I'm so pissed at DBF anyone care to give insight as to a man's thinking?

The normal me would have kicked his ass to the curb,but I'm 27 and haven't really had a good serious healthy relationship. I never knew what one was growing up in my broken household. I'm thinking that maybe I'm doing something wrong with my relationships so I'm trying to do the opposite of what I'd normally do. I'm trying to grow as a person and hoping I'm making the right moves. Trial and error I guess

That is a good point. However, if she can't deal with these feelings, then I figure most of her relatinoships are doomed. She might eventually find a real submissive dude with such low self esteem that he'll do whatever she says, but who would really want someone like that?

We've all been farked over by the opposite sex. The worrying and insecuirty part of it though is often worse than the actual betrayal.. Look, it's already tearing up their relationship.. So I just skip that step. Be happy, if the betrayal happens, it happens.
No sense in worrying about it.

In all seriousness, I have female friends on FB. If I had a gf that wanted me to delete some or all of them, I would be seriously annoyed and resist.. See, if FB is such a big deal when dating, where does it end? Will she get mad if I smile at a waitress? What's the next demand going to be?

Jengo is going to have to decide if she can trust this dude or not. I hope she gives him the benefit of the doubt, instead of assuming the worst. Believe it or not, most people aren't bad. (Not addressing you specifically, just saying). She should trust this dude and try to have a heathy relationship.

All these questions "HAve you kissed?' "What do you talk about"? "Any more picts?" etc
Those just make her seem very insecure, especially after he's said numerious times they are just friends. It damages the relationship.

Nice of you to jump to conclusions

Show me where I told her it was the "right thing" to get worried and try to stop her BF from having friends please? Can you point that one out for me, as I can't seem to find it...

You know the right answer before you even posted your thread. You know what needs to be done and what you should do. You're just looking for people to tell you "it's ok, don't worry, we agree with you".

My wife has no reason to worry about me, as I have no reason to worry about her. And I'm not or some other horny middle aged guy who comes trolling and begging for pictures from 20 year old girls.


Thanks for playing, come again.

I see what you are saying and pretty much agree. But anyone who has ever experienced insecurity on this level knows that you can't just flip a switch and make it go away. The only way to get past it is with a little give and take on both sides and most likely some professional help.

If you want to split hairs about what you said, I'm not going to argue.

Yes, I'm saying you have a healthy relationship with trust, because your wife doesn't do that.. She's not insecure. Neither are you.
Dude, I'm not accusing you of anything.
I was using you as a role model

I made it vague partially on purpose trying to get an answer out of the OP, but yes, you are partially correct with what I "meant" to say.



You're accusing me of being a role model!

And opps, nevermind me being defensive then

Is this the same guy who up and left you right before you delivered your daughter? All of the things you listed in your previous post make this guy sound like a real winner.

Where do you draw the line? I'm not saying he shouldn't be allowed to talk to females, but lying to you about the other girl and then password protecting his phone right after? How many red flags do you need?

Is this the same guy who up and left you right before you delivered your daughter? All of the things you listed in your previous post make this guy sound like a real winner.

Where do you draw the line? I'm not saying he shouldn't be allowed to talk to females, but lying to you about the other girl and then password protecting his phone right after? How many red flags do you need?

Please don't judge him for that. Yes he is. We reconciled and talked about what happened. I understand why he did what he did,I wasn't the easiest or nicest person to him but I just didn't see it. I had a lot of time to listen to him and see things from his POV. It was both of our faults that the relationship failed and we are taking responsibilty for it. Now we are better and stronger than before. We actually talk about things now and try to make our relationship better. Which is partly why this is so frustrating.