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April 19, 2012 at
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Looking for opinions:
If you have a specific skill or trade do you feel it's okay with charging immediate family members for your labor/time. For example, if you are a mechanic, would you charge your son or daughter, father or mother for your labor? Or do you feel like since they're your family (and let's of course say for arguments sake that everyone likes each other and has a good relationship of course
) you should give your help where you're able to and leave it up to the person on the receiving end to give if they should feel inclined?
If you have a specific skill or trade do you feel it's okay with charging immediate family members for your labor/time. For example, if you are a mechanic, would you charge your son or daughter, father or mother for your labor? Or do you feel like since they're your family (and let's of course say for arguments sake that everyone likes each other and has a good relationship of course
) you should give your help where you're able to and leave it up to the person on the receiving end to give if they should feel inclined?
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He charges you because he knows you feel entitled to have the work done for free.
I don't express any sense of entitlement towards my father and am always appreciative of his help. That appreciate will also be shown as he enters his laters years and NEEDS help from his children. I won't just dump him in some retirement home and wash my hands of him, even if I would have the means to do so...some things you just don't do to family....that's my whole point.
I don't express any sense of entitlement towards my father and am always appreciative of his help. That appreciate will also be shown as he enters his laters years and NEEDS help from his children. I won't just dump him in some retirement home and wash my hands of him, even if I would have the means to do so...some things you just don't do to family....that's my whole point.
Btw, have you ever answered just what marketable skill you have to return to all of your friends and family members in return?
Like if he is using the shop, shop time, and shop tools/parts then maybe a labor rate is required?
Im not sure
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You get what you get and you don't throw a fit.
DH is co-owner of his office and gives nothing away for free, not even to my sister. She gets a discount, but there are costs involved in running a business and liking or loving the person you're working for doesn't make those costs go away.
maybe it's because i came from a blue collar family, but i feel much more like i should pay/recompense someone for physical labor than white collar work. i feel fine just picking up the tab next time we have dinner if my accountant friend helps me, but if my father in law helps with our landscaping, i definitely feel like i should pay him something. if my father were a mechanic, i don't think i'd expect him to work on my car for free unless it was something trivial (can be done in <10 minutes in casual clothes) or just showing me how to do something.
He charges you because he knows you feel entitled to have the work done for free.
I don't express any sense of entitlement towards my father and am always appreciative of his help. That appreciate will also be shown as he enters his laters years and NEEDS help from his children. I won't just dump him in some retirement home and wash my hands of him, even if I would have the means to do so...some things you just don't do to family....that's my whole point.
Btw, have you ever answered just what marketable skill you have to return to all of your friends and family members in return?
Btw - OP, we have a Tech Business and fix vehicles - I do NOT feel your pain at all
He charges you because he knows you feel entitled to have the work done for free.
Pay him, he's your father, for pete's sake! He raised, housed, clothed and fed you for 18 years (give or take, depending on your situation), the least you could do is pay him for his work. You're still getting it at a discount! Be happy he doesn't charge you full price.
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Basically, if it costs anything for a family member to help you or puts them out in any way they SHOULD be compensated accordingly. Or do you expect him to just fork over free parts and labor because you're his kid? Maybe you aren't ahead of a paying customer but the time he spends on your car could still be spent on a FULL paying customer. Get it??
Your parents are only responsible for you until you turn 18. I sincerely hope yours will all their money away to charity!