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So my wife is dating this guy...
July 5, 2007 at
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..I think it's time to dump her. Should we get divorced?
She went out last Saturday night with some guy, stayed out until 1 am. Then on Tuesday, she's out again until 1 am, says they went to eat and then a movie!!?! Last night, 1:30. It's getting later, I guess it's time to dump her!
What would you do?
She went out last Saturday night with some guy, stayed out until 1 am. Then on Tuesday, she's out again until 1 am, says they went to eat and then a movie!!?! Last night, 1:30. It's getting later, I guess it's time to dump her!
What would you do?
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I never chose anyone/anything over my bf. Period.
Know the truth..(emphasis on truth) before you get a divorce.
I'm not trying to be naive here - just pointing out that maybe everything you think is going on really isn't going on. But it's hard to say; obviously you know her better than any of us.
I say time to move on. take what you can and let the lawyers deal with the finances.
find out who her male friend is first. might want to confront him as well. find out what his intentions are.
1) Get an attorney
2) Cancel joint accounts
3) Do NOT move out. Not until you talk with the attorney
4) Withdraw half the money from joint accounts. Save some money
5) Safeguard personal property.
There is no need for further discussion. Once someone cheats then loving them again destroys a part of you and you end up hating them. Cheating is not just physical and you will never trust again. Every time she decides to go anywhere you will always have it in your mind and it is no way to live. Walk away, it is better to walk alone than to live in Hell.
That's how I feel right now.
My paycheck is already direct deposited to my personal account, and then I x-fer it to the joint account and pay bills. I'll probably start paying from the personal account from now on.
We both work (usually.. she's been unemployed for 2 weeks, but starts again in a week). I make more than her. I'm worried because her Mom is so selfish, always giving advice to try and get more money. When her Mom goes out to eat, she almost always complains about the food to try and get a free meal.
With my bf, I pretty much made him everything..for me.friend..bf, co- diet-buster ..everything..but i ended up losing most of my friends because i was always always hanging out with him. not that i regret it..but i'd like to have my friends too ..ya know
my best friend is a guy..whom i hang out with often. i go out to a bar or club with him..on fridays..or weekends..and ther have been times i came home at 5:00 in the morning..now..i don expect my bf to dump me!!
be sure before you take a decision
That's how I feel right now.
But 3 times in one week, staying out until 1am? I'm sorry, but that's extreme in our situation.
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I think we're all trying to relate this situation to our own situations. I value everyone's input, and hope nobody feels bad if there are comments on the opposite side of what you feel/believe.
If you are referring to me as in being ok, my guy is ok with me..but again..we have been friends for over 7 years now.( i mean my friend and me..and that was before i met my bf)
If you are referring to me as in being ok, my guy is ok with me..but again..we have been friends for over 7 years now.( i mean my friend and me..and that was before i met my bf)
I think I have a prob with the 1am thing. Not that 2 people couldn't do whatever they wanted to do any time of the day or night. It more of a respect issue for me I think. To be out until 1am with a "friend" of the opposite sex, in a one on one situation...is very disrespectful to one's so imo.
Respect is high on my list of must haves for a healthy relationship.
But 3 times in one week, staying out until 1am? I'm sorry, but that's extreme in our situation.
You've already given her the ultimatum, and it sounds like she made her decision. At this point, I think if you feel like there is ANYTHING worth salvaging, that you get to the bottom of this, and seek out some counseling.
Good luck babe...this whole situation sucks.
I think I have a prob with the 1am thing. Not that 2 people couldn't do whatever they wanted to do any time of the day or night. It more of a respect issue for me I think. To be out until 1am with a "friend" of the opposite sex, in a one on one situation...is very disrespectful to one's so imo.
Respect is high on my list of must haves for a healthy relationship.
I felt like it was a slap in the face
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