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For Women Only..What's the largest age difference to get married?
October 13, 2010 at
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I am a man.....I have a girl that is interested in marrying me....I feel uncomfortable with our age difference and feel she is too young, but need other opinions because I am no expert in marriage, having never done it before.
I just want to get different opinions on what the women on this board feel is a reasonable (to them) age difference...Please post your opinion, no matter what that is. I am asking women only because I feel they are more in tune with this and have a better perspective...
Thanks in advance.
I just want to get different opinions on what the women on this board feel is a reasonable (to them) age difference...Please post your opinion, no matter what that is. I am asking women only because I feel they are more in tune with this and have a better perspective...
Thanks in advance.
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I for one do not have requirements when it comes to money and I am married. The only thing would be as long as they don't just blow their money all the time, they need to be financially responsible, no matter how much they have. That is just intelligent.
I think the major difference is falling for someone with passion and ambition opposed to someone that settles and isn't striving for anything.
I have a question. Let's say a guy is 52 years old, and a passionate struggling artist. Would that be more or less appealing than a 52 year old getting a large salary doing something he hated?
I'd rather be with a passionate girl. I'd rather struggle through hard times and love her for who she was, than be with some knockout who made millions. It's probably all fairy tale bullshit though. I wish I was superficial.
Was age an issue when you started dating her? If not, why is it now?
One is common sense, the other is creepy and shallow.
I think over 99% of people are shallow. Maybe they don't admit, but they are.
How many people here have not dated someone due to looks, weight, height, or income?
I bet everyone here has rejected someone without giving them a chance. I know I have.
Any person that says income of a potential mate has no bearing on their decision is lying.
If they are unemployed/broke/whatever (or have some other flaw) they need something else to make up for it.
The holier than thou attitude on this board is hillarious
How many people here have not dated someone due to looks, weight, height, or income?
I bet everyone here has rejected someone without giving them a chance. I know I have.
Any person that says income of a potential mate has no bearing on their decision is lying.
If they are unemployed/broke/whatever (or have some other flaw) they need something else to make up for it.
The holier than thou attitude on this board is hillarious
How many people here have not dated someone due to looks, weight, height, or income?
I bet everyone here has rejected someone without giving them a chance. I know I have.
Any person that says income of a potential mate has no bearing on their decision is lying.
If they are unemployed/broke/whatever (or have some other flaw) they need something else to make up for it.
The holier than thou attitude on this board is hillarious
You don't see a difference between, "I would like to date someone who is well enough off to support a family" and "The only way I will date a 45 year old is if they make 6 figures"?
Most of us have our idea of what we would like, but only a true "gold digger" will only date wealthy.
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You don't see a difference between, "I would like to date someone who is well enough off to support a family" and "The only way I will date a 45 year old is if they make 6 figures"?
Most of us have our idea of what we would like, but only a true "gold digger" will only date wealthy.
I just quoted you because I knew you wouldn't feel attacked and get emotional on me.. Didn't mean to imply that you were holier than thou.. But some people live in a fantasy world where they think they only chose a mate based on politically correct guidelines.. There's a disconnect between what people say they do and what they actually do.
At least Tamales was honest about it. Most (hypothetical) 24 year olds would not date a 50 year dude for any reason. She said there was one circumstance that she'd consider it.
I just quoted you because I knew you wouldn't feel attacked and get emotional on me.. Didn't mean to imply that you were holier than thou.. But some people live in a fantasy world where they think they only chose a mate based on politically correct guidelines.. There's a disconnect between what people say they do and what they actually do.
At least Tamales was honest about it. Most (hypothetical) 24 year olds would not date a 50 year dude for any reason. She said there was one circumstance that she'd consider it.
And here, I'll repeat what I said before too:
In our society, it's not shallow to want to date someone in your "social class" , but it's shallow to set a monetary value on the person (though earning 6 figures when the person is 50, in many professions is easily reached).
Your criteria is wrong. There is such a thing as physical attraction. Someone may only be attracted to skinny girls or tall men. Doesn't make them shallow. Or blonde women.
See the difference? You can't be attracted to money
I just quoted you because I knew you wouldn't feel attacked and get emotional on me.. Didn't mean to imply that you were holier than thou.. But some people live in a fantasy world where they think they only chose a mate based on politically correct guidelines.. There's a disconnect between what people say they do and what they actually do.
At least Tamales was honest about it. Most (hypothetical) 24 year olds would not date a 50 year dude for any reason. She said there was one circumstance that she'd consider it.
Also, you don't know tamales very well.
How many people here have not dated someone due to looks, weight, height, or income?
I bet everyone here has rejected someone without giving them a chance. I know I have.
Any person that says income of a potential mate has no bearing on their decision is lying.
If they are unemployed/broke/whatever (or have some other flaw) they need something else to make up for it.
The holier than thou attitude on this board is hillarious
I already stated that income of a potential mate has no bearing for me. What makes up for it is love and passion. Apparently I'm lying though.
Physical attraction is mandatory. That doesn't mean if the person I loved got in a car accident and was disfigured I'd lose the physical attraction. It becomes more about the person as time goes by, and less about what they look like.
Somewhere in the Lounge annals there's the formula for this. We worked it out to your age divided by two plus 7.
So how old are you OP?
If they are unemployed/broke/whatever (or have some other flaw) they need something else to make up for it.
The holier than thou attitude on this board is hillarious
if she can suck a golf ball through a garden hose I 100% guarantee I don't give a rats patutee how much money she makes.
-tru story
... and before you say that that is the part "making up for it" ... no. Because the sexytime qualifications comes BEFORE the moneys ... actually not even "before" ... if the sexytime is that good ... the moneys never even gets looked at. word
Somewhere in the Lounge annals there's the formula for this. We worked it out to your age divided by two plus 7.
So how old are you OP?
"We're married now. Buy your own booze."
Perfect timing!
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For you physical attraction is mandatory. That may not be the case for other people. Everyone has their own priorities.