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How do I get pale again?
June 9, 2012 at
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Ok, so summer has started and I have been playing lots more tennis, I mean lots, avg. 10+ hours a week, and even using sunblock I have went up a good 5 shades, I am Chinese suppose to be lighter/light skin, yellow if you wanna say, now I look dark as some of the Hispanic people out there. Anything I can do? My parents get md at me for this b/c they say girls won't like me as I am so dark and stuff, and they always tell me to not play tennis although I do anyway. Anyway, any advice how to reverse this?
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Don't let anyone else tell you how to dress or look as long as you are happy with yourself
As long as you aren't getting dark in an unhealthy way, you'll be fine.
I want to add that I've heard that using an spf higher than 30 is kinda useless. I am always very pale, and would use spf 70+, but I recently gave up and started using 30, and have been fine. The main thing to remember is to reapply.
I said he was uncomfortable about his race due to his parents wanting him to be paler and making it an issue with him. Parents can really screw with a child's head.
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Don't play during peak sun hours (10 am - 4pm)
Find an indoor court.
I am an Asian girl and dark guys aren't unattractive. Who cares about the shade of skin.
But I just worry about skin cancer.
livinglife, OP's parents never said they'll disown him bc he's became dark. You are jumping to extreme conclusions. The way that Asian parents do that is more like advice. Very much like how some other parents would advice their kids not to gain weight or not to dress like goths or not to have certain radical haircuts or not to have tattoos. Or like people telling OP "you can't get a girl unless you're tan".
Every culture have social norms that are held about physical looks. Just bc it's different from the American social norms doesn't make his parents bad people. Every person holds a different opinion on what's acceptable for physically appearance, and culture has a lot of influence on these opinions. You may not believe that skin color matter to the appearance of a person but I'm sure there are some other factors of physical appearance that you deem unacceptable.
Zoe moon, OP's parents Asian belief that pale is better doesn't have to do with race. Don't jump to conclusions. You have to understand the cultural history behind that belief. It's based on class, not race. ALSO, OP said white bc in direct translation from Chinese, the word we use for pale skin color is white. We have a word for pale but you don't use it in reference to skin color. It's just a different language. No matter how fluent we are in English, the Chinese language will have a little effect on our English.
The Americas are some of the few places where the history of its people who stem from different continents and cultures all over the world struggled to coexist together and in the process racial tension became a prominent issue in our country, the US.
That's not so in other countries. For example, in China, there were not much outside nationalities living in our land in our history (LOL, yes, I say "our" also since I am Chinese-American) to have made an influence in the whole culture's belief that the white/pale color is better bc Caucasion people are white. You see, it doesn't even make sense right? Why would the Chinese based their long-held "pale/white" belief off the the Caucasian "white supremacy" belief when the Chinese aren't even Caucasian themselves, and in the past 5000+ years, most Chinese living in China had never even knew the existence of other "colors" of people? If the Chinese belief was linked to the "white supremacy" theory, the Chinese culture would had committed self-hate for hundreds of years.
The Chinese "white/pale" belief was simply based off class structure. The rich never had to do intensive outdoors labor and the poor had to. That was the reason that most cultures in the world's past history held the "white/pale" belief, even the European royalties who powdered their faces hundreds of years ago.
With that said, I understand OP and I live in a world where 2 cultures are mixed and we have to learn to balance both cultures in our lives.
Basically, everyone's advice on being comfortable with yourself is a good thing. Develop your own self-confidence. Don't let either cultural norms determine how you view yourself. Just be healthy and you're good. Just as much as you don't need to be white/pale, you also don't have to be buff and slim in order to be a valuable human being.
P.S. In case, you can't tell. I argue for the acceptance of people with different cultural believes, but I don't hold the Chinese pale/white belief myself. Like I said, who cares about what shade of skin color you are.
livinglife, OP's parents never said they'll disowning him bc he's became dark. You are jumping to extreme conclusions. The way that Asian parents do that is more like advice. Very much like how some other parents would advice their kids not to gain weight or not to dress like goths or not to have certain radical haircuts or not to have tattoos.
Every culture have social norms that are held about physical looks. Just bc it's different from the American social norms doesn't make his parents bad people. Every person holds a different opinion on what's acceptable for physically appearance, and culture has a lot of influence on these opinions. You may not believe that skin color matter to the appearance of a person but I'm sure there are some other factors about physical appearance that you deem unacceptable.
Zoe moon, OP's parents Asian belief that pale is better doesn't have to do with race. Don't jump to conclusions. You have to understand the cultural history behind that belief. It's based on class, not race. ALSO, OP said white bc in direct translation from Chinese, the word we use for pale skin color is white. We have a word for pale but you don't use it in reference to skin color. It's just a different language. No matter how fluent we are in English, the Chinese language will have a little effect on our English.
The Americas are some of the few places where the history of its people, who stem from different continents and cultures all over the world, struggled to coexist together and in the process racial tension became a prominent issue in our country, the US.
That's not so in other countries. For example, in China, there were not much outside nationalities living in our land in our history (LOL, yes, I say "our" also since I am Chinese-American) to have made an influence in the whole culture's belief that the white/pale color is better bc Caucasion people are white. You see, it doesn't even make sense right? Why would the Chinese based their long-held "pale/white" belief off the the Caucasian "white supremacy" belief when the Chinese aren't even Caucasian themselves, and in the past 5000+ years, most Chinese living in China had never even knew the existence of other "colors" of people? If the Chinese belief was linked to the "white supremacy" theory, the Chinese culture would had committed self-hate for hundreds of years.
The Chinese "white/pale" belief was simply based of class structure. The rich never had to do intensive outdoors labor and the poor had to. That was the reason that most cultures in the world's past history held the "white/pale" belief, even the European royalties who powdered their faces hundreds of years ago.
With that said, I understand OP and I live in a world where 2 cultures are mixed and we have to learned to balance both cultures in our lives.
Basically, everyone's advice on being comfortable with yourself is a good thing. Develop your own self-confidence. Don't let either cultural norms determine how you view yourself. Just be healthy and you're good. Just as much as you don't need to be white/pale, you also don't have to believe you have to be buff and slim in order to be a valuable human being.
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