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I'm so pissed at DBF anyone care to give insight as to a man's thinking?
December 16, 2009 at
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In March,before we were officially dating,I found naked pictures of this girl on his phone. I got incredibly pissed and confronted him about them. He said we weren't officially dating although we were exclusive so I couldn't get mad at him bc I didn't know what I wanted to do. Fast forward until now, he's been still talking to her and texting her,I've known it all along and I've expressed to him how much I don't like him talking to her etc. He always brings back the part that we weren't "dating" when she sent the pics,and since we've been dating she hasn't sent him any racy pics. I've been trying to be patient and understanding about it but I'm really insecure about this whole situation and I've told him how I feel,but it still does no good. Am I acting irrationally? Do I have a reason to be upset about him still talking to her etc? She's on his facebook and they chit chat alot,but yet he asked me to remove my ex because he didn't like it,and I did because I didn't want him to feel threatened or insecure about it. It gets to the point that when I see her posting in response to him that I clinch my fists because it makes me so mad.
In March,before we were officially dating,I found naked pictures of this girl on his phone. I got incredibly pissed and confronted him about them. He said we weren't officially dating although we were exclusive so I couldn't get mad at him bc I didn't know what I wanted to do. Fast forward until now, he's been still talking to her and texting her,I've known it all along and I've expressed to him how much I don't like him talking to her etc. He always brings back the part that we weren't "dating" when she sent the pics,and since we've been dating she hasn't sent him any racy pics. I've been trying to be patient and understanding about it but I'm really insecure about this whole situation and I've told him how I feel,but it still does no good. Am I acting irrationally? Do I have a reason to be upset about him still talking to her etc? She's on his facebook and they chit chat alot,but yet he asked me to remove my ex because he didn't like it,and I did because I didn't want him to feel threatened or insecure about it. It gets to the point that when I see her posting in response to him that I clinch my fists because it makes me so mad.
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She isn't an ex.supposedly she's just a friend.I've never had friends send me naked pictures though so I don't see how he classifies her as just a friend.
You are still lonely- and you think somehow trying to kick out the chic he's seen naked is going to fix that...
KNOCK-KNOCK, HELLO- is there anyone in there???
Let's see...
You've barely been dating...
He doesn't listen to your feelings- even when it matters.
He doesn't CARE if he's hurting you.
He has other women he's involved with (at whatever level)
Do you REALLY see this guy as a potential mate for the rest of your life?
What did you do to the ex? He's still quoting you from Thanksgiving past? Uh... Again, HELLO- he's still crushing on you. Guys don't pull that crap unless they wanna get in your pants. They don't sit around their buds and reminisce about your quotes of old, you don't rank even on their radar- unless they WANT you.
Do I have guy friends? Sure. They ALL want something- though I'm long married and most are friends with dh... They still want something- usually these days it's my cooking not my booty. (though not saying they wouldn't take that if it was offered)
Dh's girl friends- are MY friends. My friends- operate on 'girl code' where my guys are definitely off limits even with an invite. (believe me- I've donated a few though my girls wouldn't take them). Other than that- his sister and mother are it.
My husband is allowed to receive naked pics from women- yep...
In his own house, while he pays alimony, palimony, CS, and for upsetting me.
OR if they are not human.
If he decides he wants that- not only will I let him do it- but, I'll laugh all the way to the bank. Old men are NOT hot commodities these days.
She isn't an ex.supposedly she's just a friend.I've never had friends send me naked pictures though so I don't see how he classifies her as just a friend.
Lovers do not need to be 100% of each others worlds, however if he KNOWS it pisses you off and still does it, that's a horrible sign that he (doesn't) likes you.
Also - it doesn't sound like you two are good for each other anyway if you have all this jealousy - you're not ready for a real thing yet......kick him out, and bang some random guys, try again in a year.
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As for him still talking to her, he might be keeping her around just in case he could hook up again.
BUT...
Maybe not because he isn't hiding it from you. If he was hiding it, you should be concerned.
Lovers do not need to be 100% of each others worlds, however if he KNOWS it pisses you off and still does it, that's a horrible sign that he (doesn't) likes you.
Also - it doesn't sound like you two are good for each other anyway if you have all this jealousy - you're not ready for a real thing yet......kick him out, and bang some random guys, try again in a year.
Have you asked him if they ever did the wild thing?
BTW - Is she hawt? I'll need pics to confirm.
mmkthx
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As for him still talking to her, he might be keeping her around just in case he could hook up again.
BUT...
Maybe not because he isn't hiding it from you. If he was hiding it, you should be concerned.