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I'm so pissed at DBF anyone care to give insight as to a man's thinking?

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In March,before we were officially dating,I found naked pictures of this girl on his phone. I got incredibly pissed and confronted him about them. He said we weren't officially dating although we were exclusive so I couldn't get mad at him bc I didn't know what I wanted to do. Fast forward until now, he's been still talking to her and texting her,I've known it all along and I've expressed to him how much I don't like him talking to her etc. He always brings back the part that we weren't "dating" when she sent the pics,and since we've been dating she hasn't sent him any racy pics. I've been trying to be patient and understanding about it but I'm really insecure about this whole situation and I've told him how I feel,but it still does no good. Am I acting irrationally? Do I have a reason to be upset about him still talking to her etc? She's on his facebook and they chit chat alot,but yet he asked me to remove my ex because he didn't like it,and I did because I didn't want him to feel threatened or insecure about it. It gets to the point that when I see her posting in response to him that I clinch my fists because it makes me so mad.
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12-16-2009 at 11:47 AM.
12-16-2009 at 11:47 AM.
Quote from Jengo :
Sure it's up to ya'll. I've got alot of great advice so I think I'm all set in what I'm going to do.
are you gonna post a pic of yourself?
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12-16-2009 at 11:51 AM.
12-16-2009 at 11:51 AM.
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So what are you going to do?
I'm going to calmly and firmly talk to him about this again. I'm going to tell him how I feel,etc. I'm going to let him know AGAIN that him talking to her bothers me. I'm going to tell him that it doesn't matter if she sent the naked pics before we were together or not,the ties with her should be severed as she crossed over the line. I'm going to remind him of how I handled the situation when he became jealous and uncertain about my ex. I'm hoping that he'll see my POV and stop talking to her like he did before. If he doesn't think I'm really going to rethink my relationship with him. I don't want to break up with him,but if things can't be resolved and he's being stubborn about it then maybe he isn't the person for me.


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are you gonna post a pic of yourself?
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12-16-2009 at 11:51 AM.
12-16-2009 at 11:51 AM.
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I don't think she's horrendous. She's certainly not my type (if I were a guy or BG), but she's not terrible. Also, you have to remember that if a guy sees a spread eagle pic of a girl with a decent body (which she appeared to have), he's not worried about her face anymore. laugh out loud
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12-16-2009 at 11:58 AM.
12-16-2009 at 11:58 AM.
eh not my best pic but whatever...
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12-16-2009 at 11:59 AM.
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I don't think she's horrendous. She's certainly not my type (if I were a guy or BG), but she's not terrible. Also, you have to remember that if a guy sees a spread eagle pic of a girl with a decent body (which she appeared to have), he's not worried about her face anymore. laugh out loud
I think she's ugly. Lol,but ofcourse I don't like her so that could be why. She just has a horse face to me or something. She looks like she could be dude....
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12-16-2009 at 12:00 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:00 PM.
I missed the picture awwwww come on
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12-16-2009 at 12:03 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:03 PM.
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You do know Autumn is reading this thread, right? We like to call her "big boned."
You're such a bitch Rofl2 I heart you.

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My eyes are still bleeding from the "classic" view, I don't want to guoge them out by even thinking of that idea!
Annoyed I thought we were BFF's Sadwalk
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12-16-2009 at 12:04 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:04 PM.
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Annoyed I thought we were BFF's Sadwalk
Did you get a name change?
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12-16-2009 at 12:04 PM.
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Quote from Jengo :
I'm going to calmly and firmly talk to him about this again. I'm going to tell him how I feel,etc. I'm going to let him know AGAIN that him talking to her bothers me. I'm going to tell him that it doesn't matter if she sent the naked pics before we were together or not,the ties with her should be severed as she crossed over the line. I'm going to remind him of how I handled the situation when he became jealous and uncertain about my ex. I'm hoping that he'll see my POV and stop talking to her like he did before. If he doesn't think I'm really going to rethink my relationship with him. I don't want to break up with him,but if things can't be resolved and he's being stubborn about it then maybe he isn't the person for me.
Best idea ever...nod Like I said before, just sit back, calm down, and think it out.
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I don't think she's horrendous. She's certainly not my type (if I were a guy or BG), but she's not terrible. Also, you have to remember that if a guy sees a spread eagle pic of a girl with a decent body (which she appeared to have), he's not worried about her face anymore. laugh out loud
Mad Don't judge me, you don't know my type. Ermm

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eh not my best pic but whatever...
I think you are pretty and deserve better..hug
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12-16-2009 at 12:06 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:06 PM.
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can we still stay OT?
Why not, I'm sure OP's BF is thinking about OPP OT. Yawn (sorry)
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12-16-2009 at 12:06 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:06 PM.
hug Thanks BG Smilie

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Why not, I'm sure OP's BF is thinking about OPP OT. Yawn (sorry)
Bonk Too soon...atleast wait until the 8th page before you go there....

although I did giggle Blush
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12-16-2009 at 12:22 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:22 PM.
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eh not my best pic but whatever...
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12-16-2009 at 12:22 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:22 PM.
So pics of the other chick?
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12-16-2009 at 12:25 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:25 PM.
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Saved for PM'ing TS's wife.
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12-16-2009 at 12:29 PM.
12-16-2009 at 12:29 PM.
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Saved for PM'ing TS's wife.
laugh out loud
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