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GoFundMe advice

313 54 December 5, 2018 at 06:51 AM in Chat
I am NOT asking for money for my campaign. I am asking for brainstorming on how to get this going to help me get my family back on its feet.

I was the victim of a home burglary on Thanksgiving Day. I don't have Renter's Insurance (don't want to go into the reason why here) and lost pretty much everything. My GoFundMe to help my family get back on its feet hasn't really gotten anywhere. I am looking for advice on what to do to help it get out and spread and maybe find people that are willing to donate to the cause.

I have a former Playboy Playmate (from 1969) that opened the GoFundMe for my family. She has posted it on her Facebook fan page.

The campaign lists what happened, a list of some of the things that were taken and videos from the security system that were directly uploaded to the Internet that were completed before the network router was taken down. It has a list of things that needs to be replaced and an estimated cost. It goes into the background of each of us and what we have done for the community. There is a link to a "newsboard" type site where the issue is openly discussed and even mentions someone needs to do a GoFundMe but nobody did anything. The campaign states that there were other funds donated through another organization but that paid for the replacement of passports and a few other things not listed that are not part of this campaign.

There are photos of the police report with redacted sections of the full address, a couple of last names and signatures. I don't want people to know our full address nor the last name of a friend that helped us. Signatures were blocked out for obvious reasons.

Can you think of anything else that might be tried to help us?

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12-05-2018 at 11:06 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:06 AM.
Quote from Fallacy :
QPLR

OP, unless you're a cute little child dying of some horrible disease, you're unlikely to get much money from Go Fund Me. And also, passports, you want people to pay to replace your passports? Seriously?

And finally, what's with the culture of shared responsibility? You obviously have money for IP cameras that aren't cheap, but you don't have money for renters insurance and/or to replace your passport? It sucks what happened to you, I agree, but why should your friends or a bunch of strangers online help you rebuild your personal wealth? What's next, you under-insured your car and need money to repair it? Shit, I want a Ferrari, maybe I should start a gofundme? If I get $1 from 500k people, I can get the sports car! You know what else, my house is too small, can I have $10M to buy a mansion?

Soap Box

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One-hundred farkin' percent this.

I see this way too often these days. Something "tragic" happens and instantly the "victim" puts out their hands as though everyone needs to jump up and save them.

Yep, this sucks.. However, renters insurance is cheap as fark. I pay $150 for $20k of personal property + other shit. This is for the entire year! There is zero reason to not get renters insurance.

No one should jump up to replace this shit for you, that's what renters insurance is for... Some of this replacement stuff sounds so trivial like your passports? It's not like they stole your whole house and everything in it. Take out a personal loan or save up until you can replace stuff. Buy cheap replacements at goodwill or whatever. How ridiculous to assume others should make you whole.
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flyboynm
12-05-2018 at 11:32 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:32 AM.
Quote from emelvee :
They spent the money on security cameras instead.
No, we used it to bring the elderly Mother-In-Law down from Alaska. Living on a student budget and the money for that had to come from somewhere. It looked like the best place to get the money from at the time.

Where we are is OUTSIDE the US where firearms are pretty much banned.

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12-05-2018 at 11:40 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:40 AM.
Quote from saint. :
Sorry to hear about what happened. I can't suggest anything as I'd only recommend on concentrating efforts outside of gofundme.
We are. I am just trying to brainstorm on what can be done to try to get that going. We are dead in the water until we can replace missing computer equipment. My wife works from home and I am a PhD student whom lost all his research when they took the safes, lock boxes and other things that had my backups inside. We have 3 buildings on the property that had different things spread out in case something happened in one of them.
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Any advice will require photos of the Playboy Playmate (from 1969 or shortly after, not today, thanks).
LOL - do a search on "Lorrie Menconi Miss February 1969"
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Little good that did.
Wrong! We got video of the burglars in the act. It was recording directly to the Internet and stopped after they ripped the router out of the wall. They also left behind all power adapters. In this country, it is EXTREMELY difficult to get Clevo power supplies.
Quote from Fallacy :
QPLR

OP, unless you're a cute little child dying of some horrible disease, you're unlikely to get much money from Go Fund Me. And also, passports, you want people to pay to replace your passports? Seriously?

And finally, what's with the culture of shared responsibility? You obviously have money for IP cameras that aren't cheap, but you don't have money for renters insurance and/or to replace your passport? It sucks what happened to you, I agree, but why should your friends or a bunch of strangers online help you rebuild your personal wealth? What's next, you under-insured your car and need money to repair it? Shit, I want a Ferrari, maybe I should start a gofundme? If I get $1 from 500k people, I can get the sports car! You know what else, my house is too small, can I have $10M to buy a mansion?



/rant
ZModo cameras cost less than $70 on Amazon. I bought them on sale before I went back to school.

Basically you are now blaming the victim for having things stolen. I gave up my job to come down here to help with a charitable cause - Earthquake relief. While doing that, I decided to start working on a PhD.

If you want to find out what is wrong with the United States, just look in the mirror. Greed, unwillingness to help others that are in need and much more are displayed in your rant. Our country used to care about their neighbors, rewarded people for helping others and a lot more. What happened to that United States of America? I remember it quite well from 20 years ago.
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12-05-2018 at 11:44 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:44 AM.
You might get further with a video plea.Upload it here so we can judge you accordingly.
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12-05-2018 at 11:45 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:45 AM.
Quote from flyboynm :
We are. I am just trying to brainstorm on what can be done to try to get that going. We are dead in the water until we can replace missing computer equipment. My wife works from home and I am a PhD student whom lost all his research when they took the safes, lock boxes and other things that had my backups inside. We have 3 buildings on the property that had different things spread out in case something happened in one of them.
Good luck!
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12-05-2018 at 11:53 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:53 AM.
Quote from germanpope :
Their home was invaded. This creates terror even if you were gone.

I personally am ready in case they come in when I am at home.

Proper training gives you the confidence to eliminate threats. Once a person enters my home, I am trained to assess the threat to our lives.

I will take care of the problem. You can be sure of that.
because that is going to prevent a burglary when they are out of the house...
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12-05-2018 at 11:56 AM.
12-05-2018 at 11:56 AM.
Send a tweet to Ms. Ocasio-Cortez
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12-05-2018 at 12:05 PM.
12-05-2018 at 12:05 PM.
Quote from flyboynm :
LOL - do a search on "Lorrie Menconi Miss February 1969"
There's even a Miss February 1969 puzzle for sale on eBay. Whee

All kidding aside, I'm sorry this happened...but thanks for being a good sport.
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12-05-2018 at 12:11 PM.
12-05-2018 at 12:11 PM.
Quote from emelvee :
There's even a Miss February 1969 puzzle for sale on eBay.

All kidding aside, I'm sorry this happened...but thanks for being a good sport.
You are welcome. People don't comprehend that we are staying in a foreign country helping with Earthquake Recovery efforts and do not have a lease. You cannot have renters insurance in this country unless you have a lease. The housing is a "donation" from the effort. Further, my insurance that I did have was a "travel policy" that costs a hell of a lot more than what others think. It came down to the insurance or moving the MIL down here.

By the way, she is getting NOTHING from the calendar sales. Usually people do that illegally and do not have the rights to the photos. It truly sucks for her.
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12-05-2018 at 12:15 PM.
12-05-2018 at 12:15 PM.
Quote from saint. :
Good luck!
Thank you very much. I came here for help brainstorming and had a few jerks post. Even saying Good Luck is a little bit of support to those are in need. My wife does online work that requires a little bit of CPU power and more memory than average. She is dead in the water without a replacement system. People down here have limited means and will do what they can when they can. It truly is extraordinary the support we have received here but it is not enough to get us back on our feet hence the GoFundMe.
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12-05-2018 at 12:17 PM.
12-05-2018 at 12:17 PM.
Fsyowad - Thank you for the idea. We will try to do that once we get something we can use to record a video.
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12-05-2018 at 12:20 PM.
12-05-2018 at 12:20 PM.
Quote from flyboynm :
You are welcome. People don't comprehend that we are staying in a foreign country helping with Earthquake Recovery efforts and do not have a lease. You cannot have renters insurance in this country unless you have a lease. The housing is a "donation" from the effort. Further, my insurance that I did have was a "travel policy" that costs a hell of a lot more than what others think. It came down to the insurance or moving the MIL down here.

By the way, she is getting NOTHING from the calendar sales. Usually people do that illegally and do not have the rights to the photos. It truly sucks for her.
I'd tend to doubt she has the rights to the photos herself, though.
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12-05-2018 at 12:25 PM.
12-05-2018 at 12:25 PM.
Not the Playboy ones but there are ones that she paid for to be taken of herself that she owns. The contract with Playboy states she is supposed to get some monies for the photos with future proceeds too but it is not much for the Playmates.
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12-05-2018 at 01:11 PM.
12-05-2018 at 01:11 PM.
Quote from flyboynm :
If you want to find out what is wrong with the United States, just look in the mirror. Greed, unwillingness to help others that are in need and much more are displayed in your rant. Our country used to care about their neighbors, rewarded people for helping others and a lot more. What happened to that United States of America? I remember it quite well from 20 years ago.
I thought what's wrong with the united states is everyone looking for a handout. *cough* OP *cough*

When people WANT to help, they do. But expecting people to help you replace your things is a little different than benevolent help. Dontknow
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12-05-2018 at 01:12 PM.
12-05-2018 at 01:12 PM.
Quote from flyboynm :
My wife does online work that requires a little bit of CPU power and more memory than average.
Bitcoin? Or... ?



OP - you're in a shitty situation, good luck!
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