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My 4yr old was left at his dad's home w/ a 10 and 8 yr old...what do I do?
February 18, 2013 at
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sorry people. I never venture into the Lounge, but I figured this was worth the question. My son is four and his dad and I have been split up/divorced for 3 yrs+. we have split custody and trade off every other week. we live in TX.
My son told me that he was left at home with the other two boys that live in his home that are 10 and 8 (ex lives with his GF and her 2 kids)
I am thinking of getting a lawyer and taking him to court for child endangerment.
I can understand maybe a 13+ yr old watching some other kid but not 10 and 8. They have no knowledge of CPR, first aid, calling 911 in a panic, fire danger, not answering the front door.
Any thoughts, suggestions? I am kind of scared of turning his dad in, as to what can happen on the weeks I dont have him, but I feel helpless putting my son in that situation.
I called my ex and he admitted they left them but "only for a few mins, and it wasnt my concern on the weeks that arent mine"
(please excuse the typing as my s and w key are busted, so I have to cut and paste. )
My son told me that he was left at home with the other two boys that live in his home that are 10 and 8 (ex lives with his GF and her 2 kids)
I am thinking of getting a lawyer and taking him to court for child endangerment.
I can understand maybe a 13+ yr old watching some other kid but not 10 and 8. They have no knowledge of CPR, first aid, calling 911 in a panic, fire danger, not answering the front door.
Any thoughts, suggestions? I am kind of scared of turning his dad in, as to what can happen on the weeks I dont have him, but I feel helpless putting my son in that situation.
I called my ex and he admitted they left them but "only for a few mins, and it wasnt my concern on the weeks that arent mine"
(please excuse the typing as my s and w key are busted, so I have to cut and paste. )
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I guess that may not help my case
I tend to keep my political views to myself.
funny thing being i have no clue who cali is =)
I can stand by that statement.
I rarely rave.
I tend to keep my political views to myself.
I can stand by that statement.
I rarely rave.
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you should come back, NM 156 makes it entertaining to watch a train wreck
That's okay, I'll pass. Same people, same arguments, same partisan bullshit. I've had more than enough for one lifetime.
apparently im too mean to be a regular on the lounge.
I'd point you to the thread in which i chased a regular lounger out of the GL, but it was deleted
apparently im too mean to be a regular on the lounge.
I'd point you to the thread in which i chased a regular lounger out of the GL, but it was deleted
You can't be too mean to be a regular in the lounge. Seriously. Have you seen some of the regulars here?
You can't be too mean to be a regular in the lounge. Seriously. Have you seen some of the regulars here?
How long was your son left alone? Your ex claims "a few minutes". If it is maybe 20 minutes or less, I think that's pretty reasonable. If it was 10 hours, then yea, you have a legit gripe.. All the area inbetween is kind of a grey area.
A lot depends on the 8 and 10 year old kids too.
But honestly, people have 16 year old babysitters that don't know CPR. Heck, most parents don't know CPR. I guess I don't see that as an issue. I'm guessing a 10 year old knows how to call 911.
It's probably too late for this, but a calm discussion with your ex would've been nice.. Like ask him if Billy the 10 year old knows how to call 911, etc.
Calling the law isn't likely to help. In our state, you have to pretty much prove that the child was in danger, which is pretty difficult unless something bad happens (I have checked on this with several policemen in our state).. The law doesn't want to go around arresting parents if no one is hurt, and they don't want to dictate where the grey area is.
So.. I would wait a few days, let both of you cool off, and try to talk calmly about it. Keep in mind, you're not really in a position to force him to do anything.. I can relate to what you are going through though.. I'm not heartless, just trying to explain the reality of the situation. It's nice you care about your kids' safety.
Second piece of advice.. If you post something on the lounge, you are lucky to get 2 or 3 helpful replies. You will have to wade through about 100 stupid posts to get to those few helpful replies. This is normalcy here. Good luck with everything.
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Second piece of advice.. If you post something on the lounge, you are lucky to get 2 or 3 helpful replies. You will have to wade through about 100 stupid posts to get to those few helpful replies. This is normalcy here. Good luck with everything.