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Am I required to disclose this information before having sex?

7,598 277 March 29, 2007 at 05:33 AM in Question
My girlfriend was informed by her gynocologist that she has the human papillomavirus, or HPV. It's impossible to tell who had it first, but I'm most likely a carrier now as well. For those of you who don't know, HPV is a virus that's said to be a prerequisite for cervical cancer in women. Men can carry the virus, but it's nearly harmless for them.

Some HPV facts from wikipedia:
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HPV is the most common sexual transmitted infection in the United States. In the United States approximately 20-million people are currently infected with HPV about 6.2 million Americans will get infected with genital HPV this year.

24.5% prevalence of HPV among females 14 to 19 years old
44.8% prevalence of HPV among females 20 to 24 years old
27.4% prevalence of HPV among females 25 to 29 years old
27.5% prevalence of HPV among females 30 to 39 years old
25.2% prevalence of HPV among females 40 to 49 years old
19.6% prevalence of HPV among females 50 to 59 years old

In the absence of Pap testing or treatment, about 1% of women with genital HPV infections will eventually go on to develop cervical cancer.

Women who have Pap testing or other cervical cancer screenings on a regular basis dramatically decrease their chances of developing cervical cancer.

A 2006 study of 82 college students suggests that condoms can be up to 70% effective for preventing genital HPV infection if used for every sexual encounter.
Here's my question. Am I required to disclose this information before having relations with another woman? I have a feeling that everyone's kneejerk reaction will be "yes", but please consider the following. There's a huge chance that the woman already has the virus, and if she doesn't already she'll probably get it in the future*. With a condom, she probably won't get it from me anyway. With pap testing, there's a very very low risk of cancer. And quite frankly, I feel that she won't know all the facts and will think it's a bigger deal than it actually is.

Thoughts?







*Genital HPV infection is very common, with estimates suggesting that more than 50% of women will become infected with one or more of the sexually transmitted HPV types at some point during adulthood.[7]

The American Social Health Association projections in 2006 were yet more pessimistic, predicting that about 75% of the reproductive population will have been infected with genital HPV infection in their lifetime.
Would YOU disclose that you're an HPV carrier? (please read the wiki facts first)
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03-29-2007 at 10:43 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:43 AM.
Quote from Caydensmom :
My DH would not be okay with any boy having sex with his girls thats just him laugh out loud we have always joked that they won't date until they are married.
Can their wives date too?
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BrownEyedGirl
03-29-2007 at 10:45 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:45 AM.
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HPV can be cured with a shot, HIV can't....BIG DIFFERENCE!

There is no cure for HPV. There is only a vaccine, and it is only suitable for certain girls/young women.
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03-29-2007 at 10:45 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:45 AM.
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You big ole baby. You're not old now, but you will be in 30 years when she is old enough to get married. laugh out loud
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03-29-2007 at 10:48 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:48 AM.
Quote from BrownEyedGirl :
There is no cure for HPV. There is only a vaccine, and it is only suitable for certain girls/young women.
But doesnt the shot prior to gettting HPV hender the disease to begin with? Isn't that the point of giving them the shot at a young age? Maybe i am confusing the "and one" ad campaign with HPV..i dont know.
See, i am thinking of the strain that causes cervical cancer, not genital warts.
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~Kimber~
03-29-2007 at 10:50 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:50 AM.
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But doesnt the shot prior to gettting HPV hender the disease to begin with? Isn't that the point of giving them the shot at a young age? Maybe i am confusing the "and one" ad campaign with HPV..i dont know.
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Caydensmom
03-29-2007 at 10:53 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:53 AM.
Kimber let me pose a question to you - mommy to mommy....Your DD is 17 years old and has been dating the same boy for two years....do you take her to get birth control or not?

Actually any of you mommies or daddies are welcome to answer. I'd like to have some thoughts on this.
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Slinger
03-29-2007 at 10:53 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:53 AM.
And the OP only discusses the cervical cancer aspect, not that he has genital warts now.....and thats what i was stating. In that regards, the shot can prevent cervical cancer from HPV. But as a wise man once said: "Don't be a fool, wrap your tool" -Van Wilder
Thanks though Kimber.
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03-29-2007 at 10:55 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:55 AM.
Quote from Caydensmom :
Kimber let me pose a question to you - mommy to mommy....Your DD is 17 years old and has been dating the same boy for two years....do you take her to get birth control or not?

Actually any of you mommies or daddies are welcome to answer. I'd like to have some thoughts on this.
If I thought there was any chance they were having sex, then yes.
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Caydensmom
03-29-2007 at 10:58 AM.
03-29-2007 at 10:58 AM.
Quote from ~Kimber~ :
If I thought there was any chance they were having sex, then yes.
I'm glad to see we both tend to think alike then. Well I guess I'm going to take some heat for this but my oldest DD is 17 and has been dating the same boy for 2 years now. She says they are not sexually active. Do I believe her? I want too. Do I think they might become active? Of course!

DD and I discussed it and I scheduled her first OB appt to go in and get a physical and birth control. Am I giving her permission to run out and have sex? Hell no! Do I want her educated in how to stay safe if she does? Of course! Would I prefer she wait until she is married? HELL yes! I lost alot of sleep over this one, but only time will tell if I made the right choice.
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Slinger
03-29-2007 at 11:01 AM.
03-29-2007 at 11:01 AM.
Caydensmom,
Your a good mom for doing this...you are thinking realistically. I commend you for not being short-sided or narrow-minded.
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03-29-2007 at 11:02 AM.
03-29-2007 at 11:02 AM.
Quote from Caydensmom :
I'm glad to see we both tend to think alike then. Well I guess I'm going to take some heat for this but my oldest DD is 17 and has been dating the same boy for 2 years now. She says they are not sexually active. Do I believe her? I want too. Do I think they might become active? Of course!

DD and I discussed it and I scheduled her first OB appt to go in and get a physical and birth control. Am I giving her permission to run out and have sex? Hell no! Do I want her educated in how to stay safe if she does? Of course! Would I prefer she wait until she is married? HELL yes! I lost alot of sleep over this one, but only time will tell if I made the right choice.
My daughter is only three but I think when the situation arises, I would agree with you and do the same exact thing.
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03-29-2007 at 11:03 AM.
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Quote from Caydensmom :
I'm glad to see we both tend to think alike then. Well I guess I'm going to take some heat for this but my oldest DD is 17 and has been dating the same boy for 2 years now. She says they are not sexually active. Do I believe her? I want too. Do I think they might become active? Of course!

DD and I discussed it and I scheduled her first OB appt to go in and get a physical and birth control. Am I giving her permission to run out and have sex? Hell no! Do I want her educated in how to stay safe if she does? Of course! Would I prefer she wait until she is married? HELL yes! I lost alot of sleep over this one, but only time will tell if I made the right choice.
If she's not active now, let's face it, she's 17, hormones are raging. It would absolutely KILL me, as I know happened with you, but I would do exactly as you have done.
You are a being a responsible mommy. Good job with a difficult decision. hug
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Caydensmom
03-29-2007 at 11:06 AM.
03-29-2007 at 11:06 AM.
thanks guys Grouphug I know there are people who wont agree with it. She's a great kid but my bottom line was she is going to do what she is going do with/without my permission. Sometimes in order to protect them you have to educate them so they can make these choices. Oh and if I find out they do I'm gonna kick her BF square in the nuts nod laugh out loud
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Ram|bunc|tious
03-29-2007 at 11:06 AM.
03-29-2007 at 11:06 AM.
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I know this is going to sound bitchy which is NOT my intention but do you think if Men knew how painful these proceedures are for women they would feel differently? I admit I do not know how painful circumcision is but I do know how painful childbirth, cramping, etc etc is. Do you think if they could experience any of this they might be more open to disclosing? Just a thought.
CM ... where do you think the men got it from initially? Shouldn't the partner that gave it to them originally have disclosed this information?


... then again, if these women never left the kitchen and faitfully stuck to one man (at his beck & call) then we'd never have this situation!

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03-29-2007 at 11:08 AM.
03-29-2007 at 11:08 AM.
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CM ... where do you think the men got it from initially? Shouldn't the partner that gave it to them originally have disclosed this information?


... then again, if these women never left the kitchen and faitfully stuck to one man (at his beck & call) then we'd never have this situation!

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I just meant in general when it comes to womanly pains. Now get yer ass back in the kitchen and make me some cookies! Whip
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