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28,148 544 May 23, 2007 at 09:32 AM in Finance (12)
My Method: after date numero uno: wait no less than 3 days before calling. [i]I went out monday last week, called her sunday. Always make first conversation after first date brief (2-3 minutes TOPS). I said had great time wednesday, how about yourself, quick small talk, and ended with a nice "hope we can get together again sometime soon if ya interested". she ends with a most definitely and said I would call her in a few days. NEVER call back less than AT LEAST a week, typically if they dont call by then, they arent/werent interested. Basically putting the ball somewhat in their court if they really want to get together SOONER rather than LATER. She called back today and said, "hey you never said when you want to get together again." Date 2 saturday nod

HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!

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05-23-2007 at 01:02 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:02 PM.
Quote from Peachyum :
He's the one stating that his dating 'method' CONTINUES to not fail him even after being off the horse for 4 years. He's bringing what he's done in the past to the present. What I'm saying is that if he continues to not learn from past mistakes, he could wind up in the same position he's in now. It's always good to learn where we go wrong. Maybe it's not in his dating but in the attachement that occurs with dating. Who knows? Hopefully he'll stick around beyond his 19999 post and let us know.
but i dont see how my past ACTIONS have any entailing into my actual METHODS of the beginning of a dating a girl.. the two items do not coincide in any means.... so not sure where you are going with your post........
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05-23-2007 at 01:03 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:03 PM.
Perhaps your actions attract the wrong type of girl? Dontknow

What do I know? laugh out loud
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05-23-2007 at 01:04 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:04 PM.
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05-23-2007 at 01:04 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:04 PM.
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Perhaps your actions attract the wrong type of girl? Dontknow
or being i do the approaching and such that I am just choosing the wrong girl. has nothing to do with said methods used, but of my choice in the ladies I choose to hook up with.
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05-23-2007 at 01:05 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:05 PM.
Quote from caveney :
or being i do the approaching and such that I am just choosing the wrong girl. has nothing to do with said methods used, but of my choice in the ladies I choose to hook up with.
Perhaps the two go hand in hand. Only the wrong type of girl is interested in the games you play. Dontknow
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05-23-2007 at 01:07 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:07 PM.
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or being i do the approaching and such that I am just choosing the wrong girl. has nothing to do with said methods used, but of my choice in the ladies I choose to hook up with.
Sounds like the way Ahnil plays poker laugh out loud Sometimes pushing with Jacks is going to win!
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05-23-2007 at 01:08 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:08 PM.
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Perhaps the two go hand in hand. Only the wrong type of girl is interested in the games you play. Dontknow
well being EVERY time I have done so, I have always landed 2+ dates (100% success) it is the ladies I choose. I mean if I was to wait the way I do and then never get an answer when I call, or a 2nd date, I would say the route I am going may have flaws, but has yet to fail me, so obviously the girls I choose are the wrong ones? is this the conclusion I am supposed to draw from what you have posted? Please, give me advice then oh great dating doctor Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)

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05-23-2007 at 01:10 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:10 PM.
Quote from caveney :
its not a "game" as you put it.

go on a date #1

I make a call to check on how she feels it went a few days later, that i am interested and talk to her in a few days about getting together again. if she makes the initiative to call before I do, so be it. i dont just completely leave it hanging if i am interested, just give it a few days to give her a feeling im not pushing the envelope, and not trying to pressure her.

not seeing where this "game" comes into play. perhaps you can point it out Dontknow
I missed one part of it, the fact that if she doesn't call you back first then you're actually still going to call her, that takes away some of the "game" aspect of it. (I thought if she doesn't call you, it's over).

To my point of view, you just came out like "I play games, I call her and if she doesn't call me back, I'm too good for her"

For me, personally, if I liked a girl that I dated, I would ask for another date soon (sometimes even the next day). but again that's just my opinion (and several others).
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05-23-2007 at 01:12 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:12 PM.
Quote from IVIax :
I missed one part of it, the fact that if she doesn't call you back first then you're actually still going to call her, that takes away some of the "game" aspect of it. (I thought if she doesn't call you, it's over).

To my point of view, you just came out like "I play games, I call her and if she doesn't call me back, I'm too good for her"

For me, personally, if I liked a girl that I dated, I would ask for another date soon (sometimes even the next day). but again that's just my opinion (and several others).
i give it a roughly a week to lineup 2nd date conversation. and only twice (that I can recall) have i EVER had to be the one to call back. but yes, if i am really interested, i dont just say fk it and move on if i hear nothing.
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05-23-2007 at 01:15 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:15 PM.
Quote from caveney :
well being EVERY time I have done so, I have always landed 2+ dates (100% success) it is the ladies I choose. I mean if I was to wait the way I do and then never get an answer when I call, or a 2nd date, I would say the route I am going may have flaws, but has yet to fail me, so obviously the girls I choose are the wrong ones? is this the conclusion I am supposed to draw from what you have posted? Please, give me advice then oh great dating doctor Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
Patrick, you're young yet. You've lived through some things, yet you are still socially young. If you feel you have to mount an offensive or game plan at all in order to get a second date, etc., it should tell you where your mindset is at. As Z2G pointed out, mature adults just call if they like the person. No waiting. No preplanning manuevers. No worries of 'rushing it'. It boils down to two people who like each others company and want to see the other again. Period.

Bah!
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05-23-2007 at 01:16 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:16 PM.
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This post may seem offensive, but there's no way to sugar coat this.

Tactics are different for attractive women and unattractive women. You think gorgeous women are dying for male attention? You think they swoon when some guy calls them on the phone? They're SICK of getting too much attention. It's a TURN OFF.

I don't know what kind of women you're used to going after but when you're looking for, but women that are in high demand aren't attracted to men who show them as much attention as everyone else.
Believe me, when a female likes you (and they can be the HOTTEST woman in the world or the girl next door), you don't have to play these games. In the real world, mature women start looking for less superficial qualities in men (guy has to be hot, cool, a bad boy, etc.) and start wanting more important qualities (maturity, responsibility, compassion, sensitivity, being established, thoughtfulness, being a gentlemen, etc.).

I know that many guys swear by these "man-laws" regarding women. And, they often do work. However, note that they only work with immature girls (and I emphasize the word "girl"). With ALL the "studs" I've known in my life (and I've had many friends who fit the profile), they are all now single in their late 30's/early 40's. They are lonely and regretful of the mistakes they've made in life with their past women. ALL OF THEM have the same epiphany--that is, many of the women that loved them were "The One" and they threw it away due to their selfishness and childishness.

So, for the girls who fall for these ploys, I'd rather not date them anyways!
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05-23-2007 at 01:18 PM.
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Oh man.....that was a LONG time ago!
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05-23-2007 at 01:21 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:21 PM.
Quote from z2g :
Believe me, when a female likes you (and they can be the HOTTEST woman in the world or the girl next door), you don't have to play these games. In the real world, mature women start looking for less superficial qualities in men (guy has to be hot, cool, a bad boy, etc.) and start wanting more important qualities (maturity, responsibility, compassion, sensitivity, being established, thoughtfulness, being a gentlemen, etc.).

I know that many guys swear by these "man-laws" regarding women. And, they often do work. However, note that they only work with immature girls (and I emphasize the word "girl"). With ALL the "studs" I've known in my life (and I've had many friends who fit the profile), they are all now single in their late 30's/early 40's. They are lonely and regretful of the mistakes they've made in life with their past women. ALL OF THEM have the same epiphany--that is, many of the women that loved them were "The One" and they threw it away due to their selfishness and childishness.

So, for the girls who fall for these ploys, I'd rather not date them anyways!
best.post.ever! Great analysis, Z2G! My sentiments, exactly. There is nothing sadder than seeing an old 'playa' in the clubs trying to relive his youth or out driving his 'midlife crisis' around trying to impress the young girls. Some guys never grow up and end up living the life we've just described......
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05-23-2007 at 01:21 PM.
Quote from z2g :
Believe me, when a female likes you (and they can be the HOTTEST woman in the world or the girl next door), you don't have to play these games. In the real world, mature women start looking for less superficial qualities in men (guy has to be hot, cool, a bad boy, etc.) and start wanting more important qualities (maturity, responsibility, compassion, sensitivity, being established, thoughtfulness, being a gentlemen, etc.).

I know that many guys swear by these "man-laws" regarding women. And, they often do work. However, note that they only work with immature girls (and I emphasize the word "girl"). With ALL the "studs" I've known in my life (and I've had many friends who fit the profile), they are all now single in their late 30's/early 40's. They are lonely and regretful of the mistakes they've made in life with their past women. ALL OF THEM have the same epiphany--that is, many of the women that loved them were "The One" and they threw it away due to their selfishness and childishness.

So, for the girls who fall for these ploys, I'd rather not date them anyways!
its still NEVER been pointed out where this GAME is that im playing. I do not see how waiting it out gets labeled a game. I do not lie to them at any point. I do not leave them hanging in any form or fashion, I do not tease them. I am upfront, honest, just giving them space and saving the "smothering" for a few more dates down the road. I take them out, cover the "tab" whatever that may be. I then give it a few days, call and findout how they felt it went and said I will be in touch in a few days to set up a 2nd date if she sounds interested. I then receive the call myself in a few days out of them being impatient. I do not just leave them hanging with not knowing what is going on. Because they do not want to wait 5-6 days for me to call back, that is their choice. I still am just having a REAL HARD TIME figuring out where this term GAME[S] comes into play.....
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05-23-2007 at 01:22 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:22 PM.
Quote from z2g :
Believe me, when a female likes you (and they can be the HOTTEST woman in the world or the girl next door), you don't have to play these games. In the real world, mature women start looking for less superficial qualities in men (guy has to be hot, cool, a bad boy, etc.) and start wanting more important qualities (maturity, responsibility, compassion, sensitivity, being established, thoughtfulness, being a gentlemen, etc.).

I know that many guys swear by these "man-laws" regarding women. And, they often do work. However, note that they only work with immature girls (and I emphasize the word "girl"). With ALL the "studs" I've known in my life (and I've had many friends who fit the profile), they are all now single in their late 30's/early 40's. They are lonely and regretful of the mistakes they've made in life with their past women. ALL OF THEM have the same epiphany--that is, many of the women that loved them were "The One" and they threw it away due to their selfishness and childishness.

So, for the girls who fall for these ploys, I'd rather not date them anyways!
I sooo agree with everything in your post! woot
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