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For Women Only..What's the largest age difference to get married?

2,091 502 October 13, 2010 at 04:52 AM in Chat
I am a man.....I have a girl that is interested in marrying me....I feel uncomfortable with our age difference and feel she is too young, but need other opinions because I am no expert in marriage, having never done it before.

I just want to get different opinions on what the women on this board feel is a reasonable (to them) age difference...Please post your opinion, no matter what that is. I am asking women only because I feel they are more in tune with this and have a better perspective...

Thanks in advance.
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pictureframes
10-13-2010 at 08:43 AM.
10-13-2010 at 08:43 AM.
20 years. I'm 35 so 55 for his age max. actually 50 would be just right imo.
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Titansfan1234
10-13-2010 at 09:00 AM.
10-13-2010 at 09:00 AM.
Quote from Tamales. :
20 years. I'm 35 so 55 for his age max. actually 50 would be just right imo.
One foot in the grave, the other on a banana peel. laugh out loud
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MissyMooMoo
10-13-2010 at 10:50 AM.
10-13-2010 at 10:50 AM.
I was 25 when I met my future husband. He was 11 years older then me. It's funny because I thought he was younger then his actual age and he thought I was older. We both felt awkward when we found out the age difference. We didn't let the age difference change anything. It was just weird when we discovered it about 3 weeks after we had first met.

Our son was only 6 years old when he passed away. But I think we would still be together if he were alive.

At my ripe old age now, 11 year age difference is nothing.
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MsGal
10-13-2010 at 11:08 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:08 AM.
Quote from metoday :
If you're concerned with age when considering getting married, it doesn't sound like you're too terribly in love.
That.

Quote from zmarko :
LMAO

Quote from Fallacy :
Who gives a fark what anyone else thinks?
And that.


I was 20 and engaged to a guy who was 35. WONDERFUL guy. We're still friends. I didn't marry him though because he had one divorce and two kids. I wasn't ready to be a step-mother. We were together 2 years and I asked for alot of opinions on the age thing FROM FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS. But not once did it ever occur to me to ask total strangers what they thought .... especially not on the internet. Nono
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slutsky
10-13-2010 at 11:17 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:17 AM.
Quote from vec :
I will answer this for all of the Lounge women. It depends on the size of the guys wallet. The higher the income, the higher the age. Low income, low age. It's as simple as that.

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No wonder why I am working hard on my wallet.
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Fallacy
10-13-2010 at 11:18 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:18 AM.
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No wonder why I am working hard on my wallet.
You can buy a bigger wallet.
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slutsky
10-13-2010 at 11:19 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:19 AM.
I will marry someone at least 4 years younger than me. I think I can handle 10 years age difference.

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You can buy a bigger wallet.
You can't find a wallet bigger than female's handbag.
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Fallacy
10-13-2010 at 11:21 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:21 AM.
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You can't find a wallet bigger than female's handbag.
O, you were talking about a real wallet. Nevermind.
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slutsky
10-13-2010 at 11:24 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:24 AM.
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O, you were talking about a real wallet. Nevermind.
You were not? So how do I BUY a bigger wallet?
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Fallacy
10-13-2010 at 11:30 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:30 AM.
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You were not? So how do I BUY a bigger wallet?
You PAY for surgery...
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SnakePlisken
10-13-2010 at 11:31 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:31 AM.
get a room you 2
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Zoe Moon
10-13-2010 at 11:52 AM.
10-13-2010 at 11:52 AM.
Quote from jeba9999 :
I will tell you this...She is 24 and wants to start a family....So based on that just give me your idea of how much older YOU think is reasonable in your mind...There is no right answer...Just looking for individual opinions.
Individual opinions don't matter. What you and she feel for each other, how mature each of you are and common ground is what matters.

DH is 10.5 years younger than I am. When we met, he was 29 and I was two weeks away from turning 40. I thought the age difference was too great and expected to just be friends. However I quickly realized just how mature he was for a 29 year old. That would not have been enough though to start dating. We also had a lot in common as far as interests, likes, dislikes, philosophy, etc. Only then did we start dating as opposed to hanging out as friends.

If you don't have that with this girl, then the marriage would be likely to fail. Too many people marry based solely on hormones and that hormone thing wanes with time. If you don't have anything else in common, it then makes staying together as a married couple very hard.
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pictureframes
10-13-2010 at 12:57 PM.
10-13-2010 at 12:57 PM.
I agree on the money issue. like. I wouldn't date a broke 50 yr old. hed have to make 6 figures min.
now if I was 24 laugh out loud ud better be making 500K minimum at 50. ok. 300. but u better be away on bussiness ALOT.
I'd say at 24 u could be 37 max. 40 if ur doing ok. 45 if ur rich. anything more and its gold diggin.
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dalokgawd
10-13-2010 at 01:00 PM.
10-13-2010 at 01:00 PM.
Quote from Tamales. :
I agree on the money issue. like. I wouldn't date a broke 50 yr old. hed have to make 6 figures min.
now if I was 24 laugh out loud ud better be making 500K minimum at 50. ok. 300. but u better be away on bussiness ALOT.
I'd say at 24 u could be 37 max. 40 if ur doing ok. 45 if ur rich. anything more and its gold diggin.
Does anyone else think that this entire post constitutes gold digging? Dontknow
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PaintTheSkyGrey
10-13-2010 at 01:06 PM.
10-13-2010 at 01:06 PM.
It all depends on maturity levels.
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