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Girl Says I'm "moving too fast"

97 14 June 13, 2012 at 12:10 AM
I met this 18 year old girl on an online dating website. I am 22. She gave me her phone number and we have been texting each other almost every day for about a month. She says she likes me a lot and wants to cuddle and I am sweet. A few days ago (Saturday) I text her and get no response. Today she texts me this: It was just moving too fast. Don't worry one bit. You are a great guy and any girl would be soooo lucky to have you. You have been nothing but sweet and kind to me. It's all good. What does she mean it's been moving too fast? We haven't even met yet. So I text her back asking if we are ok and apologize for moving too fast and she says : Yes. Seriously don't stress. Did I lose this girl for good? Why do I get the feeling that its not "all good" even though she says it is?

Thanks for any help and advice
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06-13-2012 at 12:14 AM.
06-13-2012 at 12:14 AM.
Quote from Iphoneguy1 :
I met this 18 year old girl on an online dating website. I am 22. She gave me her phone number and we have been texting each other almost every day for about a month. She says she likes me a lot and wants to cuddle and I am sweet. A few days ago (Saturday) I text her and get no response. Today she texts me this: It was just moving too fast. Don't worry one bit. You are a great guy and any girl would be soooo lucky to have you. You have been nothing but sweet and kind to me. It's all good.lWhat does she mean it's been moving too fast? We haven't even met yet. So I text her back asking if we are ok and apologize for moving too fast and she says : Yes. Seriously don't stress.lDid I lose this girl for good? Why do I get the feeling that its not "all good" even though she says it is?

Thanks for any help and advice
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06-13-2012 at 12:48 AM.
06-13-2012 at 12:48 AM.
She seems like a bit of a flake to me. Either that or a tease. Some people want someone (or thing) until they get close to the object of their desire. Then they turn and run.
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06-13-2012 at 01:55 AM.
06-13-2012 at 01:55 AM.
Quote from Iphoneguy1 :
I met this 18 year old girl on an online dating website. I am 22. She gave me her phone number and we have been texting each other almost every day for about a month. She says she likes me a lot and wants to cuddle and I am sweet. A few days ago (Saturday) I text her and get no response. Today she texts me this: It was just moving too fast. Don't worry one bit. You are a great guy and any girl would be soooo lucky to have you. You have been nothing but sweet and kind to me. It's all good. What does she mean it's been moving too fast? We haven't even met yet. So I text her back asking if we are ok and apologize for moving too fast and she says : Yes. Seriously don't stress. Did I lose this girl for good? Why do I get the feeling that its not "all good" even though she says it is?

Thanks for any help and advice
I'll translate that for you...

She's 18 which is very young and you're 4 years older. It's cool but scary for her. Texting every day for an entire month is moving too fast to her because it's overwhelming, especially when she's never met you. Maybe she wants to text other people? Nothing but sweet and all good means she's got other fish she'd rather fry and you've been a welcome distraction. Don't stress means, "I'm feeling bad for stringing you along a bit perhaps but it's not my fault I can't make up my mind."

She's a normal healthy 18 year old girl. You know? Not looking to make a serious commitment or jump into anything. I think that if you give her some space and try to be friends first it'll all work out. The reason you feel something is off is because she's telling you you're a sweet guy but backing off. Sometimes giving someone some space helps and sometimes not.
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06-13-2012 at 02:19 AM.
06-13-2012 at 02:19 AM.
Quote from Iphoneguy1 :
I met this 18 year old girl on an online dating website. I am 22. She gave me her phone number and we have been texting each other almost every day for about a month. She says she likes me a lot and wants to cuddle and I am sweet. A few days ago (Saturday) I text her and get no response. Today she texts me this: It was just moving too fast. Don't worry one bit. You are a great guy and any girl would be soooo lucky to have you. You have been nothing but sweet and kind to me. It's all good. What does she mean it's been moving too fast? We haven't even met yet. So I text her back asking if we are ok and apologize for moving too fast and she says : Yes. Seriously don't stress. Did I lose this girl for good? Why do I get the feeling that its not "all good" even though she says it is?

Thanks for any help and advice
She is in another relationship with someone she also met online but that relationship has already progressed further than yours. She is just keeping you on the hook in case that one doesn't work out so she will have a second choice to fall back on.
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06-13-2012 at 04:36 AM.
06-13-2012 at 04:36 AM.
Quote from Iphoneguy1 :
I met this 18 year old girl on an online dating website. I am 22. She gave me her phone number and we have been texting each other almost every day for about a month. She says she likes me a lot and wants to cuddle and I am sweet. A few days ago (Saturday) I text her and get no response. Today she texts me this: It was just moving too fast. Don't worry one bit. You are a great guy and any girl would be soooo lucky to have you. You have been nothing but sweet and kind to me. It's all good. What does she mean it's been moving too fast? We haven't even met yet. So I text her back asking if we are ok and apologize for moving too fast and she says : Yes. Seriously don't stress. Did I lose this girl for good? Why do I get the feeling that its not "all good" even though she says it is?

Thanks for any help and advice
She is a "he". Or maybe an "MLV".
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06-13-2012 at 04:39 AM.
06-13-2012 at 04:39 AM.
She wants you to back off.
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06-13-2012 at 04:58 AM.
06-13-2012 at 04:58 AM.
She's fake or met another guy.
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06-13-2012 at 04:59 AM.
06-13-2012 at 04:59 AM.
Quote from MissyMooMoo :
She is a "he". Or maybe an "MLV".
this.

I feel bad for OP, whichever it is.
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06-13-2012 at 05:09 AM.
06-13-2012 at 05:09 AM.
She didn't like the pictures of your penis and she wants you to stop sending them.
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06-13-2012 at 05:12 AM.
06-13-2012 at 05:12 AM.
You got attached to a person without even meeting them? what if its a 65 year old man doing it for the lulz? Does he/she not live by you? Did you pursue actually meeting them and taking him/her on a real date?
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idkist
06-13-2012 at 05:12 AM.
06-13-2012 at 05:12 AM.
Sounds like things haven't really started so if I were you I'd just move on.
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06-13-2012 at 05:13 AM.
06-13-2012 at 05:13 AM.
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She's fake or met another and is a guy.
FTFY Whee
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06-13-2012 at 05:25 AM.
06-13-2012 at 05:25 AM.
She's holding out for the iphone 5. Sorry, boss. Comfort
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06-13-2012 at 05:39 AM.
06-13-2012 at 05:39 AM.
Quote from idkMyBFFist :
Sounds like things haven't really started so if I were you I'd just move on.
True, how can you lose someone you never even had or met.

Maybe shed like him more if he was an android guy?
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