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So My Wife Moved In With Her Boyfriend... (Update #211)

8,512 793 August 12, 2007 at 12:02 AM in Sporting Goods
Well you can call her Strike Three cuz she is outta here!

The U-Haul came this morning. Since he doesn't want to tell his friends about me (she was told to lie and say she's been divorced for a couple of years), it was only him, her and me to load up the truck. I had all the boxes and furniture in the garage. Only the pictures and breakable stuff were in the house. I helped him load up the U-Haul (and we packed it full) without so much as a Thank You. Roll Eyes (Sarcastic) She has a real winner there.

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Jex
08-12-2007 at 01:39 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:39 PM.
You should have just sat her crap on the lawn and said fetch.
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Gray.
08-12-2007 at 01:40 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:40 PM.
Quote from caveat depascor :
I completely agree that there is more to the story. However, we internet addicts here in the lounge often hear one sided stories and are still able to offer support, condolences, congratulations, or advice as the situation dictates. As a matter of fact, this is what people do in real life as well. A person seeking counsel among friends in a situation like this is not likely to receive a response like "I'll get back to you after I talk to your wife and her boyfriend."
I completely agree. This is exactly what I was trying to say. Smilie
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SlickChik
08-12-2007 at 01:42 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:42 PM.
Quote from JazzyMac :
I'm only acting like a jerk because (you don't know me) I'm disagreeing with the entire thread. If one of you "friends" had disagreed, it wouldn't be a big deal.
Rofl2

I'm done.
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Gray.
08-12-2007 at 01:43 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:43 PM.
Quote from JazzyMac :
I know, I know...just because I disagree with someone who insinuates he's completely innocent of any wrongdoing in the relationship makes me dramatic and rude...

Sorry.

STEALTH, you're perfect guy. You did nothing to deserve this. hug
Also, if you fully read the other thread, you would notice that Stealth made comments that does not make him guilty of what I bolded.

But that would make you have to read about the subject before you have to come to any conclusions... and I don't know WHY anyone would educate themselves on a subject before making those judgments....
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JazzyMac
08-12-2007 at 01:43 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:43 PM.
Quote from caveat depascor :
I completely agree that there is more to the story. However, we internet addicts here in the lounge often hear one sided stories and are still able to offer support, condolences, congratulations, or advice as the situation dictates. As a matter of fact, this is what people do in real life as well. A person seeking counsel among friends in a situation like this is not likely to receive a response like "I'll get back to you after I talk to your wife and her boyfriend."
Oh...but usually irl they know the things that happened and can still side. Somehting along these lines:

"She still hasn't forgiven you for sleeping with her best friend last year??!!!! That bitch! You've apologized over and over, she should get over it!"

Not these lines:

"She moved out of the house with another guy...for no reason? Man, that bites."
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JazzyMac
08-12-2007 at 01:45 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:45 PM.
Quote from PassionateGray :
Also, if you fully read the other thread, you would notice that Stealth made comments that does not make him guilty of what I bolded.

But that would make you have to read about the subject before you have to come to any conclusions... and I don't know WHY anyone would educate themselves on a subject before making those judgments....
I read the first 3-5 pages (extended posts), with him not admitting to anything...and then came back to 15 pages. No, I'm not going to sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" to find out what he said. laugh out loud
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whit
08-12-2007 at 01:46 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:46 PM.
Did you even read the previous post?? When she was dating the other guy???
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Melmo
08-12-2007 at 01:46 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:46 PM.
you are a strong man. I couldn't help my husband move out if he had cheated on me.
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TigerStar
08-12-2007 at 01:47 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:47 PM.
Quote from JazzyMac :
I read the first 3-5 pages (extended posts), with him not admitting to anything...and then came back to 15 pages. No, I'm not going to sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" to find out what he said. laugh out loud
So you would rather ASSUME that he said he was in no way responsible?
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JazzyMac
08-12-2007 at 01:50 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:50 PM.
Quote from TigerStar :
So you would rather ASSUME that he said he was in no way responsible?
Why wait until hundreds of posts to explain, "oh by the way, I may have contributed by _____"?

But now I know I was right. And if he has admitted to some wrongdoing, why are you guys harping on me and not him?

Quote from TigerStar :
So you would rather ASSUME that he said he was in no way responsible?
Rather than sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" posts to get through to what he did?

I understand you didn't see my other post, so I repeated myself. Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
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ElectroWolf
08-12-2007 at 01:51 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:51 PM.
Quote from JazzyMac :
I accept myself for what I am...not a someone who is perfect, knows all, etc. I posted something about an incident with someone, but did I come off as "I did nothing--poor innocent me" (????)
Um, lets see...here's your post on that thread:

Quote from JazzyMac :
I did a search to see if a thread was made about this. I'm a female, and through a series of posts, I'll explain a [sarc]friendly/sarc] im chat with this chick who (obviously) doesn't like me. I am 28 years old, don't care about any of this and am absolutely amazed that someone is insecure enough to want to start a fight.

Now, I've been told that I'm much more mature than my peers--whatever that may be. Most of my girlfriends don't just want to start fights either, and neither do most normal people!

So, after falling into this momentary trap, I've deduced that she is upset or jealous because of some "wrong" I've obviously did to her. But, why are females soooooo...damn catty?

Cool
Now, after reading that, yes, you did come across as quite the "I'm innocent and perfect with regards to this situation" person. I'm not saying your post was wrong in that thread by any means. By all means, you could be completely innocent and just had some random girl all of a sudden hate you and want to fight with you, when you yourself did nothing to provoke it.

But, by the same sense as your post in this thread, there could be PLENTY more to the story that you never told us - such as, you calling this person a Bitch while at Walmart shopping for videogames, and they took the last copy of Super Mario Brothers.

The point is, we don't know the other side of the story. But, just as Stealth comes across as the innocent party in this thread, so did you in your thread. There is NO justifyable reason to call him out in this thread. As someone stated, we KNOW he's not perfect. A divorce is always a 2-party deal. We're sure they have had their arguments, setbacks, etc. But what we also KNOW is that she cheated on him, and he didn't create this thread to say "poor me, I want to die, lets all kill Stealth". He came across as "For all of you [my friends], here's what's going on in my life, and here's a status update for you.

That is ALL. No need to call him out on something that you are assuming could be the case.
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caveat depascor
08-12-2007 at 01:51 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:51 PM.
Quote from JazzyMac :
Oh...but usually irl they know the things that happened and can still side. Somehting along these lines:

"She still hasn't forgiven you for sleeping with her best friend last year??!!!! That bitch! You've apologized over and over, she should get over it!"

Not these lines:

"She moved out of the house with another guy...for no reason? Man, that bites."
IRL and on the internet, we are very rarely presented with a full and unbiased story. We are left to make conclusions based on the credibility of the source. If presenting a full, unslanted story was requiste, there would be no point to conversing, IRL or virtually.
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Saxidani
08-12-2007 at 01:51 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:51 PM.
Quote from Melmo :
you are a strong man. I couldn't help my husband move out if he had cheated on me.

He must be very strong. If my boyfriend cheated on me.... I'd help him move.. I'd throw his crap out the second story window onto the lawn.
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TigerStar
08-12-2007 at 01:53 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:53 PM.
Quote from JazzyMac :
Why wait until hundreds of posts to explain, "oh by the way, I may have contributed by _____"?

But now I know I was right. And if he has admitted to some wrongdoing, why are you guys harping on me and not him?
Hmm, let's see, maybe because his wife was just caught cheating on him. I'm betting the first thing on his mind wasn't "Gee, maybe my past behavior caused her to let some guy stick his dick in her."

Quote :
Rather than sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" posts to get through to what he did?

I understand you didn't see my other post, so I repeated myself. Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
Hmm, let's see, maybe because his wife was just caught cheating on him. I'm betting the first thing on his mind wasn't "Gee, maybe my past behavior caused her to let some guy stick his dick in her."
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Gatorbears
08-12-2007 at 01:54 PM.
08-12-2007 at 01:54 PM.
For anyone posting here, not interested in doing any research beforehand.
Quote from stealth :
You are right. There are two sides to every story (well, 3 including the lover). And, the kids have their perspectives, too!

Here's what she told me. I'm not supportive of her, and I don't spend enough time with her. I push her away. It's my fault she did this. EEK!

I know I wasn't the perfect husband, and I regret that. I'm not going to be getting into any more serious relationships anytime soon.
Quote from stealth :
I guess I still have some feelings for her, and want her to be happy. I have to shoulder some of the responsibility for not creating an atmosphere where she was happy in our marriage. I also talked to the kids about it. They are handling it very well. They already knew. We all agree that it will be a time of mixed emotions. And I let them know that they can talk to me about anything they're feeling. nod
Quote from stealth :
We had both been cheated on in our previous marriages.

We met long after being divorced on both sides.
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