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Am I required to disclose this information before having sex?

7,598 277 March 29, 2007 at 05:33 AM in Question
My girlfriend was informed by her gynocologist that she has the human papillomavirus, or HPV. It's impossible to tell who had it first, but I'm most likely a carrier now as well. For those of you who don't know, HPV is a virus that's said to be a prerequisite for cervical cancer in women. Men can carry the virus, but it's nearly harmless for them.

Some HPV facts from wikipedia:
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HPV is the most common sexual transmitted infection in the United States. In the United States approximately 20-million people are currently infected with HPV about 6.2 million Americans will get infected with genital HPV this year.

24.5% prevalence of HPV among females 14 to 19 years old
44.8% prevalence of HPV among females 20 to 24 years old
27.4% prevalence of HPV among females 25 to 29 years old
27.5% prevalence of HPV among females 30 to 39 years old
25.2% prevalence of HPV among females 40 to 49 years old
19.6% prevalence of HPV among females 50 to 59 years old

In the absence of Pap testing or treatment, about 1% of women with genital HPV infections will eventually go on to develop cervical cancer.

Women who have Pap testing or other cervical cancer screenings on a regular basis dramatically decrease their chances of developing cervical cancer.

A 2006 study of 82 college students suggests that condoms can be up to 70% effective for preventing genital HPV infection if used for every sexual encounter.
Here's my question. Am I required to disclose this information before having relations with another woman? I have a feeling that everyone's kneejerk reaction will be "yes", but please consider the following. There's a huge chance that the woman already has the virus, and if she doesn't already she'll probably get it in the future*. With a condom, she probably won't get it from me anyway. With pap testing, there's a very very low risk of cancer. And quite frankly, I feel that she won't know all the facts and will think it's a bigger deal than it actually is.

Thoughts?







*Genital HPV infection is very common, with estimates suggesting that more than 50% of women will become infected with one or more of the sexually transmitted HPV types at some point during adulthood.[7]

The American Social Health Association projections in 2006 were yet more pessimistic, predicting that about 75% of the reproductive population will have been infected with genital HPV infection in their lifetime.
Would YOU disclose that you're an HPV carrier? (please read the wiki facts first)
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Schly
03-29-2007 at 04:43 PM.
03-29-2007 at 04:43 PM.
Pretty much everyone has this now. I guess if you KNOW you have it, it would be wise to let someone know about it, but it's one of those things that, if a girl is having unprotected sex with you after a short period of time, she's probably already picked it up from someone else and is trying to give it to you.
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Schooby
03-29-2007 at 04:44 PM.
03-29-2007 at 04:44 PM.
Quote from rayzac99 :
If it is harmless to guys, just pick one up next time you are getting groceries or gas then you won't have to tell.
LMAO post.of.the.day Clap
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RugratsGalore
03-29-2007 at 04:52 PM.
03-29-2007 at 04:52 PM.
Quote from Schly :
Pretty much everyone has this now. I guess if you KNOW you have it, it would be wise to let someone know about it, but it's one of those things that, if a girl is having unprotected sex with you after a short period of time, she's probably already picked it up from someone else and is trying to give it to you.
This is the stupidest post I've seen so far. Ummmmmmm WHERE did the female get the HPV virus from?? Sure the hell wasn't from a toilet seat. AND, you're implying that any female that has HPV is a slut and looking to spread the love. Nothing like trying to pin all the blame on the female.
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Caydensmom
03-29-2007 at 05:10 PM.
03-29-2007 at 05:10 PM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
I hate to stay on topic, but a lot of folks are hesitant to give kids this shot because they think it'll give them a free pass to have sex (yea yea education etc). The question I have is, do you think it would be proper to give it to daughters at the earliest age possible and just tell them its a vitamin shot or something?
Rammy my answer is 100% no. I want my daughters to understand what the consequences can be of having sex. I don't just want them to have the shot I want them to be informed and have all the details that go along with it. It's not just about getting pregnant anymore and they need to be fully aware that it can be a life changing decision in so many ways.
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Kristin
03-29-2007 at 05:10 PM.
03-29-2007 at 05:10 PM.
Quote from Schly :
Pretty much everyone has this now. I guess if you KNOW you have it, it would be wise to let someone know about it, but it's one of those things that, if a girl is having unprotected sex with you after a short period of time, she's probably already picked it up from someone else and is trying to give it to you.
EEK! What?! Nono
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slickmint
03-29-2007 at 05:15 PM.
03-29-2007 at 05:15 PM.
All oral from now on?
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03-29-2007 at 05:20 PM.
03-29-2007 at 05:20 PM.
Stop being a male whore and you will not have to worry about this.
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Caydensmom
03-29-2007 at 05:23 PM.
03-29-2007 at 05:23 PM.
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All oral from now on?
Nono1 skin to skin contact can transfer it
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Gray.
03-29-2007 at 06:06 PM.
03-29-2007 at 06:06 PM.
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Trust me on this, you both are nice people~ Scorpioguy, you will like PG~ Play nice or I know a few lounge ladies that will be willing to spank ya!! Wink
It's simply frustrating to me that this is the second thread in which he decided to say something sarcastic to me today. He purposefully ignores what I say and accuses me of saying things that I never said, probably because he doesn't want to read it all.

I just get the feeling that he needs to always be right about everything and if he disagrees with you (or misunderstands you and thus thinks that he disagrees with you) then you become the object of his sarcasm and bad attitude.

Anyways, this is all I'm going to say about the subject. I'm done talking to him and about him after this post and I might end up ignoring him if he doesn't realize that just because a person words something differently than he'd like doesn't mean they're wrong. In this case, I am actually agreeing with everyone on the board, yet he still wants to pick a fight and try to belittle me because he doesn't take the time to understand what I am truly getting at.
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I am not making light of cervical cancer, scorpio.

All I am saying is that if you actually take care and get your pap done and be wise about things then HPV is EASILY TREATABLE. It is not CURABLE, but if you have it like I do and you do the right things, then you can still have a normal life... you can still have kids... you can still have a sex life. If you treat the HPV then it won't become cervical cancer! This thread is primarily about HPV, right? So God forbid that's what I was talking about!

Now for your ridiculous post ridiculing me for being upset about my nephrologist appointment but not being concerned about my own encounter with HPV, let me educate you on some stats:

There were 82,588 deaths in all patients undergoing End Stage Renal Disease treatment [in 2003].
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudis.../index.htm

According to the U.S. Cancer Statistics: 2003 Incidence and Mortality report, 11,820 women were diagnosed with cervical cancer in 2003, and 3,919 women died from the disease that same year.
http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/statistics/

Even the estimated mortality count for 2007 is considerably lower than those who were in End Stage Renal Disease in 2003 alone!
About 3,670 women will die from cervical cancer in the United States during 2007.
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/CRI...ncer_8.asp

So now am I justified for being more frightened about kidney disease than the potential for cervical cancer (which, by the way, has already been taken care of and I am being treated for it!)?

That's the last post I'm making that is in reply to you, Scorpio. I don't care to fight with you anymore. It's pointless.
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sassysour
03-29-2007 at 06:19 PM.
03-29-2007 at 06:19 PM.
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Brynn
03-29-2007 at 07:12 PM.
03-29-2007 at 07:12 PM.
Quote from Schly :
Pretty much everyone has this now. I guess if you KNOW you have it, it would be wise to let someone know about it, but it's one of those things that, if a girl is having unprotected sex with you after a short period of time, she's probably already picked it up from someone else and is trying to give it to you.
I agree that this is one ridiculous post. Again, falling back on the blanket statement that "pretty much everyone has it or will have it" doesn't mean it should be freely distributed without warning if someone does have it. Think about this... It wouldn't be so prevalent if more people were forthcoming if they knew they had it. This generation could help lessen the blow if everyone took responsibility. I say this in regards to *all* STDs. I think everyone should be tested and know what they are at risk for, and should take the responsibility of letting their partners or "hook-ups" know in advance.

Oh, and I don't think there's many people out there that will "try to give it to someone"
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03-29-2007 at 07:19 PM.
03-29-2007 at 07:19 PM.
If you know, I think you should tell.
On Oprah today the lady said as many as 80% of sexually active women have some form of hpv. That is a very high number. In a few years it will progressively get higher. You should do your part to stop that.
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Brynn
03-29-2007 at 07:21 PM.
03-29-2007 at 07:21 PM.
Quote from m. :
If you know, I think you should tell.
On Oprah today the lady said as many as 80% of sexually active women have some form of hpv. That is a very high number. In a few years it will progressively get higher. You should do your part to stop that.
Exactly. Some say that because the majority of the population already has it, and more will get it, it's not really a big deal. But stop and think... Would that be the case if those that knew they had it would let others know?
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03-29-2007 at 07:39 PM.
03-29-2007 at 07:39 PM.
Quote from scorpioguy :
oh u got meLMAO how about you talk sense and i will learn to read. i apologise for not being able to read nonsense.
scorpio. I realize what you're trying to say - "Hey its an important thing. It shouldn't be thought of 'lightly'."

I think what PG was trying to say with that, she was trying to compare the "severity" of it to something worse/better... She was NOT trying to say that HPV is "not a big deal" at all...

Hate to say this, but would "sense" as you put it, or just human rationale, dictate that there are some things worse than others... I mean that is to say that which one would you want to have... HPV or HIV? (that is if you were forced to pick one). They're both bad to have, but I'm willing to bet a weeks paycheck on the fact that you would pick HPV every time.

Once again, PG wasn't dictating that HPV is "not bad" - she was just trying to say that there are a LOT worse things out there... Like Malaria, HIV, Martha Stewart, Donald Trump's hair, and your inability to understand people's posts... (Sorry, you had the last one coming) Wink
It's all fun and giggles man, don't take it to heart.
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03-29-2007 at 08:26 PM.
03-29-2007 at 08:26 PM.
Quote from Schly :
Pretty much everyone has this now. I guess if you KNOW you have it, it would be wise to let someone know about it, but it's one of those things that, if a girl is having unprotected sex with you after a short period of time, she's probably already picked it up from someone else and is trying to give it to you.

Nono you are seriously joking, correct EEK!

I'm wayyyy older than you, and I've never been diagnosed with this, yet I know people who have been. One in particular was married, and her husband brought it home to her; she was faithful throughout the marriage; he was not; there was no other way she would have contracted it.

Women just don't pick this up indiscriminately from touching objects, here and there; it comes from sexual encounters, where the male is infected, if the female knows for sure she was not prior to the sexual encounter; take my example above for instance.

Tell me you weren't serious about that last part of your statement EEK!

STD's have seriously changed sexual encounters throughout the last couple of decades; unfortunately for young people; many still do not use condoms, nor are condoms necessarily 100% fool proof when it comes to STD's. There is always that skin-to-skin contact, and physical contact that comes into play well before a condom is ever put on that hard wood, remember that!
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