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1,254 1,510 April 19, 2012 at 08:16 AM in Chat
Looking for opinions:

If you have a specific skill or trade do you feel it's okay with charging immediate family members for your labor/time. For example, if you are a mechanic, would you charge your son or daughter, father or mother for your labor? Or do you feel like since they're your family (and let's of course say for arguments sake that everyone likes each other and has a good relationship of course Wink) you should give your help where you're able to and leave it up to the person on the receiving end to give if they should feel inclined?

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Piccaboo
04-19-2012 at 04:56 PM.
04-19-2012 at 04:56 PM.
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Afghanistan instead Scratchchin She might find a better Dad there Woot or Iran Evil
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Pig
04-19-2012 at 05:00 PM.
04-19-2012 at 05:00 PM.
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Elaborate please. If your father does this for a living and isn't charging full rate then have him do it and be grateful. You're getting a discount from an honest mechanic!

Basically, if it costs anything for a family member to help you or puts them out in any way they SHOULD be compensated accordingly. Or do you expect him to just fork over free parts and labor because you're his kid? Maybe you aren't ahead of a paying customer but the time he spends on your car could still be spent on a FULL paying customer. Get it??

Your parents are only responsible for you until you turn 18. I sincerely hope yours will all their money away to charity! Evil
Never in her post has she said that he is a honest mechanic!!!
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infesttragedy
04-19-2012 at 05:02 PM.
04-19-2012 at 05:02 PM.
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Afghanistan instead Scratchchin She might find a better Dad there Woot or Iran Evil
What does Romania have to do with Afghanistan or Iran?
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04-19-2012 at 05:53 PM.
04-19-2012 at 05:53 PM.
It depends on the family. I think most family members, would somehow express thanks via beer, baked goods, or something. In the end, it's not just skill but also time and effort, which could have been spent on relaxing/doing something you like.
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Piccaboo
04-19-2012 at 06:05 PM.
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What does Romania have to do with Afghanistan or Iran?

Nothing, I just picked different countries, that is all Coverlaugh
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04-19-2012 at 06:06 PM.
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they probably have great scratch and dent specials!!
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Piccaboo
04-19-2012 at 06:06 PM.
04-19-2012 at 06:06 PM.
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Never in her post has she said that he is a honest mechanic!!!

Smack you dare to say the mechanic is not honest Bonk
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emelvee
04-19-2012 at 06:19 PM.
04-19-2012 at 06:19 PM.
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Smack you dare to say the mechanic is not honest Bonk
I figured it went without saying.



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iamiamian
04-19-2012 at 06:45 PM.
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You get what you pay for.
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04-19-2012 at 07:12 PM.
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So Pig is saying her father, her mechanic is not honest EEK! EEK!
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Supergirl9801
04-19-2012 at 07:21 PM.
04-19-2012 at 07:21 PM.
Gotta love how the first page of posters agree with not charging family members for labor, then when I elaborate the tables are turned and I'm some greedy entitled spoiled child who can't pay.
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Piccaboo
04-19-2012 at 07:33 PM.
04-19-2012 at 07:33 PM.
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It depends on the family. I think most family members, would somehow express thanks via beer, baked goods, or something. In the end, it's not just skill but also time and effort, which could have been spent on relaxing/doing something you like.
You mean like doing something with their own family on the time they have off Scratchchin What a unique concept Applause

Yesterday and last night, hubby and I spent our time, mind you hubby worked a 12 hr day; and helped out a "dear friend" - to get his truck back up and running. It was raining out; he needed to get to the bank, get the part needed, ensure we had the correct part. I was "his driver" to do all of this; ran into all types of road construction during "rush hour". Got him back to his vehicle, and had him remove the bolts to this part; to double check if we had one of two parts (as there were two different models of this part) to ensure we had the correct one. The Parts store closed at 9pm, it was 8:15pm, when we discovered they gave us the correct box, with the incorrect part in it Annoyed So off we go to get the correct part. Hubby shows up where the vehicle is, and we told him we had the tools there to complete the job; but nope, could not leave them there for him, as there was no one to watch over them while we were gone.

Got back with the correct part, and there is my hubby on the ground in the rain, replacing this part for "our dear friend", with no complaints on our part whatsoever - including all the running involved.

Once we all got home, and we didn't eat hubby and I until 9:30pm or later that evening; we got a text from our friend thanking us profusely for both of our help. That was all we needed from him, nothing more; and he knew that. Now had it been some certain family members, nope, we would not have gone through all of that trouble Nono2 They don't show the appreciation; nor do we get any respect back from them. It's called A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E and the way people treat you. Maybe OP's Father charges her, due to A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E and possibly to teach her a thing or two about life in general Scratchchin

News flash - just because you are the child of someone who owns a business does NOT entitle you to "freebies" - who taught you that you were "entitled" to this OP Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)

OP we are 24/7 care givers as well for my FIL - so time is very precious to us - as you state you will care for your father in his aging days - I'm highly doubting that by your current statements. You feel "entitled" to free services, because he is in this line of work. We have never felt we were "entitled" to free services from any family member, no matter what type of field they were in. We might have traded off services with each other, but never did we feel were were "entitled" to something free, just because they knew how to do something we did not.
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Piccaboo
04-19-2012 at 07:39 PM.
04-19-2012 at 07:39 PM.
Quote from Supergirl9801 :
Gotta love how the first page of posters agree with not charging family members for labor, then when I elaborate the tables are turned and I'm some greedy entitled spoiled child who can't pay.
See my reply above - you are NOT ENTITLED TO FREEBIES from anyone; including family who owns or is in a line of business that you wish to have work done through.

You never answered the question as to what skills or marketable skills you are able to return to your own family - is there none Scratchchin

If I want my Nephew who is excellent in IT to do work on my Computer(s); we'll trade off on vehicle repair work. What do you have to offer back to your F-A-T-H-E-R in lieu of payment for repairs Scratchchin
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