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How do I get pale again?
June 9, 2012 at
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Ok, so summer has started and I have been playing lots more tennis, I mean lots, avg. 10+ hours a week, and even using sunblock I have went up a good 5 shades, I am Chinese suppose to be lighter/light skin, yellow if you wanna say, now I look dark as some of the Hispanic people out there. Anything I can do? My parents get md at me for this b/c they say girls won't like me as I am so dark and stuff, and they always tell me to not play tennis although I do anyway. Anyway, any advice how to reverse this?
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Any girls who aren't going to like you because you are too dark are girls that you shouldn't waste your time with anyway. If you love Tennis, then keep playing and just enjoy yourself. Don't worry about the outside and just be a person on the inside that others would want to be around... and the girls you meet by being that way, are the ones worth your time.
Here is a Pic:
That tan line isn't too great.
And over the summer I should be hitting the gym some more. So I should slim down more.
Didn't want to get in trouble for copyright you know...
Check out guildwars 2 when it out, or do some evercrack. Whiten you right up
In fact we're ahead of you in "looking thin"
Americans really only have large prevalence of anorexic women.
Japan is seeing mass proliferation of anorexic males.
livinglife, OP's parents never said they'll disown him bc he's became dark. You are jumping to extreme conclusions. The way that Asian parents do that is more like advice. Very much like how some other parents would advice their kids not to gain weight or not to dress like goths or not to have certain radical haircuts or not to have tattoos. Or like people telling OP "you can't get a girl unless you're tan".
Every culture have social norms that are held about physical looks. Just bc it's different from the American social norms doesn't make his parents bad people. Every person holds a different opinion on what's acceptable for physically appearance, and culture has a lot of influence on these opinions. You may not believe that skin color matter to the appearance of a person but I'm sure there are some other factors of physical appearance that you deem unacceptable.
Zoe moon, OP's parents Asian belief that pale is better doesn't have to do with race. Don't jump to conclusions. You have to understand the cultural history behind that belief. It's based on class, not race. ALSO, OP said white bc in direct translation from Chinese, the word we use for pale skin color is white. We have a word for pale but you don't use it in reference to skin color. It's just a different language. No matter how fluent we are in English, the Chinese language will have a little effect on our English.
The Americas are some of the few places where the history of its people who stem from different continents and cultures all over the world struggled to coexist together and in the process racial tension became a prominent issue in our country, the US.
That's not so in other countries. For example, in China, there were not much outside nationalities living in our land in our history (LOL, yes, I say "our" also since I am Chinese-American) to have made an influence in the whole culture's belief that the white/pale color is better bc Caucasion people are white. You see, it doesn't even make sense right? Why would the Chinese based their long-held "pale/white" belief off the the Caucasian "white supremacy" belief when the Chinese aren't even Caucasian themselves, and in the past 5000+ years, most Chinese living in China had never even knew the existence of other "colors" of people? If the Chinese belief was linked to the "white supremacy" theory, the Chinese culture would had committed self-hate for hundreds of years.
The Chinese "white/pale" belief was simply based off class structure. The rich never had to do intensive outdoors labor and the poor had to. That was the reason that most cultures in the world's past history held the "white/pale" belief, even the European royalties who powdered their faces hundreds of years ago.
When was the last time you went back.
Be careful with that, I'm pale skinned too and got burned a few times on my neckline. Once I got up into my late forties, I started noticing that the neckline area has some red blotches and uneven skin tone. I'm sure it's skin damage from those two or three burns back in my 20's. The back of my hands have a lot of damage too, I wish I'd used sunblock all the time and not just at the beach.
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livinglife, OP's parents never said they'll disown him bc he's became dark. You are jumping to extreme conclusions. The way that Asian parents do that is more like advice. Very much like how some other parents would advice their kids not to gain weight or not to dress like goths or not to have certain radical haircuts or not to have tattoos. Or like people telling OP "you can't get a girl unless you're tan".
Every culture have social norms that are held about physical looks. Just bc it's different from the American social norms doesn't make his parents bad people. Every person holds a different opinion on what's acceptable for physically appearance, and culture has a lot of influence on these opinions. You may not believe that skin color matter to the appearance of a person but I'm sure there are some other factors of physical appearance that you deem unacceptable.
Zoe moon, OP's parents Asian belief that pale is better doesn't have to do with race. Don't jump to conclusions. You have to understand the cultural history behind that belief. It's based on class, not race. ALSO, OP said white bc in direct translation from Chinese, the word we use for pale skin color is white. We have a word for pale but you don't use it in reference to skin color. It's just a different language. No matter how fluent we are in English, the Chinese language will have a little effect on our English.
The Americas are some of the few places where the history of its people who stem from different continents and cultures all over the world struggled to coexist together and in the process racial tension became a prominent issue in our country, the US.
That's not so in other countries. For example, in China, there were not much outside nationalities living in our land in our history (LOL, yes, I say "our" also since I am Chinese-American) to have made an influence in the whole culture's belief that the white/pale color is better bc Caucasion people are white. You see, it doesn't even make sense right? Why would the Chinese based their long-held "pale/white" belief off the the Caucasian "white supremacy" belief when the Chinese aren't even Caucasian themselves, and in the past 5000+ years, most Chinese living in China had never even knew the existence of other "colors" of people? If the Chinese belief was linked to the "white supremacy" theory, the Chinese culture would had committed self-hate for hundreds of years.
The Chinese "white/pale" belief was simply based off class structure. The rich never had to do intensive outdoors labor and the poor had to. That was the reason that most cultures in the world's past history held the "white/pale" belief, even the European royalties who powdered their faces hundreds of years ago.
op> i don't know of any davis store that stocks the creams, but if you can mail order them, or if you can suffer through wearing long sleeves it'll help.
Your innocence is endearing (that's a compliment). Glad you got your mirror cleaned.
People assuming too much
livinglife, OP's parents never said they'll disown him bc he's became dark. You are jumping to extreme conclusions. The way that Asian parents do that is more like advice. Very much like how some other parents would advice their kids not to gain weight or not to dress like goths or not to have certain radical haircuts or not to have tattoos. Or like people telling OP "you can't get a girl unless you're tan".
Every culture have social norms that are held about physical looks. Just bc it's different from the American social norms doesn't make his parents bad people. Every person holds a different opinion on what's acceptable for physically appearance, and culture has a lot of influence on these opinions. You may not believe that skin color matter to the appearance of a person but I'm sure there are some other factors of physical appearance that you deem unacceptable.
Zoe moon, OP's parents Asian belief that pale is better doesn't have to do with race. Don't jump to conclusions. You have to understand the cultural history behind that belief. It's based on class, not race. ALSO, OP said white bc in direct translation from Chinese, the word we use for pale skin color is white. We have a word for pale but you don't use it in reference to skin color. It's just a different language. No matter how fluent we are in English, the Chinese language will have a little effect on our English.
The Americas are some of the few places where the history of its people who stem from different continents and cultures all over the world struggled to coexist together and in the process racial tension became a prominent issue in our country, the US.
That's not so in other countries. For example, in China, there were not much outside nationalities living in our land in our history (LOL, yes, I say "our" also since I am Chinese-American) to have made an influence in the whole culture's belief that the white/pale color is better bc Caucasion people are white. You see, it doesn't even make sense right? Why would the Chinese based their long-held "pale/white" belief off the the Caucasian "white supremacy" belief when the Chinese aren't even Caucasian themselves, and in the past 5000+ years, most Chinese living in China had never even knew the existence of other "colors" of people? If the Chinese belief was linked to the "white supremacy" theory, the Chinese culture would had committed self-hate for hundreds of years.
The Chinese "white/pale" belief was simply based off class structure. The rich never had to do intensive outdoors labor and the poor had to. That was the reason that most cultures in the world's past history held the "white/pale" belief, even the European royalties who powdered their faces hundreds of years ago.
Devils advocate aside, you make some great points, but you'd have to be a bit naive in this country to see something posted that essentially says "mom and dad say the darker I am, the worse it is for me" and not expect to get a bit of knee jerk backlash. Right or wrong, that's kind of how the OP came across. And to be honest, if I saw someone posting about how their parents said something along the lines of "no girl will ever want you if you dress like that and wear your hair like that and have a nose ring" I'd have a similar reaction to the people you quoted above.
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Just out of curiosity... what do you think about female genital mutilation? How about honor killings? Or mortuary cannibalism? Or slavery? How about racism or sexism? Or other kinds of prejudices?
It's usually a pretty big hint to not bother when no one else is replying, either.
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Did you check the size of your penis lately? It probably grew due to darker skin pigmentation.