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Question about the threesome

1,436 50 September 10, 2010 at 09:48 AM in Chat
Let's say if you are going to have a threesome, is it true that the third person better be a stranger?

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travisshyn
09-10-2010 at 04:07 PM.
09-10-2010 at 04:07 PM.
whose culture is "our culture"?
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itxtwhlstdrvng
09-10-2010 at 04:18 PM.
09-10-2010 at 04:18 PM.
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whose culture is "our culture"?
The general one found throughout our society. I was specifically talking about the United States.
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SDRebel
09-10-2010 at 04:25 PM.
09-10-2010 at 04:25 PM.
Quote from wiles :
boys are soooooo scared of MMF 3somes but are all YEAH for FFM 3somes
laugh out loud of course...
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travisshyn
09-10-2010 at 04:34 PM.
09-10-2010 at 04:34 PM.
Quote from itxtwhlstdrvng :
The general one found throughout our society. I was specifically talking about the United States.
I know. I'm just being an a$$. Sorry. Big Grin
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The Raddish
09-10-2010 at 04:58 PM.
09-10-2010 at 04:58 PM.
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Do people actually have threesomes? I thought it was a porn thing.
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Yep, people have them quite often. You might be surprised how common it has become.



OP, I see no particular reason that the third need be a stranger. If it's someone you both know and enjoy being around, then there's also no reason it be a one time thing, either. Dontknow
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MsGal
09-10-2010 at 05:16 PM.
09-10-2010 at 05:16 PM.
Quote from The Raddish :
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Yep, people have them quite often. You might be surprised how common it has become.



OP, I see no particular reason that the third need be a stranger. If it's someone you both know and enjoy being around, then there's also no reason it be a one time thing, either. Dontknow
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Dollars to doughnuts says there's a story there. laugh out loud
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.teri.
09-10-2010 at 05:23 PM.
09-10-2010 at 05:23 PM.
Quote from The Raddish :
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Yep, people have them quite often. You might be surprised how common it has become.



OP, I see no particular reason that the third need be a stranger. If it's someone you both know and enjoy being around, then there's also no reason it be a one time thing, either. Dontknow
You talk like it's a new concept.
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Dollars to doughnuts says there's a story there. laugh out loud
Please don't press him for details Roll
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MsGal
09-10-2010 at 05:25 PM.
09-10-2010 at 05:25 PM.
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Please don't press him for details Roll

EEK! Are you kidding me??? I'm classier than that. Nono2



















I was gonna ask for video. Roll
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MissyMooMoo
09-10-2010 at 07:32 PM.
09-10-2010 at 07:32 PM.
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LMAO that is the funniest thing I've read today. Do you think sex has changed so much that someone in their 40's has never heard of/though of or had sex outside the man+woman relationship? Did you ever hear of the 60's where everything was about the orgy?

Maybe, just maybe they are trying to give some insight based on life experience. in any case what goes on in a bedroom (or where ever you play) is personal. If you decide on a threesome, make sure you are very secure in your relationship if you are married or in a relationship. you have to be prepared to see your man/woman with another person and if they enjoy it too much, or if the other person is hotter than you, etc etc it can cause problems. Not that I would know because I'm old Rolleyes

Exactly what I was trying to say. You say it so much better than me!


Been there, thought that, found out the truth. Someday, she will get older and discover the truth too. Hopefully, her man doesn't find another woman more interesting in the mean time.
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AbbyGabby
09-10-2010 at 08:34 PM.
09-10-2010 at 08:34 PM.
Quote from MissyMooMoo :
Been there, thought that, found out the truth. Someday, she will get older and discover the truth too. Hopefully, her man doesn't find another woman more interesting in the mean time.
There you go again, suggesting/assuming that every couple who chooses to do these kinds of things is destined for failure. Or perhaps it's just the couples who are younger? I'm young and dumb right now, so I don't know any better? Who are you to judge what I'm capable of? You're older than me, so you know how it goes huh? Where is the formal study that was done on married couples that came up with these failure rates you are implying?

You assume that these decisions are made lightly. Adults are capable of weighing the pros and cons of this kind of thing. If there is trust and honesty and open communication in a relationship, it is entirely possible for this kind of thing to work. I'm just sorry you're so closed-minded that you can't see that. Oh that's right. You're not closed-minded. I'm young and disillusioned and will one day "grow up" and realize my marriage is a sham. Right.

And for the record, DH and I are not swingers. We do not regularly invite others to join us. In fact, in our entire 5+ years together, we have never done that. I'm just trying to point out how skewed some of the opinions in this thread are. People seem to think that being in a relationship means that sex should be had with your spouse and only your spouse. I'm trying to present the other side of the coin here. That's all. Just because you aren't cool with your husband being with another woman doesn't mean there aren't women out there who feel differently, and who are adult enough to participate in that sort of thing.
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09-10-2010 at 08:37 PM.
09-10-2010 at 08:37 PM.
Young chicks are so cute and naive! Blush
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09-10-2010 at 08:38 PM.
09-10-2010 at 08:38 PM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
Young chicks are so cute and naive! Blush
Look, I've got a little bit of Last Word Syndrome. Don't get me started, it's late and I'm already half-asleep. I don't feel like arguing this anymore! laugh out loud

And I'm not naive. It might fail more than it works, but I'm here to tell you - I personally know that it can (and does) work sometimes. It just takes certain kinds of people.
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09-10-2010 at 08:39 PM.
09-10-2010 at 08:39 PM.
Convince us you have the power to encourage DH to visit the nether regions on a regular basis then you'll get the cougars on board to believe your relationship can survive a threesome Wink
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09-10-2010 at 08:44 PM.
09-10-2010 at 08:44 PM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
Convince us you have the power to encourage DH to visit the nether regions on a regular basis then you'll get the cougars on board to believe your relationship can survive a threesome Wink
I'm not the one who is uncomfortable with the idea. But I respect his feelings on the subject, and he knows if he ever wants to try it, he can speak up and tell me so. Because we trust each other. We are honest with each other. We can tell each other anything without fear of judgement.
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09-10-2010 at 08:46 PM.
09-10-2010 at 08:46 PM.
I think your defensive shields are a bit too high there Captain, most of the girls on board were providing examples of reasons not to (some from experience, some from 2nd hand knowledge). I didn't think they were being overtly judgemental.
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