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Serious question for you older and maybe younger women out there...do you still want sexy, sexy time after 50? No OT please.
April 13, 2018 at
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I am getting a lot of excuses as my gal gets older, she says it's all ever think of, but I don't buy that. I think she should be happy, most guys my age are limp noodles,broken down, fat, and half dead..
I say if theres a problem lets fix it. I only want women's opinions in this thread please..
I say if theres a problem lets fix it. I only want women's opinions in this thread please..
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You have several times mentioned what we as women expect. We are also trained from early age that men want certain things, whether all men want the same thing isn't always discussed. The biggest thing is youth and the more perfect body/face/tone, skin, etc. that comes with youth. It's hard for us to transition as we look in the mirror everyday and see things "heading south". We, no matter how far we feel we've progressed as a society, still accept that men become "distinguished" with age and women become old. Even if we are told that we still look good, it's hard to accept when youthful beauty and sex are everywhere we look.
You mentioned breast cancer. I'm not sure what kind of treatment she had or still has but that can really kill your sex drive, as can a lack of hormones from menopause. Her Dr may have suggestions on how to handle that. For many women a few months of testosterone (yes, it's in our body too) helps immensely. There are other things that can help.
Lastly, have things gotten routine? If so, maybe ask her what would help. Romance? Spontaneity? Travel? Don't accept a lack of answers. Many times one or the other will give up and not push for dialog. If everything else fails, tell her that it's a deal breaker. Be blatantly honest. She may just be taking things for granted and may need "shaking up". We all occasionally need a wake-up call If nothing works, find someone who can appreciate you. Life's is far too short to settle.
That's all I wanted to hear ... Can I watch the news tomorrow?.. Will strive for W.J.W.
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Is this the only thing in the relationship you aren't getting?
Is there something she is needing that you aren't providing?
Are you out there thinking "I can do better because I'm not a limp noodle,broken down, fat, and half dead"? If so...are you willing to take that risk as compared to what else you have in the relationship?
I desperately want to ask frequency...but I won't. A few times a week isn't as bad as every few months, and really a big difference. Perhaps you are getting a normal amount?
Is this the only thing in the relationship you aren't getting?
Is there something she is needing that you aren't providing?
Are you out there thinking "I can do better because I'm not a limp noodle,broken down, fat, and half dead"? If so...are you willing to take that risk as compared to what else you have in the relationship?
I desperately want to ask frequency...but I won't. A few times a week isn't as bad as every few months, and really a big difference. Perhaps you are getting a normal amount?
You have several times mentioned what we as women expect. We are also trained from early age that men want certain things, whether all men want the same thing isn't always discussed. The biggest thing is youth and the more perfect body/face/tone, skin, etc. that comes with youth. It's hard for us to transition as we look in the mirror everyday and see things "heading south". We, no matter how far we feel we've progressed as a society, still accept that men become "distinguished" with age and women become old. Even if we are told that we still look good, it's hard to accept when youthful beauty and sex are everywhere we look.
You mentioned breast cancer. I'm not sure what kind of treatment she had or still has but that can really kill your sex drive, as can a lack of hormones from menopause. Her Dr may have suggestions on how to handle that. For many women a few months of testosterone (yes, it's in our body too) helps immensely. There are other things that can help.
Lastly, have things gotten routine? If so, maybe ask her what would help. Romance? Spontaneity? Travel? Don't accept a lack of answers. Many times one or the other will give up and not push for dialog. If everything else fails, tell her that it's a deal breaker. Be blatantly honest. She may just be taking things for granted and may need "shaking up". We all occasionally need a wake-up call If nothing works, find someone who can appreciate you. Life's is far too short to settle.
I bought her a nice exercise bike to use, so she can feel better.She is actually starting to use it every day. I am hoping it helps with any depression she might have.
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I don't think age has anything to do with this and is probably a physical and mental health issue or a relationship issue.
Although based on your limp noodle comments, I wonder if you are actually even pleasing her correctly. Auditioning for "When Harry met Sally" gets boring after awhile.
Let's start simple:
Only a daily basis, how much do you touch each other? Do you hug? Kiss? Even a simple peck on the cheek? Hold hands? Cuddle? If you are not doing these things multiple times a day, without the expectation of sex, then you should probably start by working on these things.
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