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Looking for opinions:

If you have a specific skill or trade do you feel it's okay with charging immediate family members for your labor/time. For example, if you are a mechanic, would you charge your son or daughter, father or mother for your labor? Or do you feel like since they're your family (and let's of course say for arguments sake that everyone likes each other and has a good relationship of course Wink) you should give your help where you're able to and leave it up to the person on the receiving end to give if they should feel inclined?

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ALVSGIRLY
04-19-2012 at 09:29 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:29 AM.
I'd pay if they needed the money.

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Majide
04-19-2012 at 09:30 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:30 AM.
When it comes to helping family and close friends, we only ever "charge" eachother with food. Like "Here, I'll pay for dinner" or buying a pizza and stuff like that.

Not sure about your situation. I would see paying for the parts, but I agree that paying for the labor does seem strange to me.

I have a friend whose dad pays him to do work (like yard work and such). But his dad makes a ton of money, and this is the only way my friend feels comfortable "taking" money from him. His siblings will take money without a care, but he will only "take" it if he works for it.
Not that this is helpful at all... Ermm

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I'd pay if they needed the money.
Iagree This too.
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chevvy
04-19-2012 at 09:31 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:31 AM.
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No self promotion Doh!

We're all begging to know what it is.
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AngryPirate
04-19-2012 at 09:32 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:32 AM.
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It probably wouldn't be so bad if it had been consistent from the beginning, but it seems to depend more on his "mood" and how his business is doing...so I never know what to expect.
We all know the obvious alternative if you're unhappy with him charging you....






get a new dad. I hear Romania has a nice selection.
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ALVSGIRLY
04-19-2012 at 09:37 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:37 AM.
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guess
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Supergirl9801
04-19-2012 at 09:39 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:39 AM.
Haaaa....I would most definitely pay him something if he needed the money too...I just feel it should be by my choice...my offering to do it...just like his offering to help. Out of love
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Iaaaiws
04-19-2012 at 09:56 AM.
04-19-2012 at 09:56 AM.
Quote from Supergirl9801 :
Haaaa....I would most definitely pay him something if he needed the money too...I just feel it should be by my choice...my offering to do it...just like his offering to help. Out of love
My guess is that he would offer to do the work for free if he thought you would appreciate it.

He charges you because he knows you feel entitled to have the work done for free.
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noungning
04-19-2012 at 10:11 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:11 AM.
If I charge my friends and family the things I do for them...I'd be a billionaire. nod

What your dad is doing isn't so great but just to brush the annoyance, I'd pay him and never return for his assistance.

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My guess is that he would offer to do the work for free if he thought you would appreciate it.

He charges you because he knows you feel entitled to have the work done for free.
Iagree with this also... it's all in the attitude.
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04-19-2012 at 10:16 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:16 AM.
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Excluding mothering.....what do you do? Dontknow
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veritablequandary
04-19-2012 at 10:24 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:24 AM.
Mad You keep your dirty paws away from my allowance OP! I take out the trash once a week and scoop out the cat's nasty litter box for that $35! Mad
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ALVSGIRLY
04-19-2012 at 10:24 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:24 AM.
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Excluding mothering.....what do you do? Dontknow
I make the world a prettier place!
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04-19-2012 at 10:27 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:27 AM.
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I make the world a prettier place!

Correction.....your doctor made the world a better place.
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Iaaaiws
04-19-2012 at 10:31 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:31 AM.
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Correction.....your doctor made the world a better place.
Damn, who stepped in and decided to save her?
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tresanus
04-19-2012 at 10:33 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:33 AM.
"I owe you one"

Is how it works
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ALVSGIRLY
04-19-2012 at 10:34 AM.
04-19-2012 at 10:34 AM.
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Correction.....your doctor made the world a better place.
which one laugh out loud?
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