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May 23, 2007 at
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My Method: after date numero uno: wait no less than 3 days before calling. [i]I went out monday last week, called her sunday. Always make first conversation after first date brief (2-3 minutes TOPS). I said had great time wednesday, how about yourself, quick small talk, and ended with a nice "hope we can get together again sometime soon if ya interested". she ends with a most definitely and said I would call her in a few days. NEVER call back less than AT LEAST a week, typically if they dont call by then, they arent/werent interested. Basically putting the ball somewhat in their court if they really want to get together SOONER rather than LATER. She called back today and said, "hey you never said when you want to get together again." Date 2 saturday 
HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!
HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!
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Why do you want to keep the girl anxiously awaiting your call for 5-6 days, I understand your reasoning behind it "give them space" but at the same time, if you really liked her, you know you'd want to go out with her again (or see her sooner than in a week, IF you have time).
Also the strategy/game of calling her next day/in a few days, but saying "i'll call you later to set up a date" why not set it up right away, by telling her "hey ____, I had a blast last night, it'd be nice to get together again next weekend (or tomorrow or whenever), maybe I can call you closer to the weekend to set it up" instead you play a "game" by saying "hey ____, I had a blast last night, it'd be nice to get together again, I'll call you later" see the difference? you show interest in both versions, but in the first version you leave the girl feeling more "happy" if she likes you that she'll see you again in a few days/week/etc. instead of waiting by the phone for a week so that you could call and set up a date.
Maybe it's just the way it all reads, Patrick. It's like some covert operation. It's great that you call them back and don't let them hang, but, if the date was a really good one, why not call the next day and see how it went? Maybe she's wanting to hear from you sooner than a few days later. Just sayin.
You're only picking up the tab to be a gentleman and/or get in her pants. You buy flowers etc. for the same reason (while dating, lol, when married you buy them when you fark up).
But calling her once and leaving her hanging for another few days is playing a game. She doesn't need a week to see if she wants to go out with you again. She probably decided it right away after the date "I like him, I want to see him again" "I don't like him, never again" or "I don't know yet, another date would be nice for me to form an opinion"
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You're only picking up the tab to be a gentleman and/or get in her pants. You buy flowers etc. for the same reason (while dating, lol, when married you buy them when you fark up).
But calling her once and leaving her hanging for another few days is playing a game. She doesn't need a week to see if she wants to go out with you again. She probably decided it right away after the date "I like him, I want to see him again" "I don't like him, never again" or "I don't know yet, another date would be nice for me to form an opinion"
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My point was that you seem like you like this girl, and she liked you (and you "clicked" (couldn't find a better word) on the first date), why would you still play "games" with her? (and I use games very loosely here)
I also agree with z2g, that games only work on certain "girls" and probably not on more mature "women" but I think z2g was not only referring to your game, but games in general (correct me if I'm wrong).
This thread got waaaaay out of control.
Cav isnt going about this in any sort of malicious way, he is just pursuing this girl in the way he feels comfortable doing it. If he wants to call her based on a certain time period he feels comfortable with, thats cool. If he wants to call her the day after thats cool too. I personally wait a few days as well, I like the way cav is handling things and it looks like it works for him.
Me personally, i call usually on tuesday, why tuesday? Just because thats what I've always done.
Good luck with the babe Cav.
1. I think people might be seeing it as a game cuz you ended your post with "HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!"...so it's like you won something, kinda like fishing which is considered a game.
2.FYI to ALL men....WOMEN don't sit by the phone waiting for you to call, some of us actually have better things to do in those 3-7 days that you debate when it is or is not "too soon" to call us.
3. If I like a guy I'm going to call him weither he calls me or not, and if he didnt give me his number then he's not worth my time.
4. If there needs to be a RULE then nothing in the relationship will ever last or be real. Men just need to be themselves and cutout the BS. And if the women is so stuck on herself that if bothers her what day you call then she probally is not worth the trouble to begin with.
AND lastly your "dating method" is not really a dating method, more of your idea on how men think they need to pick up a chick. And also if this "Method" works so well and you've used it many of times, then why are you still single and looking for a date using the same "method"?? In other words maybe someone needs to post a dating "How to KEEP a women "method""
(nothing to do with you being married before, sometimes shit dont work out. I was referring to other then that ex)
1. I think people might be seeing it as a game cuz you ended your post with "HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!"...so it's like you won something, kinda like fishing which is considered a game.
2.FYI to ALL men....WOMEN don't sit by the phone waiting for you to call, some of us actually have better things to do in those 3-7 days that you debate when it is or is not "too soon" to call us.
3. If I like a guy I'm going to call him weither he calls me or not, and if he didnt give me his number then he's not worth my time.
4. If there needs to be a RULE then nothing in the relationship will ever last or be real. Men just need to be themselves and cutout the BS. And if the women is so stuck on herself that if bothers her what day you call then she probally is not worth the trouble to begin with.
AND lastly your "dating method" is not really a dating method, more of your idea on how men think they need to pick up a chick. And also if this "Method" works so well and you've used it many of times, then why are you still single and looking for a date using the same "method"?? In other words maybe someone needs to post a dating "How to KEEP a women "method""
(nothing to do with you being married before, sometimes shit dont work out. I was referring to other then that ex)
2. I understand that, but it's still in the back of your mind, and that's what i meant when I said that.
3. I agree
4. I agree 100%
comments after that: I see where he's coming from, and I don't agree with you. It's not a way to get in the sack with her, it's a way to get a 2nd date (in his mind).
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