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So My Wife Moved In With Her Boyfriend... (Update #211)
August 12, 2007 at
12:02 AM
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Well you can call her Strike Three cuz she is outta here!
The U-Haul came this morning. Since he doesn't want to tell his friends about me (she was told to lie and say she's been divorced for a couple of years), it was only him, her and me to load up the truck. I had all the boxes and furniture in the garage. Only the pictures and breakable stuff were in the house. I helped him load up the U-Haul (and we packed it full) without so much as a Thank You.
She has a real winner there.
For those that don't know... LINK
The U-Haul came this morning. Since he doesn't want to tell his friends about me (she was told to lie and say she's been divorced for a couple of years), it was only him, her and me to load up the truck. I had all the boxes and furniture in the garage. Only the pictures and breakable stuff were in the house. I helped him load up the U-Haul (and we packed it full) without so much as a Thank You.
She has a real winner there.For those that don't know... LINK
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No, really? Hadn't noticed.
Honestly, I'm done with the "I don't agree with Stealth" kick. But I will defend myself. So please keep on...makes for interest...no real deals anyway.
On the flip side, .... If I where you I would drive to their neighborhood and make a big scene. Stand outside of their place and scream insane stuff at the top of your lungs. "Please don't leave me. I don't want you to move out. I love you. I don't want a divorce. I can't believe you left me for another guy. Why can't we go to counseling?" They deserve it.
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Thanks to everyone who defended me.
Was it my actions in the marriage that caused her to cheat? I can see where that could be argued if you didn't know all the facts. But, maybe it's innate in her character and was inevitible regardless of anything I could have possibly done? Maybe it's because she likes to switch jobs, houses, cars, shoes, and men like changing the TV channel?
Several people are familiar with my history from previous posts I've made, at least what I've shared. And they've already formed an opinion of her, and each situation just helps solidify that opinion.
All I know is, I'm looking forward to happier times. I wish her and her kids the best, although I know she will most likely continue in the same pattern of behavior. My focus now is on taking care of my kids, and learning what I can from the experience and moving on.
Like I've said before, many of us read a story like this and associate it with our own personal experiences, which helps shape our opinion. So, JazzyMac, maybe you were in a similar situation but there was more to that story than was being told? I think you're letting your own experiences affect how you perceive what's going on here.
Determining who's "right" or "wrong" is a futile effort with futile results.
In any case, taking responsibility for your own actions is a deep-rooted value that I try to live by. If I were at fault, I would own up to it. I may not have been the perfect husband, but that doesn't give her the right to go screw around. The proper thing would have been for her to split up first, and then date this guy. He knew she was married as well. So you see, even though we can determine that they are both "wrong", it doesn't really matter. What's done is done. And I'll end up being happier for it, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
It's not because of any actions that you may have done in your marriage that might've been right or wrong that matters to me (because we all know that no one is perfect in a marriage), it's how well you talk about everything you are going through and the maturity that you display here that makes me respect you and think of you as a great person.
You haven't taken any cheap shots at anyone and have been much more mature than I probably would've been!
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It's called a different point of view. Whatever. We really don't need to resort to namecalling because I've had enough of that this weekend.
btw Troll: "An Internet troll, or simply troll in Internet slang, is someone who intentionally posts messages about sensitive topics constructed to cause controversy in an online community such as an online discussion forum in order to bait users into responding"
btw Troll: "An Internet troll, or simply troll in Internet slang, is someone who intentionally posts messages about sensitive topics constructed to cause controversy in an online community such as an online discussion forum in order to bait users into responding"
Ram: Please don't lie about me having a holier than thou attitude...that's just plain wrong--as a matter of fact, that's been my entire point!
Since the mods deleted me calling you a ______, but didn't delete you calling me a name: So by your definition, that would kind of make op a troll?
So, when are we hitting the strip clubs?
And I don't care if you were drinking every night and leaving the tp roll empty, it does not give her the right to cheat on you. If she was unhappy, she could have filed for divorce and then gone on to another man. I don't get ppl who cheat in a marriage. Do the vows mean that little to them?
And you are right, she will continue with her irresponsible ways until she gets some counseling or something. I feel sorry for the kids because it sounds like she is not setting a very good example of how a woman should behave.
I wish you peace in the coming months. I hope that you will come through this with some clarity and stronger than you were.
It's called a different point of view. Whatever. We really don't need to resort to namecalling because I've had enough of that this weekend.
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