesn't know what to do. Sigh. I'm half asleep and I felt bad since he was crying, so I reluctantly say, "okay dude, I guess you can crash at my place a couple days since I'm gone anyway and hopefully you can get something figured out soon. My friend is there, she'll let you in, just get out of the cold and try to figure something out."
Cue to now. He's still here :-/ I've hinted to him several times that he needs to go, and even told him in the beginning that he couldn't stay too long because I could actually get in trouble for lease violation or something since we aren't supposed to have people move in unless we notify the apt manager, etc. He says he's looking, but the thing is, he has no money really to even get a place. He's wasted what money he did have. As I said, he's not as mature as he should be in some ways and is a little different... he's wasted his money on $25 mystery boxes, hdmi cables, books and videos on how to play a violin (umm, he doesn't even have a violin with him, he just plans to one day get his old one back from his parents, wthhh.) And so now he's down to almost zilch in his account.
Those of you that know me probably know that I'm sometimes too nice for my own good... I have a problem saying "no" to people, and I often get doormat treatment I guess. I feel so horrible because he has nowhere to go, and I don't know how to just kick him out knowing he'd be having to live in his car.
But really, I've *got* to get him outta here pretty soon... he's kind of driving me crazy anyway, lol. The wasting money, the having an extra person to pick up after (like 3 kids isn't enough
), he doesn't exactly shower... and I just got a new-to-me couch and I don't want him stinking it up permanently :-/ lol. But seriously. He's gonna have to go.How do I get him to do that? I honestly feel it's not in my heart to put anyone on the street if I can help it, it makes me feel horrible. But he can't crash here on my couch too much longer; my sanity nor my lease agreement will allow it.
Suggestions on what to do? For someone that doesn't do to well with confrontation or putting others in bad situations?
TL;DR : Friend got kicked out, I said okay, can crash at my place few days til figure something out... still here almost 3 weeks later. Will have nowhere to go when I kick out. What to do?
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(assuming you rent)
I'm pretty sure they will come get him.
How can you expect to ignore us for so long and then come asking for advice?
We expect you to be here at least one day a week.
(assuming you rent)
First this^
Then...
Tell him to:
You can't have this little weak willed freeloader in your house any longer. Unless he's hung like a horse and you don't mind him paying his way by servicing you.
Otherwise....the longer he stays...the harder it will be for him to leave. He's already getting way too farking comfortable if you ask me.
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Otherwise....the longer he stays...the harder it will be for him to leave. He's already getting way too farking comfortable if you ask me.
hola brynn!
(assuming you rent)
hola brynn!
(assuming you rent)
Ohh, and yes, I tried the landlord thing. Sent him a message last night when he was gone to work to tell him that my apt manager stopped me on my way out yesterday evening saying that she was gonna try to be kind and give me a verbal warning that he needs to be gone by this Friday rather than having to write it up as a lease violation/report me. His reply was, "Oh no well I will have to see what I can do, shoot, we are going to have to sit down and talk when I get back tonight after work and figure something out." When he did get back, he pretty much didn't mention it. It's like I never said it or something
Tell him your new 6'5" 250 pound boyfriend is beginning to think something is going on between you two and is extremely jealous. Rent a boyfriend if you need to, have him come over and give him an evil stare while he is there.
Make him babysit and come home late. Do it for ten straight days after feeding your children pure sugar.
No? Well, you aren't his mother and you aren't responsible for him. Give him a deadline and flat out tell him he has to leave. The longer he is there, the harder it will be for you to get him out of your house. Whatever you do, do NOT introduce him to sd. He would always be broke and never leave.
edit: I almost forgot. If you choose the first option, I'll need access to your webcam in order to verify you are correctly implementing the plan.
And trust me, you don't want that vision burned into your monitor via webcam
I'll give you some junk.
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