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I think, despite their best efforts, men often don't 'know better" even after 100 years. And they usually don't "get it" when we hint, pout, be indirect, and passive aggressive. During those times - they generally just stand aside and hope whatever is bothering us passes...having NO clue it was something THEY did....
My husband was so sweet to me. He walked out to the car with an umbrella when it was raining to walk me into the house. The fall before he died, he planted daisies (my favorite flower) all around - and after he died I walked outside one day and was surrounded by blooming daisies. He figured out a way to keep giving me flowers even after he was gone.
Several months before he died he gave me the a copy of the song "If tomorrow never comes..."
"If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes"
I asked him - "Are you trying to tell me something? Do you know you aren't going to make it?"
He told me "No - I just want to make sure that IF tomorrow never comes, I have given you enough love while I was here to last you for always."
I listened to that song over and over again - and cried and cried at the thought of losing him. But one day - the song sank in in a different way - and I told him - "The answer is YES. If tomorrow never comes - you HAVE loved me enough while you were here to last me for ALWAYS. I will never, ever doubt how much you loved me."
(Of course, after he died - I wanted to take that back - "I changed my mind!!!! You haven't loved me enough YET!! You get back here RIGHT NOW and love me some MORE!!!!"
Even when my husband was dying - The morning he died - He told me "I still have the will to live, but I don't think I have the strength anymore." And he asked me if it was okay for him to go. He wanted to know if I would be okay. I lied - and told him I would be okay.
Then he said "I am really happy though. I am happy that I got to marry you." Then he touched my nose. And touched my lips. And put his hand on his heart and then put his hand on my heart. It was a beautiful moment, though very "bittersweet."
My husband was sweet and romantic. And he loved me dearly. Knowing that my husband could tell me on the last day of his life, knowing it would be his last day "I am really happy..." meant so much to me.
But there were also so many times my husband didn't "get it," should have "known better," etc. etc. (He never gave me a porn film for Christmas though...)
But of all the things I have regretted in my life - some of the moments I "wasted" over those things have haunted me at times. Sometimes at Christmas - I hear Christmas music and remember the time - his last Christmas here - I was upset about something - had spent a whole two days pouting about it already - hoping that he would "get it." But instead of "getting it," he decided to try to cheer me up - and put on some Christmas music - which I dearly love. I asked him to turn it off. I didn't want to be cheered up. I wanted him to "get it."
I wasted two whole days of our last Christmas together. I wasted the beauty of the Christmas music. I wasted that because I was pouting because he didn't "wrap his love in a pretty enough package" in the incident that bothered me. It wasn't that I felt he didn't love me, or didn't care - but I wanted him to show it in a different way (or metaphorcially - wrap it in a "prettier package") than he did.
Those things don't seem to bother men as much as us. When I told my husband during one of the last couple of day "I am sorry. I am sorry for all the moments I wasted..." He said "Why? I am happy!"
There was alot of comfort in that - knowing that he was happy regardless of how many times that *I* also didn't "get it." And it doesn't bother me all the time. Most of my memories are beautiful ones.
But still - there are moments when those memories still come back and haunt me. And I think - "Why didn't I just TELL him what I wanted?" or "Why didn't I just TELL him how I felt?" Why did I waste so many moments that I shouldn't have wasted? Moments that I can never get back?
So, I guess my message to you, from my widow's perspective - is be mindful of how many moments you spend on this - and be mindful that you are spending the time you have with your husband in the way you want to.
I am not saying that you shouldn't be hurt, offended, or anything else. You have EVERY RIGHT to feel as you do.
You have many choices.
You might decide - My husband really loves me. He finds me attractive, and sexy, and desirable. He sure wrapped that in a strange and ugly package. But I will overlook the package - and appreciate the gift that was inside it..."
You might decide to just sit down and tell him directly - "I know you meant well, or I hope you did, but giving me that movie, especially as a Christmas present, really hurt me. I was offended, hurt, etc. etc."
You might decide to just vent - tell him off - "Of all the Tacky, Tasteless, Horrid Christmas presents I can think of - THIS ONE takes the cake!!!
(Ironically, I don't have any haunting regrets of the times I just outright told my husband off - just the times I wasted moments. Probably because once you tell them off - you can move on....I don't know...)
You might decide to get him something tacky for his birthday - and try to hurt him back.
You might decide to never tell him, but carry the hurt inside....
You might decide 100 other things....
You have every right to feel hurt. Now you just have to decide what to do with that feeling....
SO far, so good.. but, she hasn't been up too long. She slept off and on til noon today.. of course, DH let her stay up til 2:30 last night.. She has had some sprite and a few crackers.. I am waiting a little while before we declare victory
Told DH in an hour or so, I am gonna try some soup. She has to be hungry, and I know she is dehydrated cause she only peed once last night and hasn't gone yet today.. I am trying to slowly rehydrate her.. Don't want to push things too fast!
i killed it again
I've got another delivery for HBA tomorrow (deodorant, body wash, neutrogena soap, toothpaste, etc).
You can't tell anything is missing from my house though
I've decided to buy 2 of the bookcases in this weeks ad, and take the shelving out of one to put in the other (double shelves), just for coupons. Tired of them being stacked on the floor.
I usually try to limit mine to one very large cup a day.. too much caffiene, and calories from creamer.. but, today may be a 2 cup kinda day
I've got another delivery for HBA tomorrow (deodorant, body wash, neutrogena soap, toothpaste, etc).
You can't tell anything is missing from my house though
I don't get to donate that much food it seems.. WIth 4 kids, and 3 of them teenagers.. they eat it quicker than I can stockpile most of the times.. I did unload a ton of cereal from the great kellogs fiber plus deal 6 months ago.. I dropped it in our food box and church and didn't think about it about 2 months ago.. well last week, we were making up holiday food boxes for about 12 needy families.. we put all the things in the box that they would need for a Christmas dinner.. turkey, stove top, butter, cake mix, eggs, potatoes, green beans, etc.. Then the pastor's wife came out with an arm load of cereal.. She said "someone donated all this cereal and we should use it" I had to chuckle cause I recognized all that fiber plus
L2B - Sorry about the barf bug ... it has started its way thru here as well .... my Miss M spent time barfing in my bed niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice! Hope your bug passes quickly!!!
L2B & Bunnies - yes it is a Keurig! I am going to get some coffee later *and some hot chocolate
TN - You rock!!!!!!! I wish I could be organized enough to do that! You rock!
L2B - Sorry about the barf bug ... it has started its way thru here as well .... my Miss M spent time barfing in my bed niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice! Hope your bug passes quickly!!!
L2B & Bunnies - yes it is a Keurig! I am going to get some coffee later *and some hot chocolate
TN - You rock!!!!!!! I wish I could be organized enough to do that! You rock!
How are you feeling these days?
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I was actually worshipping my coffee while I read your earlier post. It literally brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful words....I know that I need to appreciate my husband more. Thanks for reminding me and I am so sorry for your loss.
L2B - Sorry about the barf bug ... it has started its way thru here as well .... my Miss M spent time barfing in my bed niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice! Hope your bug passes quickly!!!
L2B & Bunnies - yes it is a Keurig! I am going to get some coffee later *and some hot chocolate
TN - You rock!!!!!!! I wish I could be organized enough to do that! You rock!
That is SO awesome about the Keurig! I absolutely love mine and I'm not even a huge coffee person.
Jteef....oh my word you had me in tears. And I am not a cry-er really.
Bunnies.....I haz a shelf-clearer here and I need a scheme to deal with it
L2B....ugh that stinks!! Hope you are done after last night's puking!
I am so sorry for your loss. I am thankful that you have his heartfelt words to cling to.
Bunnies.....I haz a shelf-clearer here and I need a scheme to deal with it
2. How much 'guts' do you possess?
I have a plan..it's sneaky and ballsy all at once. You gotta have some guts.
2. How much 'guts' do you possess?
I have a plan..it's sneaky and ballsy all at once. You gotta have some guts.
As if this would work?! You are thinking normally, but we are NOT dealing with normal here and we need to arm ourselves with a plan that leaves the said defendant with no other option but to leave some for my buddies!
2.
And LOL yup Bunnies is right MOT we are not dealing with normal and I'm pretty sure that'd fly in one ear and straight out the other
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