RETIRED - The Official VS, Express, Beauty & more Thread

I think I want a Vegas wedding someday. I'm really not much of a planning person, so I think the stress of planning a big wedding would really freak me out. I always sort of thought that maybe if I decided that I missed out on a big wedding, I could throw a really big first anniversary party. I've heard of people doing that. Perhaps that would be the best of both world. Who knows what will happen. Right now, I just want to get through my Ph.D.

Oh, and I also HATE showers. I hate the stupid games, little prizes, and gossip. I hope I do not have to have a shower...

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what did you do instead? i don't mind the games tho, probably because i've never actually played them before. in fact, i've only ever been to 1 shower and it was the one that i organized.
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I also HATE showers. I hate the stupid games, little prizes, and gossip. I hope I do not have to have a shower...

All bets are off day of! I hear you on the fam invites. We gave my parents a set number that they could invite. To be polite they invited ppl they knew weren't interested/couldn't make it, then wanted replacements for the ones they were really inviting. She didn't like it when DH and I said, "nope, that's it, your 'No' becomes a spot for more of our friends". DH & I spent a lot of time handmaking them - she should have sent photocopies to the "fake invites"

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Why is the hotel $600 instead of $300???

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holy, that's a huge tab. you really should have just said no. and you should have consulted me before ordering your dress! i got 3 for 400. b2g1 free! i'm surprised you didn't get your dress yet actually, considering i already got mine and i think i ordered after you.
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i really despise flowers in non-flower colors. i think grey flowers are extremely ugly (and they look like death ). i also do not like green or blue flowers, even though i love those colors. i guess i'm weird and conservative in that sense. it's okay - grey will just be less pronounced - i was having inner conflicts anyway, because the inside of the mansion we're using is dark wood (as in, even the walls are wood) which clashes with charcoal imo. it's really not a big deal.

i feel bad for friends having to pay to be in my wedding. i know they don't mind it, but i still feel bad about it. i'm lucky that the friends that are in our wedding are all not struggling for money, but one friend didn't make it to my bachelorette and i think it was mostly a money issue. i felt bad about that - i have a lot of friends that aren't local and they will be travelling just to be here for the wedding. it's sad that they won't be able to attend the other events. i even opted for a cheaper bachelorette by doing it in vegas - the flight isn't bad coming from LA, and clubbing was free. we didn't eat at pricey restaurants, and brought our own alcohol, so i hope it wasn't *too* much for friends to pay. i bought the girls' dresses and will be paying for hair/makeup because i would have felt bad if they had to pay for that AND the bachelorette and shower, considering how much people spend on these things. i know a friend who was in a wedding (very fancy one) where the bachelorette was in ny. they ended up spending 1k each on it.

I love it!

Just socialize nerdi.

sorry about the wedding gab

ETA- the express thing is called the 'e-Rewards Opinion Panel' ??

$300/night x 2 nights. If I weren't in the wedding, I could have stayed with my in-laws (tho they were trying to put me w/ a toddler, if you remember)

It's probably worth mentioning that I'm still paying for that move

It's ok. I like the wedding talk!

wow!
All bets are off day of! I hear you on the fam invites. We gave my parents a set number that they could invite. To be polite they invited ppl they knew weren't interested/couldn't make it, then wanted replacements for the ones they were really inviting. She didn't like it when DH and I said, "nope, that's it, your 'No' becomes a spot for more of our friends". DH & I spent a lot of time handmaking them - she should have sent photocopies to the "fake invites"

Oh yes, the back is supposed to be low. I am happy that I am not hanging out of it. I am not sure about wearing it on vaca. Maybe if you had a villa, but not a regular hotel room. Maybe on a nice quiet walk on the beach. I would not wear it as a beach coverup because it is too long. I also was not sleep in it because it is too restrictive. On the fence about keeping it.

I would like a small wedding. I think my friends would outnumber my family. If I need someone, there are two family members who would be there for me without question. I have a lot more friends who are the same way.

B-shower game, it's different & u never know what people would say: guess the white stuff (tongue in cheek, of course) - lay out white powders (baking soda, powder detergent, flour, salt, sugar), white gels (dish detergent, toothpaste, cortisone cream, scrape out Oreo filling) and see what people come up with. You could also do an activity instead of a game. We hired a lady from Michael's to come in and do a cupcake decorating lesson- it's nothing too serious and you get to eat I also liked the anonymous advice for the bride- sometimes it's and others are :funny:

Hehe! That's a nice way to go about doing it. I don't think I will have any handmade invites. Maybe a select few, but I may go the way of Facebook invites as I've seen being done by my generation. Saves $$ for something people will 90% throw out anyway!

Agreed to the villa statement! That's only about where I'd imagine it being worn. Maybe try it on a few more times to see if you still really like it

I am still deciding if I should get that bra I saw in stores...I've never seen anything like it! I took a picture and am drooling over it. Gonna sleep on it.

You know, I like those ideas. I think my ideal shower would be having a nice lunch at a nice restaurant maybe over looking the beach, some gift openings and that's it! Maybe afternoon tea. No games, none of that. This will probably save more money and time and headache

you and the beach!

i don't mind games - i think the games are fun, but it depends on the games and more importantly, the crowd. games help when you don't really know each other, but if all the attendees are acquaintances then you probably don't need them. it helped me a lot when i was organizing - i didn't mind coming up with games (there are a lot of online resources) or coming up with prizes/favors (i just went through my stash ). it didn't change the cost any and i think it made it more fun for everyone because we were all doing the same activity, as opposed to groups of people talking amongst themselves the whole time. depends on the crowd tho.

i'm asking my friend to host at her house, because it's a nice house and next to a lake (so it's pretty), and also it's cheaper that way. it wasn't that expensive when i hosted her shower bc it was only 8-10 ppl, so it was like under $200 total and i split it with a bridesmaid (her sister). i'm hoping it costs her less than that. i should remind her that she can ask the other bm's to help pay for it and help organize. it's going to be in the afternoon so we won't be paying for a meal for everyone, at least.

oh and my invites cost me like, $50 or so total. (add stamps and it becomes more like 100, but still not that much!) you definitely do not need to spend a lot on them! i think it's nice to get mail, so i was opposed to doing an evite. ours were very simple tho. but a lot of people said they were very me, or very cute, or both.