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28,148 544 May 23, 2007 at 09:32 AM in Finance (12)
My Method: after date numero uno: wait no less than 3 days before calling. [i]I went out monday last week, called her sunday. Always make first conversation after first date brief (2-3 minutes TOPS). I said had great time wednesday, how about yourself, quick small talk, and ended with a nice "hope we can get together again sometime soon if ya interested". she ends with a most definitely and said I would call her in a few days. NEVER call back less than AT LEAST a week, typically if they dont call by then, they arent/werent interested. Basically putting the ball somewhat in their court if they really want to get together SOONER rather than LATER. She called back today and said, "hey you never said when you want to get together again." Date 2 saturday nod

HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!

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05-23-2007 at 12:46 PM.
05-23-2007 at 12:46 PM.
<--- wasn't trying to be a smartass above
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05-23-2007 at 12:49 PM.
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Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
How did this work out for you 4 years ago? Perhaps you might consider changing your game plan with one with a long-term outlook Dontknow
Cheap shot. If my used car breaks down, should I quit looking on Autotrader? After all, "how did that work out for me?"
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05-23-2007 at 12:50 PM.
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wrong choice in woman, not wrong choice in how i went about it.
That's arguable, if the woman let you (and enjoy) play games to "bait her" like that, then you're altogether going for the wrong choice of women.

Not telling you how to live your life, just my 2c.

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05-23-2007 at 12:51 PM.
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Cheap shot. If my used car breaks down, should I quit looking on Autotrader? After all, "how did that work out for me?"
That's a material item and not the same thing at all. Your car doesn't have feelings and a mind. Caveney is older and one would hope wiser after these four years. To go back to 'tried and true' at this juncture when it didn't pan out the way he'd hoped is repeating the steps that led to this day to begin with.
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05-23-2007 at 12:52 PM.
05-23-2007 at 12:52 PM.
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i guess im immature... ohwell.. I achieve my goal in the end, so i will continue being so.
No, I'm saying that with the other person, if they're mature adults (not immature "kids" who want the cool bad-boy), they're not going to care if it's one day or three days later. If anything, calling back the next day will show that you're interested and are into her.....and she'll like it if she feels the same about you!Smilie
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05-23-2007 at 12:54 PM.
05-23-2007 at 12:54 PM.
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lol.....EXACTLY! With mature adults, there isn't a set "waiting period". If you like the other person, then call. If they like you, they'll call you. As with the ending of "Swingers", you can actually call someone before the set "3-day waiting period"! This mentality is like the "treat her crap and she'll want you more"-mentality. And where do these get you? Usually kicked to the curb!

Caveney,
There's a difference between calling a person 10-20 times per day and "smothering" them versus showing interest and giving that the girl/woman your attention. Because, EVERYONE loves attention...especially females!:)
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05-23-2007 at 12:55 PM.
05-23-2007 at 12:55 PM.
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That's arguable, if the woman let you (and enjoy) play games to "bait her" like that, then you're altogether going for the wrong choice of women.
its not a "game" as you put it.

go on a date #1

I make a call to check on how she feels it went a few days later, that i am interested and talk to her in a few days about getting together again. if she makes the initiative to call before I do, so be it. i dont just completely leave it hanging if i am interested, just give it a few days to give her a feeling im not pushing the envelope, and not trying to pressure her.

not seeing where this "game" comes into play. perhaps you can point it out Dontknow
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05-23-2007 at 12:55 PM.
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That's a material item and not the same thing at all. Your car doesn't have feelings and a mind. Caveney is older and one would hope wiser after these four years. To go back to 'tried and true' at this juncture when it didn't pan out the way he'd hoped is repeating the steps that led to this day to begin with.
Aren't you the one who says that if the woman is attracted to him, then it doesn't matter when he makes the phone calls? By that logic, he'd have married his ex wife whether he played "the game" or not.

By admitting that his marital outcome was affected by "the game" you're admitting that he bagged his ex wife using his method when he otherwise wouldn't have!
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05-23-2007 at 12:56 PM.
05-23-2007 at 12:56 PM.
Quote from Peachyum :
That's a material item and not the same thing at all. Your car doesn't have feelings and a mind. Caveney is older and one would hope wiser after these four years. To go back to 'tried and true' at this juncture when it didn't pan out the way he'd hoped is repeating the steps that led to this day to begin with.
i dont see how the way i approach/handle lining up a 2nd date with someone i am interested has anything to do with my ex-wife and how this is all of a sudden thrown into the mix......... Confused
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05-23-2007 at 12:56 PM.
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I actually agree with you! High Five
Have we disagreed a lot in the past? You sound so shocked!Smilie
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05-23-2007 at 12:59 PM.
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Ironic timing of the thread. A local radio show was discussing an interesting theory. "If there is no tongue kissing by the 3rd date, just end the relationship." No sparks = waste of time

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Caveney,
There's a difference between calling a person 10-20 times per day and "smothering" them versus showing interest and giving that girl/woman your attention. Because, EVERYONE loves attention...especially females!Smilie
This post may seem offensive, but there's no way to sugar coat this.

Tactics are different for attractive women and unattractive women. You think gorgeous women are dying for male attention? You think they swoon when some guy calls them on the phone? They're SICK of getting too much attention. It's a TURN OFF.

I don't know what kind of women you're looking for, but women that are in high demand aren't attracted to men who show them as much attention as everyone else.
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05-23-2007 at 01:00 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:00 PM.
Quote from z2g :
There's a difference between calling a person 10-20 times per day and "smothering" them versus showing interest and giving that the girl/woman your attention. Because, EVERYONE loves attention...especially females!Smilie
once "involved" with said woman, they do not experience any loss of the needed attention you bring up.
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05-23-2007 at 01:01 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:01 PM.
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Aren't you the one who says that if the woman is attracted to him, then it doesn't matter when he makes the phone calls? By that logic, he'd have married his ex wife whether he played "the game" or not.

By admitting that his marital outcome was affected by "the game" you're admitting that he bagged his ex wife using his method when he otherwise wouldn't have!
He's the one stating that his dating 'method' CONTINUES to not fail him even after being off the horse for 4 years. He's bringing what he's done in the past to the present. What I'm saying is that if he continues to not learn from past mistakes, he could wind up in the same position he's in now. It's always good to learn where we go wrong. Maybe it's not in his dating but in the attachement that occurs with dating. Who knows? Hopefully he'll stick around beyond his 19999 post and let us know.

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