RETIRED: Target chit chat

Should I say something?

Should I say something? The lady that she first came over with wanted to drop by to buy a few things last week- specifically left a message that she wanted some Tide. *sigh* I left her a message stating that she could come over on a specific day but I wouldn't be able to get to the store until the weekend because it was snowing.

She never called back. And I won't buy Tide to resell because they all want it for $2 a bottle. Yeah right. I can't get it for $2 a bottle.

I need to go to the commissary, have now been waiting 2 hours for this lady. I have the other customer coming over at 5:30. No way I can make the trip now, not to mention I still need to get a newspaper and pick up something for dinner. I really need to address this time issue but I don't know how.

ank, dh has a french press we bought at Target years ago. It's a glass one made by Bodum.

Yes I think you should say something, but...only if you feel comfortable and only if you don't need the money badly.

You could just tell her...'store' is open on xxx day from this time to that time.
Then you are setting the standard for her, versus her setting the standard.
If she wants the stuff she will come. If she doesn't you haven't wasted your day.

Pick a day/time she has come by in the past and use that time.

Next time give customers the time frame that YOU are available, and put yourself first. If they don't show, you still have time to tend to your other errands. That's what I do with Craigslist people, since so many of them flake out. I have much less stress this way and it's on them to show up or miss out and reschedule when I am available.

The Bodum glass french press is great. However, there is some clean up involved with the grounds if he wants to make a fresh cup more than once. If he is ok with that, it's a great flavor out of that press.

Well I don't NEED it but it's nice. They ended up spending a little more than usual so I can't gripe much. It's cash spending money for the week. I did mention that I had errands to do and I was a little inconvenienced having to wait. They got the message.

slowtech, your sil sounds very ungrateful.

My vent for the day- someone was supposed to be here at 2 pm to pick up some items. Called at 2:30 to let me know that she won't be able to get here until 3:30.

I have errands I need to do today and by the time she called I couldn't squeeze them into that time frame. If she had called me before 2 to let me know, I could have gotten them done. I've sold this lady some stockpile items before and every time it's like this, she gives me a timeframe and then shows up an hour later. Next time, I'm going to have to say no especially on weekend days when I'm trying to get lots of things done. She previously wanted to come over on a weekday but I get the willys having someone come over to the house on a weekday, when dh isn't home. I'm kind of a scaredy cat.

good afternoon b/c it's not morning here anymore. daily check-in cuz i'm a member (not that kind of member!) and i'm skeered of bunnies! well, i don't want to get on her bad side. have to work harder to get in her siggy!

a little kvetch. sil told me to keep an eye out for a cheap bike for her. bike is not like picking up plates and bowls like last time for her. found the schwinn mens gateway at my store for 44.98, she said to get it. i was going to get it and then see if i could find the womens. didn't realize it wasn't online only like the schwinn lakeshore. was going to pick it up this morn but i emailed her the target page to make sure and she was worried about the bar. she's obese and has physical problems walking, i was afraid she wasn't going to be able to get her leg up high enough and over the bar. so i looked a little closer and it said find it in a store. ends up it's available at a store less than 10 miles from her house. called her and she doesn't have time to go get it but thanks. fyi- her dh is unemployed and spends the day chauffering the kids to and from school and sports practice.

so i do not understand why she is telling me to look for stuff when she can't be bothered to go and get it ? what, she wants me to go get it and drive it to her second home 1.75hrs away next time she deigns to invite us b/c she just happens not to have any friends coming over?

i totally know what she's like, but even i was a little taken aback to hear some friend of hers talking about when they stayed over last winter when we were there martin luther kings bday wknd. she didn't invite her parents or her brother(us) until mother's day wknd b/c all her friends that wknd were spending it w/ their families. and i know she invited us so we could pick up her parents and all the kitchen appliances she requested as a housewarming gift that i gave her at her mom's house at xmas. and then drive her parents home. yeah, i gave her her housewarming present at xmas and we didn't even see her house until mothers day.

i know her friends come first and we come a distant second when no friends are available, but sometimes it's just a little too blatant. esp when we are still giving her parents money every single month and she is not. i think we are giving more b/c she stopped giving money to her parents when her dh became unemployed the time b4 this one, about 4yrs ago. and then she buys a second home. hmmm, i think she got to buy another house b/c she wasn't giving money to her parents anymore, even when her dh was employed again. and we are still covering the amount she doesn't give them anymore. and then she doesn't even invite her own parents over for months and months. it all becomes just a little too much to swallow.

so then she wants to save money and i should find her a cheap bike but she would get it only if it was that price online so she didn't have to go to the store and go get it. keep on dreaming that you will ever be able to order a bike online 75% off! getting a bike at 75% off is only b/c it's a hidden deal.

i do want her to get a bike so she would hopefully get some exercise. we went on a family cruise to the bahamas 2 yrs ago and we couldn't go together to some places b/c she can't walk far. but i do things for her and then she treats me as a distant second to her friends. and then if i do something she just asks for more. back in nov she wanted more melamine plates and bowls for her second home, so i got more. when we meet for a bday dinner and i give them to her, she asks me to shop for inexpensive bracelets when i went to southeast asia. not for her, but so she could give them out as xmas presents to her friends kids b/c her dh hasn't been working and she needs to cut back on spending. ok, i would look for something you wanted, but you want me to shop for xmas presents for you to give out to people i don't even know??? it's just too much. i told her no, i would shop for you but i'm not shopping for people i do not even know.

sorry the little complaint turned into a whopper! next, my mom...even dh was surprised at what she said to him. sigh! i think i just got overloaded yesterday w/ family.

Should I say something? The lady that she first came over with wanted to drop by to buy a few things last week- specifically left a message that she wanted some Tide. *sigh* I left her a message stating that she could come over on a specific day but I wouldn't be able to get to the store until the weekend because it was snowing.

She never called back. And I won't buy Tide to resell because they all want it for $2 a bottle. Yeah right. I can't get it for $2 a bottle.

I need to go to the commissary, have now been waiting 2 hours for this lady. I have the other customer coming over at 5:30. No way I can make the trip now, not to mention I still need to get a newspaper and pick up something for dinner. I really need to address this time issue but I don't know how.

ank, dh has a french press we bought at Target years ago. It's a glass one made by Bodum.

Hmmm... I think we may have the same SIL. Does she forget too pay you when pick something up for her as well. Mine does and I always feel bad asking for it so I usually let it go. But then my blood pressure goes up cause I'm so upset about it. I need to learn the art of saying "NO."

Think I am gonna go out for a little walk this evening.. Just want to enjoy the fresh air and get some exercise!

On the bad note.. my darn eye is starting to hurt again.. feels like that stupid stye again.

Happy Sunday everyone! It is a beautiful day 65 degrees and sunny! Nicest day we have had in so long..

Great service at church, met the inlaws for a birthday lunch, and now home to relax.. Watching "little house on the prairie" right now. I love that show.

Think I am gonna go out for a little walk this evening.. Just want to enjoy the fresh air and get some exercise!

On the bad note.. my darn eye is starting to hurt again.. feels like that stupid stye again.

65?!?!?!?!?!

Oh wow I can only dream of 65 I don't remember what it feels like. We are supposed to get a LOT of snow come Mon. thru Weds. We'll see if they're right this time At least snow = money for us since dh is doing the snow removal for the business near us.

Hurry up on that walk. It's already ing here.

Start the hot compresses ASAP for the eye.